To tell him to go back at the 1850’s?

[Caffeineprincess]

So my OH is getting more and more annoyed about the lack of service..

Backstory we have a DS, who is 2, and I work 4 days a week, from home but it still pretty full on. OH works full time and is on nights ATM.

He complains that I do not cook enough, that I should have food ready for him when ever he wants it.

Today I’m shattered, so I bought pizza, this is not good enough.

He said what’s the point of having a woman at home if I can’t have food now.

I do all childcare and housework and I do cook most days.

I told him to go back to the 1850s, as have had enough of this treatment

AIBU?

I hope you're ok, OP. Are you actually married or cohabitating? This is obviously getting seriously ramped up, even the taking of your child without saying where they're going is worrying. Does your child have a passport and do you have it somewhere secure? If no, I would get one and keep it secure yourself to prevent him applying for one and disappearing with your child, given his attitude to you.

With your latest update, get the police to remove him now or things could get much worse.

Its funny how these men want a 1950s service................oh but wait with 2019 bits thrown in.

Exactly. This is how I shut my DH down when the subject comes up (rarely to be fair, he's not completely stupid): "Fine. I'll hand in my notice tomorrow...".

You so need to get your ds away from this man. And stay safe.

You can get a series of court orders to a) prevent him from harassing or contacting you; b) keep him out of your house; c) prevent him from taking your child away (if you think he might do that). Breaching any of those orders is a criminal offence and he will be arrested if he does it.

The National Centre for Criminal Violence specialise in helping people obtain these orders and their service is at no cost to you. www.ncdv.org.uk/

Good luck, OP