To think this was done on purpose so they could stay out

[Littleteacup1]

To be pissed off planned night out with friends last train home at 11.30. They no I have an illness and struggle coming out and get exhausted easily. Had been looking forward to this had planned my meds around tonight and a family event the next day. On the night I suggested we get the train before the last one so we have time to leave and time incase we miss the first. Friend tried to suggest we get taxi and stay later I advised couldn’t afford taxi had already paid for return ticket costing 5 rather than 40 for taxi we all agreed and to get train. 20 mins before train I suggest getting planned to leave say I will rush for a wee but need to hurry as train leaves soon takes ten mins walk. As soon as I get back friends insist they need a wee and they will rush they didn’t they claimed there was a huge que and needed to wash hand no que when I went and it’s a big toilet with 10 stalls. They kept insisting I couldn’t go as they left me with her bag. I waited and threw the bag at her and ran for the train missed it by one min. Couldn’t afford taxi on my own either so said I would wait for them to leave at 12.15 as they said they would get taxi then friend re appeared with a bottle of wine and claims that they will only have glass each when o later asked again what time they where leaving they changed it to 1.00. At 12.30 partner finally texts back he’s sent me some money for a taxi so I go to leave and they get all funny about me being off with them. They know I can’t stay up late they know I have meds to take at night at certain times that make me sleepy Aibu to think this was done on purpose

I'm still baffled by all these people thinking it's perfectly ok to just let their friend go home alone on a train at that time of night

OMG I know right?!

Isn’t is awful the OP wasn’t chaperoned by a group of female friends or relatives, or her dad or brother???

It is unacceptable that a female was using public transport at night! I don’t even like seeing women use public transport on their own during the day. In fact, much better if women just stay home really.

/end sarcasm

Well yes because if I was on a night out drinking my friends wouldn't just let me get public transport home on my own late at night, just like I wouldn't them.

So how does this actually work if you don’t live in the same direction?

Do you only go out if you can stay over at a friends house? Or only go out if you live very close?

Even if you think you’ve been a good friend and seen another friend into a taxi.... that isn’t exactly protecting them.

A vulnerable friend who had been drinking yes. Nothing to do with women on public transport.

"Do you only go out if you can stay over at a friends house? Or only go out if you live very close? "

I don't go out into town drinking nowadays plus I live semi rural so it's a fair walk from any public transport at night if there is any but back in the day we always stuck together yes.

Well yes because if I was on a night out drinking my friends wouldn't just let me get public transport home on my own late at night, just like I wouldn't them.

What if you don't live near any of your friends?

Then we would plan the night so I could stay with them or vice versa or fork out for a taxi. I don't live in a city so public transport doesn't really run past 11/12pm anyway and then that only really around the town.

Why did you need your friends with you before you would go for the train?
Sod looking after their bag, you should have said “no, I’m leaving now to get my train”
You’re an adult, you’re responsible for your decisions, you decided to wait with your ‘friend’ rather than leave on time to get your train.
Take some responsibility yourself instead of trying to make out the world is against you.