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Furry Wedding Invitation

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suze1080 · 12/05/2019 10:29

DP and I have been invited to a Furry wedding. For those of you that don't know, furries like to dress as anthropomorphized animal characters; I think the bride is an ocelot or something. According to the invite, dressing in costume is 'preferred' (not sure if the pun was intended). AIBU to be reluctant to spend a day surrounded by a group of fur-suited wedding guests? Particularly as neither DP or I have any interest in dressing up ourselves.

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suze1080 · 12/05/2019 10:53

I'm not particulary close to them, it's DP who's known them for years. We knew they were into online gaming and comic conventions but the whole furry cosplay thing came as somewhat of a surprise, to me at least.

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FluffyHippo · 12/05/2019 10:54

I'm getting increasingly concerned with the way in which private fetishes and kinks are now being made public and forced on to unsuspecting or unwilling bystanders - BDSM at Gay Pride marches, for example.

It's fine to have diverse sexual tastes and preferences but why this increasing move to normalise them by dragging them into the public sphere? If your particular kink was anal sex, would you have an anus- themed wedding? Fancy an invite to some watersports-themed nuptuals?

Fetishes are fun because they're secret and hidden. They should stay that way (and, before anyone says anything, fursuiting is a sexual fetish and it's alarmingly popular amongst paedophiles - look on the internet).

OldAndWornOut · 12/05/2019 10:56
Grin An anus themed wedding.
floribunda18 · 12/05/2019 10:56

It looks - hot. But not in that way. As in sweaty.

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 12/05/2019 10:58

Elmer Fudd?

BackOnceAgainWithABurnerEmail · 12/05/2019 10:58

Urgh! I would be full on eye-rolling about any fancy dress nonsense. I bet they would be very dismissive about a couple who asked people to wear a specific colour, but because their thing is edgy/alternative/a fetish/batshit it’s fine.

S1naidSucks · 12/05/2019 11:05

I wouldn't go to a fetish wedding.

I’m in total agreement. Laughing at the fact that so many posters thinking it’s just funny fancy dress. I’m afraid to burst your bubbles people, but it’s a fetish. There will be a lot of individuals getting rather ‘excited’ under those sweaty suits. shudder If you do go OP, please don’t take anyone up on the offer to stroke their ‘tail’. That ain’t no tail. 🤢

MumW · 12/05/2019 11:05

Surely, you have an allergy to cats, dogs - anything furry. 🤣

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 12/05/2019 11:06

I can only imagine the wedding meal. Kibble from bowls on the floor and... shudder... nooo

MRex · 12/05/2019 11:06

How inFURiating. I'd go to take photos. Better if it was in winter, then everyone would feel grateful for the fur, but perhaps they hibernate. They are very odd of course, but presumably they don't mind everyone laughing at them or they'd have gone for something more tame.

TSSDNCOP · 12/05/2019 11:09

Just when you think weddings can't get more batshit.

I couldn't do it. I mean I'd like to go just to observe, but I don't think I'd be able to keep a straight face.

Mayalready · 12/05/2019 11:12

Maybe a real ocelot and you are the buffet?

MeltedEggMum · 12/05/2019 11:14

That's a no from me. Gross.

gokartdillydilly · 12/05/2019 11:16

Dear Ocelot & Furry Friend

Grow up.

Yours etc...

CasperGutman · 12/05/2019 11:16

Laughing at the fact that so many posters thinking it’s just funny fancy dress. I’m afraid to burst your bubbles people, but it’s a fetish. There will be a lot of individuals getting rather ‘excited’ under those sweaty suits.

Meh. Many aspects of "normal" clothing developed as a means for vanilla, non-fetish, "normal" people to show off aspects of their physical appearance that are deemed sexually attractive to others. I can't see that this is very different from brides wearing strapless dresses, corsetry or showing a bit of cleavage, really. It's could be less sexist in a way, if both bride and groom will be dressing up in a relatively similar way.

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 12/05/2019 11:17

I’m imagining nappies too. Well trying not to imagine the nappies.

Still18atheart · 12/05/2019 11:22

This sounds amazing and an experience. Go to it and use it as a trump card for those conversations about weird weddings that have happened over the years

TheQueef · 12/05/2019 11:24

The disco at the reception will be interesting.

Girlicorne · 12/05/2019 11:25

If it's a summer wedding you might be a bit warm?

AdobeWanKenobi · 12/05/2019 11:28

It's rather a good job that weddings aren't obligatory isn't it?

edwinbear · 12/05/2019 11:31

That’s a once in a lifetime opportunity OP. I’d embrace it and go, purely to dine off the story for years. Grin

Llioed · 12/05/2019 11:32

W. T. F?! Grin never heard of this! I wouldn’t go. If the B&G are happy enough, they can rock on but it would be a decline from me if that outfit rule was enforced.
The invite doesn’t state that you HAVE to dress up as a furry, OP. Can you ask around other guests and see if they are dressing up, etc?

Morgan12 · 12/05/2019 11:36

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 fuck off

NorthernKnickers · 12/05/2019 11:44

@CasperGutman seriously? You can't see the difference between a beautiful bespoke wedding gown...and an ocelot costume? 🙄

MyKingdomForBrie · 12/05/2019 11:45

I feel like the outfits might be a bit expensive..?!