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Original poster

AIBU to ask my husband to pick up some bits on the way home?

167 replies

Hollanda · 02/05/2019 18:13

I realised I'd run out of Sanitary towels...and shampoo...and bubble bath...and we're out of toilet roll too. And husband is out tonight and I could do with a glass of wine but don't have any. Oh and we're pretty much out of bread too.

DH said I'm taking the proverbial. He asked me if I wanted anything so I told him......AIBU???

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Oohgossip · 02/05/2019 18:14

Er....what?

HollowTalk · 02/05/2019 18:15

Are you a SAHM? How far out of his way is the supermarket? Can't you just go there when he comes home?

PositiveVibez · 02/05/2019 18:16

I assume you asked him to stop off at the shop on his way home? No, cant see the issue if he asked. My husband wouldn't have an issue with this.

Summersunsareglowing · 02/05/2019 18:16

YANBU. Ha ha. He shouldn't have asked if he only wanted you to say no or ask for one thing only.

I bet he's embarrassed to buy bread.

Bookworm4 · 02/05/2019 18:16

Could you not get them yourself? Or are you taking the piss?

checkingforballoons · 02/05/2019 18:18

I’m waiting for someone to come along and tell you that you’re an adult and absolutely shouldn’t ask your husband for any help, ever.
But YANBU. DH and I often ask each other to pick things up on the way home, because we like each other a bit Grin

Arrowfanatic · 02/05/2019 18:18

Of course you're not being unreasonable. I often send DH to shops on his way home, he's quite happy to do so.

Original poster
Hollanda · 02/05/2019 18:19

I would buy them but I'm at home with the kids. When he gets back the toddler will need changing for bed and DS needs a bathand I won't get chance to go before he goes out...

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Oohgossip · 02/05/2019 18:19

@Summersunsareglowing why would anyone ever be embarrassed to pick up bread??

dementedpixie · 02/05/2019 18:20

My dh phones and asks if I need anything brought home. If he is out and has the car then of course it's easier for him to do it

Ninkaninus · 02/05/2019 18:21

He said you’re taking the piss?? Why? What on Earth is so wrong with that?

He sounds like an idiot.

Seriously what’s he playing at making a fuss about that?

BeanBag7 · 02/05/2019 18:21

If he asked you what you wanted YANBU to ask for stuff you need right now like loo roll and sanitary towels.

Although I do think shampoo and bubble bath are not really essentials and you could probably buy them tomorrow.

Maybe you need to plan ahead a bit better and buy loo roll before you run out!

ImNotNigel · 02/05/2019 18:25

Maybe you need to plan ahead a bit better and buy loo roll before you run out!

Don’t you mean her husband should plan ahead better ? Surely it’s his job to buy these things.

Ninkaninus · 02/05/2019 18:26

It’s still not taking the piss, ffs. I think he’s massively taking the piss for complaining about picking up a few bits for you. It literally takes two minutes extra to go to the next aisle and pick up some shower and hair products.

How about you stop ever doing him any favours. Like looking after his children so he can go out of an evening...

TheCrowFromBelow · 02/05/2019 18:27

It’s not like you’ve asked him to do a weekly shop, that’s one at most.
Sounds fine. Why make an additional trip tomorrow if he’s in there tonight?
Won’t kill him.
Enjoy your wine Wine

Original poster
Hollanda · 02/05/2019 18:27

I could go to the shops and leave a 2 year old and 7 year old by themselves...

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TheCrowFromBelow · 02/05/2019 18:28

And I’m sure your DH uses the loo roll, bubble bath etc and could also have planned ahead/noticed it was running out...

TheCrowFromBelow · 02/05/2019 18:28

Whoa! That’s turned into a whole different AIBU

TheWernethWife · 02/05/2019 18:30

I sent a text to my partner asking them to pick up a tin of mushy peas, was no problem for them.

Original poster
Hollanda · 02/05/2019 18:31

He got the Milk and bread and some wine. Found sanitary towels (unused) in drawer so I don't have to compromise with one of DD's nappies. All is well in Hollanda world.

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PurpleDaisies · 02/05/2019 18:31

If he asked if you wanted anything, he’s being ridiculous to be annoyed when you said you did.

I’d be a bit Hmm if I got a text out of the blue asking for non-essential stuff like bubble bath but for stuff you can’t do without when he’s even asked you, he’s out of order.

ltk · 02/05/2019 18:31

Of course YANBU. He is, though, if he thinks a quick market run for 10 items or fewer is you asking for too much!

PurpleDaisies · 02/05/2019 18:32

So basically he didn’t want to buy sanitary protection?

Original poster
Hollanda · 02/05/2019 18:32

I would clearly not leave my babies alone at home for 2 seconds let alone a 10 minute shopping journey...

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NoSquirrels · 02/05/2019 18:32

How on earth could it POSSIBLY on any universe be unreasonable to ask the person you live with to pick up household goods? Especially if he’s going out later so you literally couldn’t go even if you wanted to.

If he’s buying bread and bog roll then he can buy anything else the shop sells- he’s hardly being asked for much, poor lamb.

YANBUinanyway

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