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Furry Wedding Invitation

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suze1080 · 12/05/2019 10:29

DP and I have been invited to a Furry wedding. For those of you that don't know, furries like to dress as anthropomorphized animal characters; I think the bride is an ocelot or something. According to the invite, dressing in costume is 'preferred' (not sure if the pun was intended). AIBU to be reluctant to spend a day surrounded by a group of fur-suited wedding guests? Particularly as neither DP or I have any interest in dressing up ourselves.

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AnyFucker · 12/05/2019 16:16

Do what the fuck you like in privacy. But when you force your fetish on others in public, you are inviting comment

Isn't that why people do it, if not for the exhibitionism ?

I can honestly say that apart from my current sexual partner, no one else is subjected to the details of my sex life.

stellarparallax · 12/05/2019 16:41

Isn't that why people do it, if not for the exhibitionism?

Again, you seem not to have understood the word Pride. It’s all about having pride in what you’ve always been taught was wrong and shameful. By, well, by people like you.

Please don’t come to Pride again.

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 12/05/2019 16:48

Kicking people out of Pride now then?

It didn't have people walking human dogs in chains back in the day. That is kink not pride. It tried to attract families and kids these days - Big Business has made sure of that (Primark donate on their rainbow pride clothes to stonewall). You can’t try to be mainstream and minority. Even the drag queens were banned at Glasgow pride in case it upset trans women.

It wasn’t about sex it was about sexuality. So what the hell is it now?

AnAC12UCOinanOCG · 12/05/2019 16:54

It's pride in sexuality, not kinks.

And I'm not straight so maybe stellar won't patronise me for my opinion.

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 12/05/2019 16:55

Kinkfest is a whole different ball game (if you excuse the expression).

SuePerbly · 12/05/2019 16:55

I am your perfectly average single mum of one DD. I have a new partner and we have a BDSM sex life. NOONE outside of our bedroom knows about it. It is private.

My kink is totally different to someone's sexuality. Noone is oppressing me, discriminating against me or shouting abuse at me when I go out with my partner and we hold hands. All things which gay and bi people are subjected to.

I cannot abide the inclusion of others in someone's kink, without their consent. It is vile, disrespectful and breaching the boundaries of others.

I wouldnt want to attend a Pride March or wedding populated by those who get off on dressing as babies and children. Or those who get off on wearing furry costumes.

Keep your kinks to yourself. Noone else is interested.

S1naidSucks · 12/05/2019 16:55

Kicking people out of Pride now then?

So far it’s drag queens, lesbians and now anyone who like ‘vanilla’ sex. There’s going to be nothing but trans people and kinks left at this rate.

S1naidSucks · 12/05/2019 16:57

Sorry, I should say nothing but trans people and people who get off in forcing others to observe and be unwitting participants in their public performance kinks.

AnyFucker · 12/05/2019 16:57

"Pride" in displaying the actual specifics of what gets you off ?

There is no pride to be had in that, IMO

breakfastpizza · 12/05/2019 17:00

What @SuePerbly said.

AnyFucker · 12/05/2019 17:03

It's like these audience-seeking kinksters think they invented orgasms

You can park that, for a start

SuePerbly · 12/05/2019 17:03

"Pride" in displaying the actual specifics of what gets you off

There is no pride to be had in that, IMO

Exactly. I thought Pride was all about being proud of who you are as a non-heterosexual person.

Not about being proud of having kinky sexual tastes.

And especially not about involving the public in your humiliation fetish whilst on the end of the dog lead. The fact that the humiliation is public could well be a bigger turn on for that person. So the public are involved in someone's sexual scenario without their consent.

What the fuck is their to be proud about in that?

Celebration of acceptance of sexual orientation, is totally different to celebrating the type of sex that people engage in.

AnyFucker · 12/05/2019 17:05

And yes, what Sue said

If I want to attend a Pride event with my gay son I fucking well will. But I don't want to be forced to witness the acting out in public of people's sex life, including his

Because that would be weird.

kenandbarbie · 12/05/2019 17:05

Yep. Wouldn't be going to that wedding.

SuePerbly · 12/05/2019 17:08

Oops there not their.

I dunno about anyone else, but I find people who want to perform their kinks in public to be a bit tragic.

They didn't invent sex. I have zero interest in what anyone gets up to if it is consensual and legal. I find the focus on sexual kinks to be bloody boring, by and large.

AnyFucker · 12/05/2019 17:10

Indeed, Sue

ReapersHowler · 12/05/2019 17:12

Some furries just enjoy the "culture" and aren't into yiffing (sex in fur suits) those suits can be stupid expensive and they don't want to get them dirty [grin[

It is always about your own boundaries though but for a lot of people it's the same as cosplaying their favourite anime character just they cosplay their fursona instead.

SuePerbly · 12/05/2019 17:15

So in summary, no, I wouldn't want to go to a wedding where there was a good chance that half the participants were turned on by each other.

I know not all furries see it as a sexual thing, with some using it as a psychological release from the real world. Fair enough.

But some furries are turned on by it.

Who the fuck wants to go to a wedding where you would end up sat next to someone dressed as Yogi Bear with a monster hard on?

(Incidentally, my partner always mistakenly calls Pets At Home, Pets R Us. Always makes me snigger as it sounds like a furries meet up Grin)

kenandbarbie · 12/05/2019 17:16

Yiffing eh. Are furries attracted to real animals or just people dressed up?

S1naidSucks · 12/05/2019 17:17

Pride is being destroyed from within. LGB people had to fit for acceptance and now they’re being lumped in with weird fetishising people. That’s not fair and just gives the homophobes another reason to slate them.

ReapersHowler · 12/05/2019 17:19

Are furries attracted to real animals or just people dressed up?

Do you really want to know that answer? There was a lot of arrests made earlier in the year around a certain Fursuit group who were happy zoophiles. There's also cam girls who dress in fursuits for their shows and use animal type dildos from bad dragon and I'm sure you can imagine who their target audience is. You can buy replica animal vaginas too.

Disclaimer - I read a certain gossip forum that focuses on youtubers and instagram stars who cause a lot of drama and my information comes from there.

Cheby · 12/05/2019 17:25

Ugh no, this is massively grim. It’s a sex thing. Very happy for people to get their groove on in whatever way they like, as long as everyone is consenting. But I definitely don’t need to take part in the weirdness.

SuePerbly · 12/05/2019 17:27

being lumped in with weird fetishising people

Thanks for that! Not everyone who has a kink or fetish is weird. What is weird is playing it out in public.

But please don't make it sound as if just because someone has a kink, they are wrong and "weird".

You would be very surprised at what some of the most seemingly boring, middle class couples get up to. As long as they keep it private, who gives a shit?

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 12/05/2019 17:28

Wanting it on display on public is weird though.

SuePerbly · 12/05/2019 17:31

Wanting it on display on public is weird though

Totally agree.

Having kinky sexual tastes isn't weird though. Everyone has specific things which turn them on. Doesn't make them weird or distasteful if they keep it private.