AIBU to ask my husband to pick up some bits on the way home?

[Hollanda]

I realised I'd run out of Sanitary towels...and shampoo...and bubble bath...and we're out of toilet roll too. And husband is out tonight and I could do with a glass of wine but don't have any. Oh and we're pretty much out of bread too.

DH said I'm taking the proverbial. He asked me if I wanted anything so I told him......AIBU???

Oh, god, the perfect housewives are out in droves on this thread.

Don’t worry about it, OP. I hope you feel better soon x

A chaotic household to not notice until all supplies are depleted, yep. How does one wipe their arse frequently with the toilet paper and not think ‘hmm, we’re running low on this so perhaps we ought to get some more before we’re using the curtains”?

Also a bit strange and dysfunctional to get straight on MN to hash out something so trivial rather than just opening one’s mouth and having a 1:1 discussion.

Gosh, I hope you don’t mean me when you speak of ‘perfect housewives’ as you’d be sorely disappointed to discover the truth.

I’d just like to think one of us might notice instead of just ignoring it until it becomes a problem, whether that’s me or DP.

TBF the OP has said there's 6 rolls misplaced somewhere in the house which is what's caused this issue in the first place.

Essentials, non essentials, who cares. Get stuff for the household/your partner.

DH regularly does the trip to the shops. Bog roll or milk, chocolate or wine, it matters not.

And yes, we've run out of toilet roll before. It happens.

They ran out of toilet paper. It's not the crime of the century. I think it's really shitty to dismiss the OP as "having a chaotic home" when you know absolutely nothing about her. She was just looking for some support and empathy, not to be put down and made to feel like shit.

You know, my sainsburys order fucked up, the other day (app has been down, took ages to make an order on the website which hadn't checked out properly) and the first thing DH said was "I can pop out after tea if there's anything we desperately need". It seems that owning a penis doesn't make it impossible to do a supermarket shop after work.

My mistake, I thought this was the AIBU section.

You know your cat will be giving you daggers, bertrand.

I regularly ask my DH to pick things up from the shop (Tesco express/Sainsbury's local) on the way home from work. He doesn't mind 99% of the time and will often text to ask me if I want anything. I am a stay at home mum and all my children are school age, oh and the shops are a 5 minute walk or 2 minute drive and I have a teenager so she can watch the younger ones while I pop out! But he still doesn't mind!

So in my opinion YANBU

Partner brought back Happy Cow cheese triangles instead of Laughing Cow. Reckless abandon with processed cheese products told me the responsibility of lone shopping was too much too soon for him. We are starting a phased return to the single shopper experience when he has completed his product recognition NVQ training.

I work from home sometimes and my dh will still go in the shops for me on his way back if I ask him.

He pretty much does anything for me though

Feeling a bit better today.I think he said it in jest (he's quite sarcasticat times) and I wasn't well. I possibly misinterpreted. I should have got milk and bread and the small essentials but honestly my mind wasn't right and I was tired.

He forgot loo roll but zipped to the shop this morning whilst the kids were eating breakfast and got me proper towels.

No we're not a chaotic house any more than any house with a toddler and 7 year old. No he doesn't go out all the time when I'm not feeling well. I had less than a glass of wine which promptly sleighed me and I fell asleep!!

Yeah struggling in to work for half day then I can have a rest this afternoon until DH picks up DS as he has Fridays off. :)

How odd. Whenever either of us is out we drop the other a message to check if there is anything we need/want.
Isn’t that normal behaviour in a partnership?!
Dh would do that for me in a heartbeat, as would I. We live rurally, so once we are home there’s no shops for miles so common sense that the person near or in town picks up anything.

Ps shingles and period at the same time sucks.

Surely if he bought anything, he should have prioritised loo roll!!!

If my partner asked I'd probably just ask him to get the essentials e.g. loo roll, sanitary towels and milk. Because they're the most important items

Why can't a parent go to the shop with a 7 and 2 year old!
This bit confused me?
Then you can get the bread, wine, bubbles and San pro that you desire!

“Why can't a parent go to the shop with a 7 and 2 year old! ”

She could. But why should she when there is someone else already out who has asked if anything’s needed..

i just asked my husband if he would buy me tampons if he was out and he said yes

I didn't say I couldn't go to the shop with the kids. I meant that right now feeling a bit under the weather it would be easier not to! The shop near DSs school gets overcrowded by kids at school run time and it's not great taking a buggy in. I should have got the essential bits. I honestly wasn't thinking right.

Buying some post it notes to stick on cupboards etc when we're low on items so we don't run out. Feeling less like death today so hopefully we got through the worst. I hate being ill, I'm usually the strong one who looks after everyone else. I hate relying on anyone lol. DH is lovely and genuinely didn't mind. I was being over sensitive.

@Hollanda slight derail lol but I am another sanitary towel user and about six months ago switched to reusable ones. They are lovely and soft and comfy and you will never run out. Might be worth thinking about switching? I did it for environmental reasons but I always used to forget to buy the disposable ones too and it was a panic every month! X

Why the fuck is all this judgement being heaped on the op?

She’s ILL ffs! Shingles/CP sends your brain on holiday and her h absolutely should have stopped off, for her the entire fucking lot and been happy to do so. It’s called partnership.

Her house doesn’t sound overly chaotic, she sounds ill and in need of a bit of a hand

Why can't a parent go to the shop with a 7 and 2 year old!
This bit confused me?

So instead of mildly inconveniencing a man and them buying things they'll also use, the woman, who isn't well, must pack up 2 children in a buggy and go herself?

Fuck me.. that's depressing..
How dare a lowly woman mildly inconvenience a man..

Because a significant number of mumsnetters are of the “warm his slippers and put a ribbon in your hair to welcome him home” tendency. It’s deeply depressing.

And it doesn’t matter whether the OP was ill or not. The household needed 7 items. One of the household was out and asked what was needed. And then, either through incompetence or passive aggression only got 5 of them.