Wife won’t make stepdaughter get a job

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So I have a stepdaughter of 20. An adorable good natured human being but is bone idle.

She left college last summer (after having an extra year for failing everything). Despite the extra year she achieved nothing. she is so bright but unmotivated.

Her mum and I agreed that she could have a month or two break before getting into work. Since then she has worked one day in a new job then quit. Since then nothing.

It’s almost a year now and it is driving me nuts, even more so as I have a very strong work ethic and don’t believe life is free.

She spends 7 days a week in her bedroom playing minecraft and other games. She never goes out, eats and makes zero contribution to the house whilst her mum and I work (very long hours)

I keep raising with my wife and nothing is being done - it’s as though my wife would be ok if her daughter was still doing the same thing for another 20years.

Tired of talking with nothing being done, tired of stepdaughter taking the P - now at the point where it’s a constant irritation and I have no idea what to do!!

Help!!

Yup, fetishisation of work and obedience is alive and kicking.
The problem is that this model is broken. 'A job, any job, at any cost' is no longer any kind of route to independence, self-respect, etc - it can easily be the opposite. Because the rise of the gig economy and the last 30 years of appallingly wrong and misguided economic policy which effectively transfers money from the poor to the rich have made being employed a pretty rubbish option for many people.
Whatever this young woman's issues, a stepfather who fancies himself as the family's saviour who must be obeyed is not going to help.

(Oh, and for PP asking how people should manage without work, we need UBI as soon as possible - to be paid for by increasing taxes on the wealthy - and doing away with all the snoopers and inspectors that currently cost the country far more in compensation for their fuckups than they 'save' in preventing 'benefit fraud'.)

What is 'loose women mate'?

Day time telly - Loose Women.
Infomral slang for friend - mate

You should be in Loose Women mate!

PS @differentnameforthis - you should be in loose women mate (please take that as a compliment, it’s truly meant as one)

@PandyCuff Confusing eh?

@CuriousaboutSamphire Oh so he means ON!

Well that's constructive .. not.

The revolution will be televised 🙄

TBF, I do see where Reanimated is coming from about this stepfather’s attitude, he’s got far too high an opinion of himself. And she’s not wrong about the job situation in this country, as is clear from the number in work needing to use food banks.

But for this girl’s own sake, something needs to change. I’d be far more concerned about the fact that she won’t leave her room; a 20 year old should want to have fun.

@different, yes I suppose on/in ...

Oh! 'You should be on Loose Women, mate.'

Never seen Loose Women. Can't imagine that was a genuine compliment, from what I have heard about the programme