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suspicious about DH

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worriedsick77 · 20/05/2019 11:38

NC for this. I've found something on DH's laptop that makes me worry he's been up to no good. I need to talk to him about it. He's a pilot and he's away with work until Friday. I could ring him, he's not flying right now. I don't want to put him off his job though, whether I am right or wrong, I don't want to put him and has passengers/crew in danger when he flies later if he's distracted and worried sick about this (either about me being wrong, or him being caught). Please help me sit on my hands until he comes home. I don't want to discuss what I found, I'm not ready to do that on here. I just need help to calm down until it's the right time to discuss it.

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MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 21/05/2019 12:10

You need to talk-don’t bother with digging just talk to him-you will know if he is lying to you.Flowers

Nearlythere1 · 21/05/2019 13:08

@MrsElijah i'm sorry but that's terrible advice. The man has previous for cheating, may be an accomplished liar, and nobody ever fesses up straight away, especially with only one obscure photo as evidence.

Dino4123 · 21/05/2019 17:53

Boobirdblue.. stop picking on other posters... there are some real nasty people on here that need to grow up. Childish..

Rosie16 · 21/05/2019 18:03

Jeeeesus. I was 19. I think some people need to chill out on here and stop making judgements about people without knowing facts. I had a fling with a guy at uni at 19 years old. I snogged him on a night out.. I didn’t shag him. This was before me and my then bf we’re engaged. We were on a bit of a break at as we lived a long way apart. Shouldn’t have to justify this to someone I don’t even fucking know though. Was just trying to suggest that this guy might not have cheated on OP just because he had something going on with his ex a long time ago. It wasn’t meant to be about me ffs. Confused

Backinthebox · 21/05/2019 19:02

When I’m at work (as a pilot) we often set up a WhatsApp group so we can arrange to meet for dinner as a crew, especially if it’s a longer trip as it’s a bit unhealthy to sit on your own in your room all trip eating room service. You do get some inanely junvenile behaviour on these groups. I’ve been on a group when one member of the crew sent a photo of himself sitting naked in his bath to the group. I’ve also been in a group where one of the crew thought it hilarious to send a photo of a particular bottle of wine to the group saying this wine was really nice and the hotel had it in the restaurant, had anyone else had it tonight? Alongside the bottle was a penis. He thought he was being funny and wondered how many people would notice the penis 🙄. And I’ve had some scary photos of drag queens added to groups because members were trying to out-queen each other. I realised early on that it’s best to just make sure you’ve stopped your phone automatically adding WhatsApp photos to your camera roll - it took me ages to figure out how the photo of the man in the bath got onto my phone! I hadn’t really been paying attention much to that WhatsApp group as they were very chatty and it moved too fast for me to read every bit of it. I’d been in my room revising for exams. Now imagine my husband had found the man in bath pic and asked me where it came from. I had no idea at the time.

I would take a guess at OP’s husband’s photo being from a WhatsApp group. It will be disconcerting, but does not automatically mean he has been up to anything. The only thing you can guarantee is that every time there’s a mention of pilots on MN someone pops up and says ‘ooh, pilots, they are all shagging anything that moves the second they arrive at a foreign hotel.’ All I’m saying is I must have blinked and missed this. I’ve been in the job for over 20 years and not noticed it being like the kind of orgy some MNers seem to think it is.

Ginger1982 · 21/05/2019 19:18

Is it a selfie that the woman has taken of herself or has someone else taken it?

usernameuser · 21/05/2019 19:58

Is it a selfie that the woman has taken of herself or has someone else taken it?

This has been asked several times but OP has disappeared. Hope she's ok ☹️

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 22/05/2019 16:29

Only on MN can advising someone to talk to their husband be considered the worst advice in the world...hope you’re ok OP though am thinking that the silence may be indicative of issues-Flowers

ApostleLover · 25/05/2019 15:33

Did you get to the bottom of this OP?

SunshineCake · 25/05/2019 20:39

How are things, @worriedsick77?

babyno5 · 09/06/2019 21:21

Hope you're doing OK OP xxx

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