To not be able to do a no 2 if my DP is anywhere near the bathroom? How do you get over this?

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DP and I have been together 3 years and I still can't go if I'm not absolutely alone ie DP has to be Far Far Away in a different part of whatever house or flat we're in. I feel almost panicky and extremely tense unless I'm completely alone. So just can't go, which isn't exactly great for health.

Ensuites are awful for this. I live in a shared house in London with an en suite which is great when I'm here alone, not so much when my beloved is with me. It's fine when in DP's own place due to layout of house and nobody else being around either.

Who else finds en suites awful?

Is it making a smell you are worried about? That Vipoo stuff is amazing!

Meh. I'll sit pooping and chat to dh while doing so. Toilet doors only get shut in this house if you are experiencing something terrible!

I go to the loo with my DP in the room. We all poo I don’t get the fuss

Does your DP not use the loo at all? Is he magic? Or does he poo just like the rest of us? Am really baffled by this, tbh - are you worried about him finding out that you - have bodily functions? Like every single other human being on the planet?

I'm actually the same and were married with a toddler and another on the way 💩 I don't know what it is but if I think he can even hear me go I freak. Bloody hotel rooms mean I have to come up with excuses! 😂 to be fair it's not just DH, I don't like anyone knowing I'm going 2sies..

Eurgh, I’ve been with my DH for 18 years and there’s no way I could go to the toilet in front of him. Door closed and preferably not listening, thanks. And that includes wee!

So I sympathise OP. If he’s nearby, could you run a tap, or flush the loo, to give yourself a bit of sound privacy?

I've been with DP for 8 years and I still haven't farted in front of him so I feel your pain. Childbirth is going to be interesting later this year...

Why would you want to poo in front of other people? I'm not bothered about him being nearby tho but the door stays shut!

Put some loo roll down in the pan and there will be no noise. Afterwards spray a bit of air freshener, all good!

I’m guessing you don’t have children yet. That changes everything

I'm the same as you op. Lucky for us we have 3 toilets but I guarantee you every time dp is busy I'll sneak off to the toilet and 9/10 he will come looking for me to ask questions through the door. Ggrrr piss off

@DobbysLeftSock that made me proper chuckle 🤣 same in this house, I feel we may be in the minority though!

VIpoo is your friend odour wise.

My grandson four years old and my youngest 17 are just the same. They slope off to the furthest loo and lock the door, I leave them to it.

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I was like this in the beginning but got over it quickly. When you're living with someone it becomes unavoidable that you're going to have to poo around them. Having kids with someone makes you more comfortable around them too in my experience. I'm not sure why, maybe because they've seen another side to you and pregnancy and parenting small children can be intense and intimate.

I’ve given birth twice:. Once in front of h. I have n ever gone to the loo in front of him. I also don’t feel comfortable if he is in the next room. No solutions I’m afraid but solidarity op.

I’m the same. We’ve been together over 10 years. Oh well.

There seems to be a clear divide in the people who can relax enough not to care, and those of us who absolutely cannot even after years. Wtf I wonder why us tense people are like this?! I can see the fact having children can be a game changer too though.

Am horrified by the people who leave doors open! Just no!

And yep it's everyone I have this issue with not only my partner, but other people aren't around as much.

I can't imagine anything worse than my partner sitting down and going to the loo in front of me!

I was like this until a few weeks ago when I contracted an utterly awful intestinal tract infection and I literally had no choice but to get over it - I was shitting water every hour overnight and it absolutely stank to high heaven, I didn't have time to worry about it or the mess would have been all over the bed and not in the toilet 🙈🙈

I totally understand how u feel and now that I'm back to normal I'm back to feeling weird about it again 😂😂

I time my 2's with showers, run the shower, use the loo, shower after
Disguises both smell and sounds 👌

I’ve been married twice, never had the door open when doing a poo with either husband. They kept the doors closed as well. I just do not like the sounds or smell of shit. Different for my babies, though...

I’m guessing you don’t have children yet. That changes everything

No it doesnt. We’ve been together 13 years and ive never shat infront of my dh. If he’s close by I put the tap water on to hide the plop sounds. There is a fine line that doesn’t ever need to be crossed, and shitting and pissing infront of each other is it.

I feel less weird now as some of you understand where I'm coming from, so thank you!

You run the tap to hide poo sounds? How wasteful and weird.

We all poo, get over it.

Or, in answer to the OP's question, you could become disabled. When your DH has to change your sanpro and wipe your arse when you can't do it yourself, pooing in front of them pales into insignificance.