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Original poster

AIBU to ask my husband to pick up some bits on the way home?

167 replies

Hollanda · 02/05/2019 18:13

I realised I'd run out of Sanitary towels...and shampoo...and bubble bath...and we're out of toilet roll too. And husband is out tonight and I could do with a glass of wine but don't have any. Oh and we're pretty much out of bread too.

DH said I'm taking the proverbial. He asked me if I wanted anything so I told him......AIBU???

OP posts:
Megs4x3 · 02/05/2019 20:26

Goodness me - SHE didn’t run out of the basics THEY did. My husband does the bulk of the shopping on the way home from work and often asks me what we need on various days. I can text him 4 or 5 times during the day with things we need on occasion. If I’m out he might text me to ask if I can pick up something he’s thought of. I try to avoid requests for nuts and bolts though. Too many variables! What on earth is so irritating about being asked to do something when you’re out anyway. And yes, cheap sanitary towels are better than none. No toilet roll is disastrous.

CheshireChat · 02/05/2019 20:30

He was a bit of a prat, but how is he usually?

I normally get the basics and DP gets a list with the rest as he can drive and I can't (yet). He's fine with buying pads and stuff, but heaven forbid he has to buy shampoos or conditioner (he's bald). The palaver Grin.

GabsAlot · 02/05/2019 20:33

so why couldnt he get loo roll then

use his shirts

DontVisitMe · 02/05/2019 20:34

It's also called being organised

Are you always so rude?

CheshireChat · 02/05/2019 20:42

The 'Bring!' app is really good as you can make several shopping lists as share them with someone who then gets notified.

MirriVan · 02/05/2019 21:00

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BertrandRussell · 02/05/2019 21:17

All this bollocks about lists and store cupboards! The person going to the shop should get what’s needed. And not be an arse about it.

MonkeyToesOfDoom · 02/05/2019 21:35

"hey, can you get some milk, tampons, bread, loo roll and wine on your way home please"

If the answer is anything other than,
"Yeah, sure, no probs."
He's a dick.

If he didn't come back with full list of items his night out should be postponed for as long as it takes for you to go get the missing items.

It's called.being grown ups. For stomping, insults and tantrums is called being a child. Not picking up sanitry.product because he's a man and is embarrassed or whatever, that's beyond childish, thats absolutely pathetic.

Original poster
Hollanda · 02/05/2019 22:50

Thankfully his night out was short and I didn't need a shit.

V tired and in bed. He's getting bogroll after school run and I'm getting some too so we have a stockpile. Same with san pro. I haven't felt well this week so not as on it as I should be. Back at dr tomorrow. Bloody shingles.

OP posts:
notacooldad · 02/05/2019 23:00

Your request sounds like a standard day in our house.

There's usually a phone call from one of us to the other asking for things or one might ring up and say "I'm nipping into Tesco for .......whatever, do we need anything else?"

It's never been an issue in 30 years

We've never told the other one that they are taking the piss.
It's just teamwork.

Sofagirl · 02/05/2019 23:01

Look if you’re really desperate there’s always online shopping

happyhillock · 02/05/2019 23:04

@DontVisitMe
I wasn't being rude, i was stating my opinion

CheshireChat · 02/05/2019 23:30

Sofagirl but she won't get a slot tonight and they have quite high minimum spends so not really a fix.

However, he was really being a dick if you're unwell and he couldn't even be bothered to pick up some basics.

BlackPrism · 02/05/2019 23:31

I don't see the issue if he's out... DP often brings me crap I ask from the shop

BlackPrism · 02/05/2019 23:37

He often gets none essentials too - why wouldn't he if he's out and I want it? He's not my enemy... he's my partner

BertrandRussell · 02/05/2019 23:44

“Look if you’re really desperate there’s always online shopping”

This is one of those occasions when I think Mumsnet is actually another planet. Even if the shopping is 100% the OP’s job, why the fuck wouldn’t her dp help her out if she screwed up and ran out of a few things? They are a partnership- they love each other.

CaptainCabinets · 02/05/2019 23:52

My goodness this thread is nuts! Not once did OP say that her husband was embarrassed to buy sanpro, but the man haters have predictably jumped on to call him every name under the sun.

His exact phrasing was “I didn’t expect to be buying the whole shop”, which is probably something I’d say in jest if I received such a list.

Geeeeee whizzzz

BertrandRussell · 02/05/2019 23:53

“Not once did OP say that her husband was embarrassed to buy sanpro”
So why didn’t he buy it then? It’s either embarrassment or punishment.......

CaptainCabinets · 02/05/2019 23:57

As OP said, there was apparently only a single, cheap variety in the shop and he didn’t want to get those in case they weren’t suitable. I don’t think I’d fancy using cheap, scratchy pads. Also, OP found some in a drawer so she wasn’t without.

CheshireChat · 02/05/2019 23:59

He could've called and asked the OP what she wanted though.

Also, he didn't buy toilet paper either.

CaptainCabinets · 02/05/2019 23:59

It just sounds like a chaotic household, in all honesty. So many essential items to run out of all at once!

Nowt so queer as folk

CaptainCabinets · 03/05/2019 00:00

He might’ve just forgotten the toilet paper. I can’t think of a reason why he would’ve deliberately omitted it.

CheshireChat · 03/05/2019 00:02

Chaotic household because they've run out of a few things?! Not everyone has loads of money or storage to stock up on stuff so occasionally you run out.

BertrandRussell · 03/05/2019 00:05

My household is positively boringly unchaotic. But we are currently out of coffee, kitchen roll and cat food.

Queenie8 · 03/05/2019 00:06

My OH asks/texts every day on his way home "what do we need from the supermarket?"

It does not matter what it is he'll bring it home. Toilet roll (although we bulk order from amazon), bread, milk etc, and often they'll be a bar of posh dark choc or a bottle of rum in there if he knows I've had a crap day...... He's good like that 👍🏻

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