To think parental leave should be 50/50?

[MunaZaldrizoti]

A system of mandatory use it or lose it. No one "gifting" anything to anyone, just equal entitlement...

I really feel that a good number of women see maternity leave as some sort of perk. And they don’t want to share it with the dad.

Of course some time off is needed after giving birth, but most women could physically go back to work after 3 months.
After that it is about spending time with baby (why couldn’t dad do this?) and let’s be honest it is also a nice time when days are spent making mum friends, having coffees, etc. It seems it is taboo to say it, but maternity leave is quite a nice break from work actually.

Then the women who insisted on taking a year long maternity go back to work and are annoyed that they are still the default caregiver.

I don't agree because then if a man didn't take his, the woman would only have 6 months rather than a year.

I think it should stay as it is and women should insist their partners take the leave if that's what they want.
It should be irrelevant who earns more, that just plays along with misogynistic views.
Plus if the woman went back to work and the man stayed at home the woman would be getting the promotions and be able to become bread winner if they wanted to, and the man could have a little pt job or be a sahp

JustTwo physically - yes, perhaps. Mentally, though, is far less clear cut.

Iau sounds to me like those countries value mothers. We don't, unless they behave as much like fathers as possible.

I wish my husband had got more. He got a month off from the birth. I had a year off. Tbh I'd like it if men did get more but not at the expense of women because women actually need it due to the impact on thier bodies. In an ideal world men would get a longer time off too in order to bond with their child and help the mum recover... I think that would benefit everyone.. but I cant se this happening due to the costs. If workplaces are losing both members of a couple for a year it's not going to be great! I'd like it to happen though... but if someones leave should be prioritised and protected it very much should be the mothers because of the physical and emotional toll of childbirth and breastfeeding on women.