About a different meal to the one that's been slaved over?

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Person A thinks that's what's been served for dinner (2 adults, 2 DC under 7) is what we're eating. End of. If you don't like it, you don't eat it, that's your choice. It's delicious and not "out there" or very unusual.

Person B thinks if you've never had it before, try it a little and then say you don't like it, it's ok for you to be made an alternative just for you, so you don't go hungry.

Who is BU?

For further info it's one of the DC refusing the food.

It's squash risotto with sage and pine nuts so quite "adult" depending on your perspective / diet.

And the replacement alternative was a ham and cheese wrap, no cooking involved.

I do not know anyone who would serve that to children and I eat at friends houses a lot, the adults WANT them to eat something they actually like. It’s not come dine with me, give them something they will bloody like to eat. It’s not difficult.

It's perfectly possible to like burgers and not, for example, peas.

“I do not know anyone who would serve that to children and I eat at friends houses a lot, the adults WANT them to eat something they actually like.”

But how do you know they wouldn’t? I’m in the give it a try camp- then cereal or sonething if they don’t like it. But i’m also in the get them to try everything camp.

Option A all the way, and that would be the only option for most children sitting down to dinner around the world. In our house, there would have been veg/bread/salad/olives on the table with a squash risotto (yum, by the way). What's cooked is what's for dinner and no really hated foods will be served. No one HAS to finish their dinner, but no alternative is on offer.

This ain't a cafe.

I do not know anyone who would serve that to children and I eat at friends houses a lot

I don't know anyone who wouldn't think that was a perfectly reasonably thing to send to a child. I guess we don't have any mutual friends!

Send to? Serve to!

“I do not know anyone who would serve that to children”

But there isn’t really a reason not to offer it, is there? Why wouldn’t a child stand the same chance as an adult if enjoying it? No complicated cutting up, soft texture, reasonably bland taste (no chilli) etc.

Kids get used to what they get used to, there isn’t any intrinsically kid-categorised food, surely?

I just googled sage & squash risotto.

It looks like sick. Who would really expect anyone to eat this?

If your sick looks like that, I think you should possibly see a doctor.

It looks like sick. Who would really expect anyone to eat this?

How old are you?

Quite a lot of things look like sick - soup, mince, ice cream - do you eat them?

Eliza - you really can't imagine someone liking pumpkin and rice? It is a really common combo of ingredients. You have lived an insular life.

We have a rule that you can never say 'yuck' or insult other people's food. You can decline politely after trying a token amount, then fill up on sides.

it looks like sick. Who would really expect anyone to eat this?

If my five year old said that I’d be ashamed of him.

I think it’s meant to look more like www.grossetooggi.net/archivi/immagini/2014/R/risotto-zucca-e-pinoli-groggi.jpg

Ok, that second picture does look a bit more Iike sick, I'll admit

Screaming, so when by FiL deliberately chose a child-unfriendly food - poached smoked haddock with bones, green beans and boiled potatoes - for my deeply anxious 2 year old with digestive issues, so that he could berate me for my poor parenting leading to his fussiness, DS should have eaten it all?

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I don't think you can have read my post fully. I said Unless you have an allergy, intolerance or illness - presumably the digestive issues are the result of one of those three.

And more importantly I said you should eat what you're served or do without I didn't say anything about forcing people to eat meals they dislike.

My options were eat it or leave it, not eat it willingly or have it forced down your throat.

Quite a lot of things look like sick - soup, mince, ice cream - do you eat them

No soup I make looks like sick. Neither does ice cream or mince.

Depends on the sick, depends on the soup.

But if you are unintelligent enough to compare risotto to sick, then you’re no doubt unintelligent enough to pointedly deny anything you make ever resembles sick, ad nauseam.

I like my risotto to have a consistency like

Why is it "unintelligent" to compare risotto to sick? Seems a bit of sweeping generalisation to make.

If a child of mine said that someone else’s food looked like sick I would go ballistic!

I love risotto but butternut is too sickly sweet. Deffo baby food.

“Screaming, so when by FiL deliberately chose a child-unfriendly food - poached smoked haddock with bones, green beans and boiled potatoes - for my deeply anxious 2 year old with digestive issues, so that he could berate me for my poor parenting leading to his fussiness, DS should have eaten it all?”

He sounds like a absolute arsehole.. But apart from the bones (which obviously is a massive issue) why is that a child unfriendly meal?

Yeah just pick the bones out and it's fine. That is a meal that my 2 year olds wouldn't have batted an eyelid at tbh. Fish and potatoes aren't triggering for digestive issues.

Fish can be. Especially smoked.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/allergies/1626797-Allergy-to-smoked-salmon-but-not-regular-salmon

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