Not going on date if he won't pick me up?

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It's my 3rd date with this guy.
He suggested on Saturday to go for a drive into the country and go for lunch and look around this village.
I thought that sounded great.
I live 25 min drive from him or 50 min train journey to his local city.
He said can you meet me at (his local train station) so that's a extra train and another 20 mins.
I said can we not meet in your city centre train station (as only 1 train for me) he said he couldn't park easy there.
So I have to get two trains and a 1hr 10 min journey to then go on a drive.
It's just putting me off.
Aibu here if I didn't go.
Then after a hours drive in the country he will drop me off at the train station for a 1hr journey and he drives 5 mins home.

I am not sure I would date someone who doesn't drive / have a car so perhaps that was his mistake in the first place

A lot of people just don't need cars and it would be a useless expense. I do have a license but I've never owned a car. Does that really make me undatable?

Those who don't drive are thrown on the scrapheap on Mumsnet.

What a joker!!!! As if he suggested you get a megabus to his 😂😂😂 Errr no thanks!!! My husband used to drive across the city to pick me up for all dates in the beginning (even though I also drove and had a car) and always ensured I was dropped home safely. After several dates, we started taking the train and meeting in the city so we could both drink and he used to walk me to a black cab home. Of course I drove us places/ travelled to him etc eventually but in the honeymoon period he really made an effort to show me how keen he was. This guy sounds like a lazy arse to be honest!!

“If I have to come to you”. I hope you replied “no you don’t need to come to me. Not ever.”

You dodged a bullet OP
He's just not that into you.
If he was, he'd move heaven and earth to get to see you.
I hate a mean/tight person.

Im in a fairly new relationship and right at the beginning my dh was dropping and picking up my teenage daughter if i was working or couldnt do it...i have repaid the favour by looking after his elderly mum when she broke her arm...this is what you do when you are really keen on someone...

He doesn't sound very keen on you, you don't sound very keen on him. There's no point. Call it a day.

My bf - now husband used to drive an over an hour back an to, just so we could spend an hour together a couple of times a week.

I didn't drive at the time and we had just started dating.

He can't even be arsed to meet you at a station near his home. Fuck him. You can do much better.

Bone idle, fuck him off.

Going for a drive is what my 70something 70something parents do for fun, joining the chorus of bin him off!

Bit of a update
Last night he said shall we go out today and he will pick me up
He said he had zero plans so I was like ok that's good.
God myself all ready and he's just text saying he can't make today as he is going to Halfords with his brother and is out with him today.
After saying he had zero plans
So now I'm sat all ready with no plans feeling upset.
All my friends are out with family/kids etc

Oh that's crap. But again, he's made it crystal clear that he is not putting you first and won't put himself out - even in the honeymoon period. So you know he's not worth it.

Come on OP, he's just seeing you as an option. Get the fucker dumped. He's not going to morph into the guy you want him to be.

What were you going to do today before last night?

Oh that’s shit 💐. He has now made it very clear that he’s not only lazy but also flakey. It’s lovely weather so is there anything you can do to treat yourself today. You have had a lucky escape in a way to find out at any early stage that this guy is a waste of time which is a good thing. Do something nice today if you can.

Dump him. He's just not that into you! You're a convenient distraction, nothing more.

Block/delete and don't waste another second on this guy

At best he can't be tested. At worst he's done it to punish you.

I'm torn between ghosting him and making him drive to your area to tell him you're dumping him.

Sorry, he just not that into you.

The lack of him making any effort to go out of his way was the first clear indicator, the second is him saying "if he has to" the third is him bumping you off to go to Halfords with his brother!

Block / Ghost and move on

After last update, you know your importance to him, i.e. none

He's shown you what he's like and he won't get better

BIN ! 🚷

Sorry:
At best he can't be trusted

Oh OP he’s awful!

Ive been reading that nice thread in relationships, set your standards by that. You’re way better off rid of this loser

op, this is not the one for you - he's barely interested at all. Some other man out there is more suited to you and will be. Please throw this one back in the sea for some other poor soul to deal with!

The fact that you can’t be bothered and clearly neither can he tells me this relationship is not going to last the distance.

I met OH at a festival and we lived in different countries. During our dating period he’d travel 5 hours by train to see me. Sometimes we’d both travel for hours to meet halfway. Neither of us minded as we were desperately keen to spend time together (Skype just isn’t the same!).

Both of us are happily living together now. Neither of us particularly like travelling - especially on public transport. However back then we genuinely didn’t mind as we were so looking forward to seeing each other.

I think you both need to move on.

How very rude of him.

Try not to give him another thought. He really isn't worth it.

He's an arse. Tell him to knob off!