Toddler screaming for help WWYD

[freetone]

Posting here for traffic. Just had the most heart wrenching experience of watching a small toddler screaming on the floor in the rain while her mother walked off. I stopped and watched from a distance to make sure the child was okay. The poor thing then proceeded to scream in my direction saying ‘help me please’. It was so hard not to go and pick the poor girl up. WWYD? My DD would not call out to strangers for help no matter what kind of tantrum was throwing. I’m worried for the child’s safety now! She was just screaming at her mum to pick her up and she was ignoring her. That’s all she wanted, it broke my heart

My DC regularly has Oscar winning performance worthy tantrums and has a very over active imagination - I wouldn't read too much into it personally - maybe the mum was knackered and this was the last straw maybe she's unwell/ has a condition or is pregnant and can't carry the girl like she wanted to - lots of reasons to explain what you saw x

This is all coming from a poster that stated she would cuddle and comfort her 3 year old if there was no chocolate cereal left.

Ain't nobody got time for that!

My five year old is so loud and dramatic I doubt the neighbours would notice the difference if I started beating him. I recently came tearing out the bathroom with my trousers round my ankles after hearing bloodcurdling screams for help only to find him in the garden screaming while (gently) hitting himself with a broom that had “come alive and is attacking me mummy”).

Have you watched this evening's Planet Child on itv Op. it shows very young children and apparently if I heard correctly, children learn to lie from the age of around two, not convincingly albeit.

It also said babies can manipulate their parents from 6 months. Did you see the little baby crying (with no tears) stop, look to make sure he still had an audience, then carry on bawling? 😂😆He was so cute, devious but cute 😆

@mammatino it was the OP i was referring to when she said if her neighbours child screamed & said help should she report to ss!!I understand plenty of real abuse goes on & its actually very close to my heart...seeing cuts & bruises and hearing abuse go on...verbal/phsical is horrible & should be reported...

@Myboys9910 I'm sorry I jumped down your throat and thought you were being glib. All that only happened recently and we are still recovering from the horror and massive impact on our lives. Let alone those poor children I think I was just trying to say you can tell the difference between neglect and abuse and a little girl having a strop in the street. Abusive parents don't tend to do it in front of people in the road. Anyway sorry again.

I’m pretty sure you saw a child who wanted to be carried instead of walking, and a parent who couldn’t carry their child all the way home. Child throws themselves on the floor in protest. Parent ignores. If she had picked her up off the floor, and put her upright to walk, child most likely would have thrown herself on the floor in protest at still being expected to walk!

Is it that child psychology qualification online for £19?

This threat is a perfect contraception😂 I don't even have a child and some of your stories made me laugh so much. I must call my mum and apologise for the early years😂

On a serious note. As I said I don't have a child and yet even I would know this is a tantrum...
There is a massive difference between seeing this happening and hearing screams from help but not seing the situation. In the latter case I would be seriously concerned.

Kudos to OP though, because this threat has it all.
Op: AIBU?
Everyone : YABU
Op: I have child psychology qualifications so AINBU
Throw in : not judging, but I am a better parent because I pick my child up whenever
And! The cherry on a top: It was in bad area so dc is surely abused.

Good job!

I have intervened, along with a neighbour, in a situation where a toddler was screaming and refusing to go with the woman accompanying her.
It turned out to be serious and quite tragic.

So I would intervene, even if just to say to the woman, "Is there anything I can do to help?'

@mammatino.
.i understand...Just meant my little boy often screams for nothing & asks for "help" (hes 2) and i do worry god what must people think and people like this reinforce my anxietys...Its good to be on the lookout...but this situations like this post are a bit OTT.

@freetone I just had to @ you because I'm pretty shocked that anyone who claims to have any kind of psychology qualification seems to believe that if someone lives in a particularly rough area they must be scum.

Do you understand the reasons why people end up in substandard housing in areas with high crime statistics and get trapped there? It's absolutely nothing to do with them being bad people, although people with antisocial behaviour issues and drug problems will likely be housed near them. It's because of poverty.

I say that as a single parent with a degree and an a professional (but not very well paid) job and debt, who has a lovely well adjusted 6 year old, but is stuck in a crappy council flat in a rough street because I just can't afford better. My child isn't abused, I've never broken the law. Check your fucking privilege.

My DD used to have tantrum's in the supermarket because she was bored, she would lie on the floor screaming, a lot of shoppers would shake there head in disgust at me because i left her to it, kid's have tantrum's if there not getting there own way.