If your child stole money off you and admitted it as an adult, would you request they pay the money back?

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DD has admitted she stole around £500 off of me between the ages of 14-16. She is 20 now and has admitted it. Would you expect her to pay the money back?

I believe she has told you for a reason to gauge your reaction. She is working towards telling you something. Whatever she says be supportive calm and caring. You are not her therapist. She probably wishes to address issues that are taking over her life. If my child said they stole £500 for food to over eat I would be very concerned about her mental well being. l

Is she okay for money? Does she live with you? I had a friend when i was younger whose parents demanded money from her that she had stolen and she went into a small debt to pay them back and j swear to you that little loan she took out spiralled and she’s still oaying off debts stemming from that one. Depends on her situation financially? Maybe ask her for £50 a month until it’s paid

That much... That's a month's rent/mortgage, a holiday for one person.

Damned right, even if it's in installments over a year.

If you have other children I would insist some money is paid to them. Your child should not profit from stealing under any circumstances. Any children you have that have not stolen should not miss out.