To be annoyed at my sister for missing an important family event?

[sweetkitty]

I probably am and will probably get flamed but here goes. In January I sent out the date of a important event for my DS, think once in his lifetime imports to him kind of thing. My sister is his godmother and very close to him.

About 3 weeks ago she tells me she can’t come she’s away with work, she has a job where she travels an awful lot but I had assumed she would have blocked out the date.

Today she posts she’s at a Health/Fitness convention, she’s recently turned into a health/gym nut and I think she’s booked this then realised it’s clashed with DSs thing.

I am annoyed that she’s lied and posted the whole days iternary of FB (she’s turned into a health bore posting work outs at 4am/green juices/boot camp holidays) and said she’s working? DS was upset when I said she couldn’t come today.

DH said forget about it if she had wanted to be there she would have been.

He will most certainly have both noticed and cared that his godmother wasn’t there.

And you know this how? OP didn’t say if they were close or not. She said SHE was upset by it, but hasn’t said if her son was from what I read. Please point out where she did. I’m happy to be corrected.

She did mention him asking where she was.... I'm not going to search back through the posts...

DS has a otherwise lovely day, it was a very big deal for him, he’s been preparing for ages and he looked very handsome in his kilt.

It’s not my religion, it’s SILs and DHs. I’ve been to her DDs FHCs flying where necessary. She’s been to the DDs (I have 3) we have been talking about DSs for a while, I reminded family it would be in May as usual this year in January, sent out the official invites 4 weeks ago.
She also missed DD3s Confirmation the week before but that was work.

Definitely wasn’t work lots of tagging fitness friend she was with about how much she enjoyed Sat and was looking forward to Sun line up. I had thought oh maybe she was working Fri-Mon away and the fitness thing just happened to be on but no she was back Sun night so could have been back Fri/Sat.

I definitely do not expect her to revolve her life around ours I actually think she’s a bit lonely hence the new fad, we try to invite her up as often as we can (we live an hour away). My DC have hardly any family so we want them to have good close relationships with the family they do have.

His other Godmother was there she’s a friend. All over with now.

Oh sorry yes DS did ask if Auntie X was coming and was like awe, she told him last week she couldn’t make it as she had to work so she lied directly to him as well (although he doesn’t know about FB obviously).

Oh well, all's well that ends well OP! I know as a mother, you just want to make sure they don't feel hurt, but we can't protect them from everything unfortunately!
Great you had a good day and am loving hearing about the kilt! Are ye in Scotland? That's so cool!
What did ye do for the day? I'm sure it was just a passing thought to him. Once he was made a fuss of, he won't have noticed.

Yes we are Scottish. The sun even shone. We had a typical children’s party in a hall with a bouncy castle
All the children were amazing nearly every boy had a kilt on (even the wee Polish ones) and the girls were lovely too, not overly done up a la gypsy weddings just lovely. They sang their wee hearts out and just beamed. We have the thanksgiving mass this Sunday too gives the girls another chance to show off their dresses (unfortunately the kilts go back to the hire shop).

Ae it sounds like he had a whale of a time! Loving the notion of wee boys wearing kilts. Way too cute!
That aunty wasn't there won't even cross his mind anymore I'm sure!

Any chance for the girls to show off their dresses! I think dd wanted to go to Mass for a month afterwards to wear her dress.

It's the innocence at that age that gets me. They're so vulnerable and innocent and wear their little hearts on their sleeves.

I'm sure your ds looked like a FINE Scotsman in his kilt! And after 3 girls, I'm sure you were the proudest Mammy there!

DD1 was very much like this

Maybe your SIL has a new man on the scene too! You never know!

He chose his tartan himself and his sporran but was most put out children don’t get “the knife” as he put it. Designed his cake and the guest list very much his day.

Did he get a few bob? That can make everything alright........ Especially when you let them loose to spend it!

She’s very secretive about that! Last time we only knew as we bumped into them one day #awkward

I would love nothing more than for her to find a new love, everyone deserves happiness.

Oh yes they always do 😀

I don't know what the knife is either? Is it part of the scottish kilt?

Well, a bouncy castle makes godmothers become irrelevant. So he had a great day and that's all you care about!

Dd still has savings from her FHC money. There are Irish jokes about 'that fella is so tight he still has his First Communion money' etc.

But dd loves accumulating the few quid.

Pity SIL didn't make it. She missed out really! The joy on their little faces.

I'll give you a laugh, after the end, while we were all roaming around the church getting photos with the priest etc., dd rushes up to me and hands me her little purse 'Hold that Mammy - I'm going to have a word with the Monsignor'.

I had to say woah there madam lol...........

The other week at DD3s confirmation DS went up for a blessing and was over the moon he got a blessing for a real life bishop, that was the best blessing ever and my last ever one!

Sgian-dhub (pronounced skeean do) wee knife tucked into the top of your long kilt socks. Apparently so if you loose you big sword in battle you can still stab someone

Kilt

My sis is missing my dd and DN christening because she lives away and just can't afford to. It depends on her reasons and your event but tbh it is her prerogative x

Oh wow! didn't he look swell!! Your SIL missed out big time.

I know it's boring for adults, but to see the joy on the children's faces is what it's all about! They're so proud of themselves!

I love the Scottish notion of the scian (scian is knife in Irish too!).

It's all tradition and pomp and ceremony and sure God love them, some of us won't live to see them to their wedding day. You gotta live for the day! It was SIL's loss. I genuinely understand getting engrossed in fitness, but she should have tried to go. Her loss! She missed her wee godson in his kilt!

Still don't know what 'word' dd was going to have with the Monsignor lol. He was a lovely priest. The microphone went out and my job was helping the children onto the step to the podium and I whispered to him that the microphones weren't working so he gave the children his sort of personal small microphone to speak into. He was lovely.

Knowing dd she probably wanted to thank him for a lovely Mass. Lol. That one would talk to anyone!

Glad DS had a lovely day. DS looks so cute in his kilt, you could eat him with a spoon. I don't buy into the religious stuff, but he's adorable, all skinny knees and all. Sorry SIL lied to you. Some people are just like that. It doesn't make it okay. I do think you need to let her know at some stage that it would have been better if she'd just been honest due to the facebook thing, but it's not the end of the world. You're allowed to vent on here, but you know people are going to twist there knickers in all directions about it.

It does rather sound like it was her loss in the end, whether she thinks that or not!
Your boy looks the business in his kilt, love him - glad he had a great day anyway.