About a different meal to the one that's been slaved over?

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Person A thinks that's what's been served for dinner (2 adults, 2 DC under 7) is what we're eating. End of. If you don't like it, you don't eat it, that's your choice. It's delicious and not "out there" or very unusual.

Person B thinks if you've never had it before, try it a little and then say you don't like it, it's ok for you to be made an alternative just for you, so you don't go hungry.

Who is BU?

For further info it's one of the DC refusing the food.

It's squash risotto with sage and pine nuts so quite "adult" depending on your perspective / diet.

And the replacement alternative was a ham and cheese wrap, no cooking involved.

Ihave Brillo hair she had multiple admissions to hospital with failure to thrive. Once her anxiety was cycling she couldn’t eat. She was severely underweight from about 3/4 months due to intolerances that made eating painful for her and she decided the smart thing to do was not to eat.

I can’t believe that you think it’s so fucking funny. She was underweight to the point where she had to have high calorie supplements. And still struggles with eating now.

@ihavebrillohair she was first admitted at 7 or 8 months old specifically for to try to make her eat because she wouldn’t eat. It took 4 of them to pin her down to try to force feed her and I discharged her that time with my hv amd gp total support. Fucking hilarious it was.

It doesn't always have to be multiple meals either. I do loads of family meals where I adjust one portion slightly to suit tastes. For example tonight I made jerk chicken, wedges and salad.
DD doesn't like jerk seasoning so I flavour one portion with something else, takes an extra 2 seconds.
DS doesn't like potatoes so I chop up a sweet potato and Chuck it in the same dish as the wedges.
I make little tweaks as otherwise DD wouldn't have eaten the chicken and DS wouldn't have eaten the potato so it would have all gone to waste!

Yes, that's what's confusing me about this thread. No one's saying that parents should be cooking multiple meals, but that if a child doesn't like what's been prepared then they shouldn't be forced to eat it and can have something easy rather than go to bed hungry.

But there are. PP ^ on this page alone has said 'just give them something nutritious and that they enjoy eating.'. As you can't feed your child toast/fruit every dinnertime then the implication is you cook them what they want to eat every night, which is not fair to the rest of the family.

We're an 'A' household.

But I would have served the cheese separately, so the children had some level of control over the taste. Risotto is a staple in our house, as others have pointed out, it's a good weaning dinner so we've eaten it together forever.

If they left it, move on, try again tomorrow. No big deal.

Ihavebrillohair you’re actually laughing at something that nearly killed my child. That has had a lasting impact or her health and well-being. She had to have baby teeth extracted due to the supplements and the acid reflux she had. She’s had mouth ulcers so painful she cried for weeks and weeks with them.

She still wouldn’t eat.

Fucking hell I can’t believe you actually laughed at that. You’re a disgrace.

Oh whatever.
Clearly your situation isn't what's being talked about, but you knew that anyway.
You just decided to make it all about you

MN and food, total orthorexic weirdos.

@Whodaheck I suspect you know very well brillo wasn't laughing at your dd.

You also said you would 'literally starve'. But you're an adult and manage your own dietary needs (unless you're going to drip feed us).

Can we have a bit of peace and love?

PP ^ on this page alone has said 'just give them something nutritious and that they enjoy eating.'. As you can't feed your child toast/fruit every dinnertime then the implication is you cook them what they want to eat every night, which is not fair to the rest of the family.

What I meant was more related to the OP which is that if a meal is tried and rejected I wouldn't expect either a whole new meal made or a hungry child. I understand it's difficult if there are multiple children with different likes and dislikes. I think what cricketmum84 says is what I recognise most though. Meals with multiple elements that are easily adjustable to different tastes. When I was a child we often ate very plain food which I didn't like but I would add things like a lime pickle or chilli sauce to it to make it more enjoyable for me and I would never be offended if DS wanted to do that.

Why is it laughable that a child would starve instead of eat lily? Why is that ok to laugh at?

Oh Lily. Whoever thought a squash and sage risotto could cause such disharmony!

Gosh there's some parents making a rod for their own back here. I'm not surprised their kids are fussy.
But of course I'm cruel to get them to eat it another time.
Just cook what they like, it isn't difficult and don't give in to fussy eaters, there's no need.
If you allow them to eat peas because they enjoy them, don't give in tomorrow when they say they don't.

I would like the recipe for the risotto!

Romany, I agree with you when you day about the peas, if they like them, they like them, deciding not to like them is not happening.
That's not a dislike, that's being a fussy PITA.

Exactly, we all have different tastes and I'd never have made them eat something they didn't like or continue if full.
I just think it's much easier to be firm to begin with.
It never did them any harm, all grown up now with no issues, their tastes have changed over the years, and there are still things they don't like.
My dh won't eat offal, the idea just puts him off, but he eats everything else.

You never made them eat something they didn't like but you'd put food in the fridge and bring it out meal after meal?

I just cook meals that take account of everybody’s preferences. It’s not hard. And I didn’t expect small children to want to eat all the same food as adults, so I compromised.

Why don't children and adults eat the same food?

Why don't children and adults eat the same food?

Why don't all adults eat the same food?

But if you never offer children anything new, how will they know whether they like it or not?

spriggy

You only have to do it once. Don't eat it tonight have it for tea tomorrow. Have you never eaten leftovers
There are people starving, I don't do fussy, there really is no need, well for us there wasn't. Other people find their own way, or put up with fussy.
I wasn't prepared to do that. I can promise you they have no food issues and can't remember it really. Not something they ever talk about, no issues. Daughter has no food issues but plenty of her friends have.

Yes, I've eaten leftovers but that's not at all what you described which was repeatedly presenting a food that your children had rejected over and over until they submitted and ate it.

Children’s taste and digestive systems aren’t mature so they can’t and shouldn’t eat everything adults do. And most adults eat a lot of rubbish - plain nutritious food is best for DC.

Children’s taste and digestive systems aren’t mature so they can’t and shouldn’t eat everything adults do ... plain nutritious food is best for DC.

Pure bollocks

DC inevitably encounter all sorts of new food as they grow up. But it is totally unnecessary to force this. None of our DC have ever been forced to eat something they don’t like - but they have all grown up to have wide ranging appetites and to like lots of vegetables ;)

“plain nutritious food is best for DC.”

What, like a simply cooked dish of vegetables, rice and a little cheese? That sounds like a plan...............