To think you don't call or refer to your parents-in-law as Mum and Dad

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One of my brothers calls his wife's parents Mum and Dad. We come from a close family and our parents are still together ..... I find this weird and disrespectful to our parents.
DB's wife calls our parents Joe and Freda.... I call my DH's parents Bob and Maggie (and he calls my DPs Joe and Freda) and our sister also uses given names rather than "Mum and Dad" for her in-laws.
AIBU ? I would hate for my kids to be calling another woman "Mum"!
(The idea for this question came from the thread about step parents being called Mum and Dad....)

I call my in laws by their given names and Dh does the same with mine. He actually calls his own parents by their given names too. I couldn’t call ils man and dad.

My mum called her PIL Mum and Dad, but referred to them by name. Didn’t seem weird. But I definitely use first names with my PIL.

In the Asian culture it would be deemed extremely rude not to refer your ILs as mum and dad.

My Mum and Dad this, I didn't understand it at all!

I just called my inlaws by their first names.

I know quite a lot of people who refer to their in laws as mum and dad.
As long as the in laws don't object, I don't see the problem.

It’s an older generational thing to do when it was considered disrespectful to call your in-laws by their given names. I can’t do it - I have a mum and dad, so it feels wrong to call anyone else mum or dad.

Some people do, some don't, often its regional or cultural.

The very very old couple next door refer to each other as Mother and Father, which I fund odder!

I think it's really odd. I'd never call my in laws Mum and Dad, because they're not my mum and dad.

I think it was like how I had to call my Mum's friends and female neighbours 'Aunty' and their first name. Even thought they were not my Aunts!

I studiously avoid calling my PIL anything tbh. I'd never ever call them mum and dad, but their given names seem a bit intimate too.

I find this so odd when people call their in laws mum and dad and to be honest I think it’s usually done by lower class people

I think it's an old fashioned thing

My mum always called her MIL mum. They were very close, as my other grandma was a controlling abusive narcissist and my mum eventually went NC.
It's not that weird.
If your parents don't like it can't they just talk to her?
Not sure how it's disrespectful.

It's a personal choice, if they're comfortable with it then why should you care? Just butt out.

My parents do it with their in-laws. I'd never do it with mine!

Though I do often call them by their grandparent name to their faces by accident as I'm so used to them being called that!! "Cup of tea nanny??"

I called my exs mum mum, it would be really rude not to call inlaws mum/dad

My father called his MIL "Mum" to her face, but not when he was talking about her to someone else - it would be "my mother in law", or "your mother" (if talking to my mum) or "your granny" etc. It just seemed normal to me.

I don't do it myself though, my MIL has a name and I use it.

King Harold, to Shrek: "Oh please, call me dad!"

Not weird at all. Normal and expected in some cultures. Not a class thing - I’m very middle class and I call my PIL mum & dad. But that’s not what I call my own parents so perhaps that makes it easier?

It's generational and cultural I think. I don't do it personally but my parents did and it was nice. Certainly by the time they passed away my grandparents were as close to their children in law as to their own children so it didn't feel inappropriate.

I couldn't do it. Maybe acceptable if you're from Alabama where your parents are also your in-laws.

(Sorry, Alabama!)

Sometimes it’s a cultural thing to call in laws mum and dad.

My mum and dad did this to their inlaws.
I tend to call my MIL "your mum, Dave's mum" so I incorporate the mum bit.
(husband not really called Dave)