Was I racist?

[tweetyfinch]

So I recently got into a really pointless argument with a friend of a friend. We were both drunk at the time. This was the first time I had met fof.

Anyways, we got on to the topic of me getting a recent promotion in work. He retorted that I only got this promotion because my workplace is trying to have more working class women in top jobs.

This really pissed me off so I said to him (his parents are Indian), that’s so not true; how would you feel if I said you only got your job because your corporation wanted more brown people?

(Yes I know I shouldn’t have said this but I was offended and it was jussive)

Anyways the night moved on and we were a bit frosty but ok by the end.

Fast forward 3 months later; I go to my friend’s party and get introduced to friend of friend again, and their shared friendship group. I could see two women whispering about me on the sofa but ignored it, thought they were likely wondering who I was. Later on in a chat someone quite forwardly asked me “are you quite right wing too?” er no!

The night continues and someone whispers to me that the friend of the friend was telling everyone I was a racist! WTF. So now an entire flat of professionals whom I may need to deal with in future think I’m some sort of racist.

Wht makes it worse is that my friend knew he was telling people!

Bertrand, brown is nôt a reclaimed word, it's a perfectly reasonable descriptive word. Some light skinned 'black' (mixed heritage) people also self identify as brown (or red). Yellow is more problematic as it's been used historically used in a derogatory way against some Asians, but also against light skinned people often of African American descent.

Yellow is an odd one - I've never met a Chinese person who looked "yellow", but I've met Caucasians who do.

And, no, they weren't jaundiced - just had a natural yellow tone.

Yellow is an odd one - I've never met a Chinese person who looked "yellow", but I've met Caucasians who do

I object to the terms Caucasian and white but yes, I am truly yellow, from head to toe.

Re ‘jussive’ didn’t the OP clarify shortly after she realised it had appeared in her post, that it was a typo?

@Blackbooty no...her OP said 'was jussive'. She then came back and 'clarified' "oops, that should have said 'was not jussive' 😂. Which made it clear that it definitely wasn't a typo, so had us even more mystified 🤦‍♀️

Ok I stand corrected . In that case, I’m as baffled as everyone else.

Ffs just stand up for yourself next time.

@choutted it refers to the yellow undertone that Asian skin has. Someone from that part of the world who has pale skin will have a yellow undertone as opposed to the pink undertone you tend to see in European skin.

Ffs just stand up for yourself next time.

This, frankly.

I never understand these posts when someone becomes aware another person has defamed them in some way and they basically ignore it.

I’d have gone up to him and asked ‘why are you telling people I’m racist? Are you misrepresenting the conversation we had where you actually WERE sexist and classist? Does this make you feel better about your own shortcomings?’

Twat.

And I and my family refer to our skin colour as brown more than any other as it’s most accurate and encompasses all of us as we’re a very mixed group.

Ok I stand corrected . In that case, I’m as baffled as everyone else.

I'm fairly sure "jussive" is youth speak for "justified". See also "well jel" for "very jealous".

I'll see if I can find the off switch for high-court judge pomposity now.

@MsKhan I agree- I'm brown too and see no offense in it at all!