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Not going on date if he won't pick me up?

356 replies

simpleskmonwent · 17/04/2019 12:40

It's my 3rd date with this guy.
He suggested on Saturday to go for a drive into the country and go for lunch and look around this village.
I thought that sounded great.
I live 25 min drive from him or 50 min train journey to his local city.
He said can you meet me at (his local train station) so that's a extra train and another 20 mins.
I said can we not meet in your city centre train station (as only 1 train for me) he said he couldn't park easy there.
So I have to get two trains and a 1hr 10 min journey to then go on a drive.
It's just putting me off.
Aibu here if I didn't go.
Then after a hours drive in the country he will drop me off at the train station for a 1hr journey and he drives 5 mins home.

OP posts:
HairycakeLinehan · 19/04/2019 15:22

Why are you putting kisses and smiley faces on this arseholes messages?!
Tell him what an embarrassment he is and block him!

FrenchSchnoodle · 19/04/2019 15:24

Block him, clap your hands twice, say 'next and move on.

TORDEVAN · 19/04/2019 15:39

My immediate translation of that emoji was a shoulder shrug / 'I don't know' arms 😅

Lweji · 19/04/2019 15:41

If you wanted to be sarcastic you'd send him a Biscuit and leave it at that.

Or just tell him you're too busy LTB this weekend.

BlackPrism · 19/04/2019 15:42

I think of you can't be bothered then clearly you don't like him enough to continue the relationship. One should be eager to see someone they like

BlackPrism · 19/04/2019 15:43

Also who owns DVDs anymore? Dot. Think I've owned one since I was 15

Sagradafamiliar · 19/04/2019 15:48

He's got a bike- what a perfect way to leave things, with him literally on it 😂

AwdBovril · 19/04/2019 15:52

"Better get on it then"

Motoko · 19/04/2019 15:54

But you put a kiss on the end! You don't put kisses on texts when you want to dump someone.

Stop skirting around the issue, and either send him a text to say it's not working for you, bye bye, or just block him.

ReSistingPink · 19/04/2019 15:56

You deserve better.
That's all there is to it. 🤷🏼‍♀️

SnowyAlpsandPeaks · 19/04/2019 16:00

Next.....

PotatoesDieInHotCars · 19/04/2019 16:01

You need to tell him straight cos I'm assuming he knows where you live and he doesn't know he's being dumped. You don't want him to turn up thinking you're lying in a broken heap at the bottom of the stairs. Eventually.

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 19/04/2019 16:01

Just block and delete this feckless idiot and be done with him.

Motheroffeminists · 19/04/2019 16:03

I own and watch dvds Hmm

cushioncovers · 19/04/2019 16:12

He sounds like hard work op. If I offered to take someone out for a drive in the country I would pick them up. Similarly if someone offered to take me out for a drive in the country I would expect to be picked up. Otherwise why bother suggesting it.

Belenus · 19/04/2019 18:54

I'd dump someone for buying a bike in Halfords instead of their local bike shop. Unless it was a Boardman bike and they were really hot and otherwise lovely, then I might let them off.

Motoko · 19/04/2019 19:21

There aren't many places that have a "local bike shop".

Belenus · 19/04/2019 19:25

I live right out in the sticks. My local bike shop is 10 miles away. May be stretching the definition of local but it's worth the trip. And that's unusual. When I've lived in larger towns and cities, rather than a village/ rural town, there's always been a local independent bike shop.

TheGodmother · 19/04/2019 19:57

Block him immediately and delete him as a contact .... NEXT!!!

Don't be sucked in by this idiot!

ReanimatedSGB · 19/04/2019 21:19

I don't think OP needs to be confrontational to prove she's a strong, independent woman. Just leave it where it is and don't bother with any further messages or dates.

CaptainJaneway62 · 19/04/2019 21:52

I hoped you have blocked and deleted him.
This guy is a manipulative , selfish idiot.
You deserve better.

Youmatter · 22/04/2019 01:57

I love how this turned to dump him because he didn’t support the local bike shop.

I still can’t get over the megabus and the fact he actually still purchases dvds.

You’re going to find someone who looks at you like I look at green pot noodles. With loyalty and love because they’re the only one for me.

Fuccccccck him.

Aeroflotgirl · 22/04/2019 08:46

I agree, it has only been the third date, and he is meant to be showing you his best side, good thing he is showing op exactly who he really is with his CBA attitude. If a date CBA and shows me that, I CBA either and it is bye bye!

TheWernethWife · 22/04/2019 08:54

I love buying DVDs, cannot imagine why someone would come on here and belittle people who do.

Aeroflotgirl · 22/04/2019 09:28

Nothing wrong with watching DVDs, why not, it would be great to have a night in, with some good DVDs and a pizza or take out, but that is not the point here. The man is a looser, and is showing op that he doesn't care about her.

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