To think this was done on purpose so they could stay out

[Littleteacup1]

To be pissed off planned night out with friends last train home at 11.30. They no I have an illness and struggle coming out and get exhausted easily. Had been looking forward to this had planned my meds around tonight and a family event the next day. On the night I suggested we get the train before the last one so we have time to leave and time incase we miss the first. Friend tried to suggest we get taxi and stay later I advised couldn’t afford taxi had already paid for return ticket costing 5 rather than 40 for taxi we all agreed and to get train. 20 mins before train I suggest getting planned to leave say I will rush for a wee but need to hurry as train leaves soon takes ten mins walk. As soon as I get back friends insist they need a wee and they will rush they didn’t they claimed there was a huge que and needed to wash hand no que when I went and it’s a big toilet with 10 stalls. They kept insisting I couldn’t go as they left me with her bag. I waited and threw the bag at her and ran for the train missed it by one min. Couldn’t afford taxi on my own either so said I would wait for them to leave at 12.15 as they said they would get taxi then friend re appeared with a bottle of wine and claims that they will only have glass each when o later asked again what time they where leaving they changed it to 1.00. At 12.30 partner finally texts back he’s sent me some money for a taxi so I go to leave and they get all funny about me being off with them. They know I can’t stay up late they know I have meds to take at night at certain times that make me sleepy Aibu to think this was done on purpose

They don't sound like proper friends.

Why didn't you just leave when you needed to?
I wouldn't be missing the train in that situation, just say you're going and go!

Why are you going out with a bunch of people who have no regard for you? They are not your friends. Friends don’t do that.

Why didn't you just get your train when you wanted to leave? You don't all have to leave together

This is a difficult balance for your friends in wanting to enjoy their night without a time limit, whilst also wanting to include you, and ensure you were safe (I.e. with them) to get home.

I don’t know what the answer is, but did you suggest just getting the train back yourself and leaving them to stay out?

Yeah I would have just left on time to get train as planned, regardless if I was supposed to be watching their bags or not. #byebitches

I’m sorry this happened. They were very unfair to mess you around by saying they would leave with you, then messing you around. If they wanted to stay out later they should have just said so. But I also think you were a tad unfair to dictate when they had to end their evening and if you all agreed on last train you should have stuck to it not pushed for everyone to get an earlier one. In future, make you own plans to get home and when you’ve had enough just announce you’re leaving for x train in 5 minutes and if they will be joining or are they staying later. It all could have easily avoided in my opinion and having to all take the same train seems a bit teenage to me.

They didn’t want to go home early. You should have got the train on your own.

In my friendship group we’d probably all have started off with the best of intentions to get the last train and an early night, but as the night wears on and everyone is having a good time, nobody would think twice about missing the train and staying out. Anyone who wanted to go and get the train would be free to leave and go whenever they wanted.

If I’d got to get the train home, then I wouldn’t be holding anyone else to it if they wanted to stop out.

I tend to find that having an imposed time limit seems to make the drinks taste nicer and go down much better, and I want to stay out longer

I said a few times happy to go home on train and for them to stay out but they said they would come with me as they didn’t want to be out long

It's tricky because once you're out having fun you dont want to leave.

However you knew you needed and wanted to get a specific train home so you should have just said your goodbyes and left for the station like the grown up you are.

I think they probably got carried away and had all the intentions of going home early but wine got the better of them.
I’ve been guilty of it a few times, assured myself I’d get the last train home, three hours later and numerous wines im still out.
I wouldn’t take it to heart Op and I’d just put it down to too many wines!

Sounds to me like your friends are lacking in self-control and understanding: they are not good friends to you! I am super glad your partner has your back!! These "friends" do not.

They shouldn't have to leave early if they don't want to. They should have had the balls to say out straight they didn't want to leave, but you should have just taken the hint and left them to it to get your train rather than make them feel under pressure to go home and missing your train in the process

Why didn't you just leave and get the train on your own?

They clearly didn’t want to go home so you should have just left when you were ready.

Why did you not bring your meds with you and why should a group of girls go home early just to accommodate 1

Yes, leaving you with their bags while delaying in the toilet sounds deliberate

do you think maybe they don't believe you about your illness, or think you are exaggerating and were trying to force your hand to show you it would be fine?

either way, they are not good friends

Its hard as if the funs rolling I can see why as a collective they might not want to cut night short.

Is there a reason you cant get train alone?

I can’t take meds with me as there drowsy ones that me me fall asleep instantly really. And I was happy to get train alone I said that I would they kept saying no where coming and when I did try to leave I got told I couldn’t leave her hand bag and that other friend and her would be 2 secs just leaving bathroom now

I don't understand why you couldn't just get the train by yourself? There's no reason they needed to leave too.

unkind and unfair of them, but at least you know now to just get up and start walking for the train you want. tell them to meet you at the station if they like.

This has happened to me many times in the past. I used to have a long commute to work and all their social events would be far away. I didnt drive and couldn't afford a taxi home. I'd always catch the first train around 10pm to ensure i got the second but last connecting train. I just tell everyone what time I'm leaving. When that time comes I say, "bye everyone" and go. I wouldn't let anyone leave bags with me?! Just say, "no I'm off and go by yourself." You're always going to get the merry drunks who never want to leave and try to make you stay! Just go..they can't make you stay!

This is weird, childish behaviour. The logical thing to do here was for you to get the train home on your own, which you told them you were happy to do. They've obviously concocted a silly plan to get you to stay out with them. Maybe they don't take your illness seriously enough and think you need to "let your hair down" or whatever.

Don't go out with them again. They aren't good friends.

YANBU-Leaving you with their bags whilst they faffed around in the toilet was horrible. I can imagine the drama and fall out if you had got on the train and their bags were taken! They are rubbish friends. They could easily have put you on the train, say lovely goodbyes and then stayed out. They didn't need to trap you, risk your health and cause you to pay extra money in order to stay drinking.

There are lots of nicer people in the world to be friends with. I would distance yourself a bit from this lot, and start finding others.