'I wish the word ‘flattering’ could be excised from or collective vocabulary. Without fail, it means ‘makes a woman look thinner’, the implication being that this is what we must strive for in all of our clothing choices. The idea that people call the dress on a woman two days post-partum ‘unflattering’ is ridiculous. She doesn’t look fat or wide, she looks like she just had a baby so she has a deflating bump. That’s not something to hide or ‘flatter’ or skim over, it’s normal. It’s not shameful!'
This, this, this!
I think that 'deflating bump' looks wonderful. She looks lovely. There is nothing shameful about women who have given birth not having a completely flat tummy. Mine isn't, 3 and a half years after my third and final baby, and people assume I'm pregnant because the cultural assumption is that every woman does, should, must work to eradicate any roundness.
I agree that there's a lot of - perhaps subconscious - racism and/or anti-Americanism in attitudes to MM, as well as plain old misogyny.