Not going on date if he won't pick me up?

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It's my 3rd date with this guy.
He suggested on Saturday to go for a drive into the country and go for lunch and look around this village.
I thought that sounded great.
I live 25 min drive from him or 50 min train journey to his local city.
He said can you meet me at (his local train station) so that's a extra train and another 20 mins.
I said can we not meet in your city centre train station (as only 1 train for me) he said he couldn't park easy there.
So I have to get two trains and a 1hr 10 min journey to then go on a drive.
It's just putting me off.
Aibu here if I didn't go.
Then after a hours drive in the country he will drop me off at the train station for a 1hr journey and he drives 5 mins home.

Get rid.

Know your worth. For your own dignity text him to tell him you don’t want to meet again. He’s not interested (or is a ridiculously lazy arsehole, a baaaaad sign if you want a nice house, kids etc). Move on and get back to searching elsewhere.

DH agrees, he’d drive to pick me up in the middle of the night, from central London with kids in the back. He was also super keen when we first met, scary but it’s a sign he’s actually interested in you and not just getting laid.

If he had any interest in you, he would be happy to pick you up. If he was even a polite person, he would pick you up. The "nowhere to park" excuse is bullshit--people have cellphones, he could pick you up at a corner. What a lazy fuck. The fact that he didn't even bother to drive you all the way home after your day out is quite telling. Who needs that shit?

What a wanker. Dump immediately.

Even before the Halfords debacle he was obviously a waste of your time.

Onwards and upwards, OP!

Cruel/disgraceful.

Hes either completely thick and useless or he did that on purpose because you questioned and didn't go along with his demands and plans. Putting you in your place.

You don't want either option, do you?

I can't believe you were still available for him to contact today. Should have dumped him by now.

After that update?

Get a backbone and ghost him. Don't be so ridiculous.

Omg
Call some friends immediately and go out with them
I hate to say this op. But you should have binned off in the first instance

Lesson is. KNOW YOUR WORTH

And block him

I wouldn’t even reply, tbh.

Why on earth did you agree to go out with him. You are so low down on his priorities.

You've had lots on good advice here. Tell him that you are not interested.

Dump him. He’s shown you where you come in his list of priorities - below a trip to Halfords

Why are you upset? You should be furious at his insolvent behaviour.

Insolent not insolvent!

I agree with others
Just block. He doesn't even deserve to have a dialogue of any sorts with you after that. Not even a “this isn’t working for me”

I’ve done it. Someone fucked me around , i gave a second chance. Then just thought fuck this for a game of soldiers. I am actually worth making an effort to be with, and it’s your loss fuckwit.

To be honest, it sounds like he is getting amusement from how much he can insult you and force inconvenience on you, but still be able to string you along with the promise of another date.

I don't know many people who deserve this, and I'm sure you don't. You deserve much more respect and consideration and you will find it somewhere else.

Ghost him 👻

I'd be tempted to arrange for him to pick me up tomorrow for a date then when I knew he was around halfway there text and say "nvm cant make it today, have other plans". Then dump.

Defiinitely bin. He is almost certainly seeing how much you will put up with and how desperate you are to be In A Relationship. You can do better than him. Being single forever would be better than being with a man like this.

Yes, do as @PotatoesDieInHotCars suggests, but tell him something more important has come up and you are going to have your boils lanced as a treat.

Just block him. He'll know why.

He stood you up for Halfords!

Op unless you want a lifetime of posting on mumsnet about your lazy ass DB DF and DH then dump dump dump. Don’t take it personally, he is an arse. Move onwards and upwards. (Steep uphill upwards)

To be honest, it sounds like he is getting amusement from how much he can insult you and force inconvenience on you, but still be able to string you along with the promise of another date.

Yup

Are you desperate for a man, any man, so long as you have one? Because that's how you're coming across. After admitting you didn't fancy him loads, and after he's shown you what he's like, and after the masses of pps advising you to just dump him, you still agreed to meet him today!

Have some respect for yourself.

Block him, or regret it.

God myself all ready and he's just text saying he can't make today as he is going to Halfords with his brother and is out with him today.

He's playing you. Block him and move on.

Honestly, there are other men out there and even if there weren't you don't need him in your life.

Op have some self worth and self respect and end it! He will keep treating you like that as you allow him to.