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Not going on date if he won't pick me up?

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simpleskmonwent · 17/04/2019 12:40

It's my 3rd date with this guy.
He suggested on Saturday to go for a drive into the country and go for lunch and look around this village.
I thought that sounded great.
I live 25 min drive from him or 50 min train journey to his local city.
He said can you meet me at (his local train station) so that's a extra train and another 20 mins.
I said can we not meet in your city centre train station (as only 1 train for me) he said he couldn't park easy there.
So I have to get two trains and a 1hr 10 min journey to then go on a drive.
It's just putting me off.
Aibu here if I didn't go.
Then after a hours drive in the country he will drop me off at the train station for a 1hr journey and he drives 5 mins home.

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UCOinanOCG · 19/04/2019 13:31

Tell him not to bother contacting you again. Anyone who prioritises going to Halfords with their brother over meeting a woman is not worth investing in.

Original poster
simpleskmonwent · 19/04/2019 13:37

How I left it ...

Not going on date if he won't pick me up?
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Wellandtrulyoutnumbered · 19/04/2019 13:43

He sounds exactly like someone I used to know. Block and move on.

Aeroflotgirl · 19/04/2019 13:46

Just dump him, have some self worth op!

Motheroffeminists · 19/04/2019 13:52

Well done. Now block and delete

HollowTalk · 19/04/2019 13:52

What does "got a bike" mean?

Mosaic123 · 19/04/2019 13:53

I think he's mean with money. No good OP.

NaturatintGoldenChestnut · 19/04/2019 13:57

FFS, why are you even talking to this cunt? Honestly, get a self-esteem. He think you're just sitting round all weekend, ready to jump on the chance to spend money to service his needs. Fuck that. Grow a backbone and ghost him. He won't give a shit, anyhow.

Hereforthecomments · 19/04/2019 14:06

I thought he meant 'got a bike' as in him realising you meant 'on your bike'...but I've just noticed the Halfords post and nope he just thinks you're being funny/ playing hard to get!!

Block him and move on. How dare he let you down to go out with his brother at the last minute! As pp keep saying it will only get worse. I'm sure you get on and he's maybe a good laugh but the only person he cares about is himself. And just incase he tries it... do NOT listen if he says 'but we've only just met, taking it slow blah blah...'

Rubbish. You show respect if you're a decent human being and you go out your way to put effort in from the get go of you're really interested.

He's a selfish lazy twat, simple. Please block and move on before you get more emotionally involved because it it's only you and your self esteem that will get hurt.

Lweji · 19/04/2019 14:09

It reads as if he's got the message that you didn't like it but he's still keeping the conversation going by letting you know he's got a bike from Halfords.

Please ask him "why do you think I care?"

Honeyroar · 19/04/2019 14:14

Don't reply at all unless he mentions meeting up - then put that you're still washing your hair, nothing else.

Longdistance · 19/04/2019 14:15

Got a bike means he’s bought himself a bike at Halfords. He sounds about 10 years old. I hope you tell him to get on his bike and fuck off!

sue51 · 19/04/2019 14:17

He sounds selfish. It would be a no from me.

PotatoesDieInHotCars · 19/04/2019 14:20

He thinks you're joking. You put a smiley face and a kiss...

LumpyPillow · 19/04/2019 14:22

Seriously, what is wrong with you?

Why the are you replying at all, let alone replying with kisses and smiley faces???

Get a grip, seriously. His response shows that he has NO concern for you and that he let you down and upset you. He's ENJOYING playing you.

People are gonna stop wasting their breath/typing fingers on you soon OP.

Aeroflotgirl · 19/04/2019 14:27

Stop playing games, grow up and respect yourself! He would have been ditched long ago, you reap what you sow!

woollyheart · 19/04/2019 14:27

Well done! Now ignore him!

Mapril · 19/04/2019 14:28

Well tbh, that just looks like you said

‘Ok’

Confused

which is fine, if you’re happy with it. But I’d be getting used to Megabus and Halfords in that case.

NWQM · 19/04/2019 14:30

What did you mean by the emotive you sent? Honestly just leave it.

TanquerayTickles · 19/04/2019 14:31

Tell him to get on his bike back to Halfords then fuck off on the megabus home.

Honestly, ditch this loser now.

churchthecat · 19/04/2019 14:37

Why are you bothering?

Notwiththeseknees · 19/04/2019 14:49

Enjoy your dates - looking forward to the update in a few weeks. You've shown him you have no pride and will take his behaviour without hesitation. My now DP used to drive 90 miles e/w (pretending he was just passing) just to call into my house for a chat and a cuppa - and no, that's not a euphemism Grin

Justmuddlingalong · 19/04/2019 15:07

Your message was a bit of a cop out. Why the hug and kiss? He's playing you like a fiddle because he's an arse and can see you putting up with his shit. You're being a fool to yourself.

NaturatintGoldenChestnut · 19/04/2019 15:09

You seem to enjoy mind games with twats.

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simpleskmonwent · 19/04/2019 15:20

I thought that was a sarcastic emoji rather than a hug
Won't be replying again

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