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To not pay for this ticket

127 replies

SquashedToes · 09/04/2019 13:10

DD (15)'s friend bought her a ticket to a 'meet the celebrity' type event for her birthday (£30) about a month ago, friend did check beforehand it was ok. Last week something came up which means DD can no longer go, event was 2 weeks away at that point. DD told her friend and gave her the ticket back, friend has now asked her to pay for it as she can't find someone else to go. AIBU to not pay friend for ticket or should I just pay?

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LetsGroove2nite · 09/04/2019 13:11

100% you should pay!

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 09/04/2019 13:11

DD should pay. She told the friend it was ok, she made the commitment to that first.

LetsGroove2nite · 09/04/2019 13:12

Or find someone to take DDs place if that's agreeable with her friend

InACheeseAndPickle · 09/04/2019 13:12

I would pay, since DD had committed, you could always try and sell the tickets on as a pair to recoup the price.

VapeVamp12 · 09/04/2019 13:12

Yeah you or your DD should pay.

Tomtontom · 09/04/2019 13:13

Your daughter should pay.

Seeleyboo · 09/04/2019 13:13

You absolutely should pay and then recoup this from you DD. Imo you should pay for both now as i suspect the other girl won't go alone and has lost out to an event and her money too. I've always raised my kids that is you commit you go. End of.

Sirzy · 09/04/2019 13:13

Of course you should pay!

Hwory · 09/04/2019 13:13

What’s come up?

user1494055864 · 09/04/2019 13:13

Yes of course you should pay.

SuchAToDo · 09/04/2019 13:14

Can the thing that has come up not be rescheduled or shuffled around so that dd can still go with her friend to the meet the celebrity event?

BlackCatSleeping · 09/04/2019 13:15

Have I misunderstood? It was a birthday present, right?

ShirleyPhallus · 09/04/2019 13:16

Of course you should pay. How on earth could you think you wouldn’t?

Feel very sorry for the friend who now hasn’t got someone to go with to this event either, esp so short to the event

whitesoxx · 09/04/2019 13:16

You need to pay. What is the event that has come up?

If the girl doesn't want to go alone that's £60 for nothing and she checked it was ok first

Claw01 · 09/04/2019 13:16

It was a gift to your dd for her birthday and I assume the friend who got it for is going too?

MyKingdomForBrie · 09/04/2019 13:17

Wow yes you should pay and you should feel very bad for the friend.

cornflakegirl · 09/04/2019 13:20

If it was a present, then the friend is no more out of pocket than if they had gone. No need to pay. Unless DD is demanding a replacement present?

Nicknacky · 09/04/2019 13:22

Please don’t shaft a 15 year old girl who tried to do a lovely thing.

It’s £30. Just pay it even if “morally” you don’t need to. Your daughter has let her down and she is probably upset about that.

edwinbear · 09/04/2019 13:26

Was it a gift though? Which your DD's friend bought for her? If so, then no, you don't need to pay. It was a gift from your DD's friend to your DD. Your DD is perhaps a bit ungrateful to not go along and enjoy the gift, but it's no different to being bought a jumper that you stick at the back of a wardrobe and never use.

sparklefarts · 09/04/2019 13:26

jesus of course you should pay!

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SquashedToes · 09/04/2019 13:27

oh wow, I didn't expect it to be so clear cut! I do feel bad now.

Actually a bit of a drip feed (sorry - I expect I'm going to get slated), there is a practical reason in that there was some confusion about dates and DD needs a lift from us and we are out all day at an event. There is another reason I am not racing to resolve this in that DDs friend was found to be shoplifting a couple of weeks ago and DD doesn't really want to go out with her in case she gets into trouble.

Just for clarity DDs friend had already arranged to go months ago with another friend DD doesn't know. The two of them are still going, DD was just joining them.

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Original poster
SquashedToes · 09/04/2019 13:27

yes it was a gift.

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JustAWaferThinMint · 09/04/2019 13:27

What was the something else that has come up that your DD has binned her friend off to do instead?

Of course she should pay, as the friend would not have bought the ticket if your DD hadn’t said she was free.

HavelockVetinari · 09/04/2019 13:29

Yeah, you should pay for both tickets, the poor friend won't go alone and it's your DD's fault for not going.

What is the thing that 'suddenly came up'?

PooFlower · 09/04/2019 13:29

Even if the thing is as serious an operation or exam, I would still pay the friend. You can't leave a 15 year old out of pocket.
Perhaps you could get the tickets off friend, refund the money and try and re-sell the tickets.

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