To think it's not unreasonable

[PinkGlitter123]

To stop hugging your male friend goodbye once you have a partner? Just dont feel its appropriate but he called me out on it earlier and asked me if he had done something wrong

I hug my male friends and I’m still married after 10 years.

Err I hug male friends and I’m married. Why is it inappropriate?

It’s a hug UBVU.

I hug people if I love them no matter their gender. Hugs aren't inappropriate unless you're lunging groin-first (and fair play if that's how you hug).

I can't see why having a partner would stop you hugging someone hello or goodbye?

It’s weird to stop hugging people just because you’ve got a partner. If the contact wasn’t sexual before then it doesn’t need to stop when you’re in a relationship.
Was you and this friend more than just friends in the past? I can’t understand why you’d do this otherwise.

YABU. I hug my friends, male and female. I’m bisexual so I always find the mad, heteronormative, stupid rules straight people make about their opposite-sex friends a bit absurd anyway.

I've been with my husband for 6 years, married for 3, we have a daughter and I still hug my male friends (and kiss them on the cheek when we say hello and goodbye)! YABVU

Just dont feel its appropriate

Why not?

Do you have quickie sex with them when you hug? No? Then it's fine

(Your thread title on the other hand.... )

I hug and cheek-kiss my male friends in the same way that I do my female friends. We're not snogging with tongues, ffs...

I hug my male friends goodbye and my DH's male friends who he knew before he met me but I've now known them a decade. By not hugging him you are almost inferring there is/was something between you.

Of course YABU, your poor friend! Why on earth did it even cross your mind that you should stop hugging him just because you have a partner? It's not inappropriate, it's a fucking hug between friends!

I hug male friends and I'm married
Yab weird

Bit surprised by these answers. There was nothing between us, I just felt I shouldn't hug him when I got with someone. I think because he was/is going through a hard time, he took it personally

Because it’s not normal to stop doing a perfectly natural thing with a friend,

He took it personally because it was unnecessary and for all the reasons PPs have given. Not because he's had a hard time.

How odd is this, it's like something from some weird strict religion.

Op, if the hugging was innocent why stop? Unless you were secretly coping a feel?

I hug all my - and our - male friends AND kiss them on the cheek. There was nothing going on before I got married so why should it change now?

I'm married and hug and kiss my male friends. My DH hugs and kisses female friends.
What's the issue? 🤷

A hug and kiss on the cheek is a perfectly normal way to greet someone you know well ! Heck ! I set a friend up with one of my best friends and still hug him 🤷‍♀️

Also don't move to Europe, it's all about the double cheek kisses over there ! I love it !

I'm not surprised he took it personally. That's just weird. I have one close male friend that I always hug and vice versa, usually a kiss on the cheek too. I have a DH, he has a DW and to the best of my knowledge neither of them have a problem with it.

Why would you suddenly stop hugging a male friends just because you suddenly have a partner? If you're expecting your partner to do the same with any of his female friends then I think you might be in for a rude awakening.

op do you really see a hug as a sexual act?

You are confusing a hug with something sexual

I hug all my friends, male and female. If you have a partner who is bothered by that I'd be worried about him being controlling and whether there's any trust in the relationship.