To be annoyed with friend

[NC080419]

NC for this...

Friend is getting married this month and I am bridesmaid so have been helping her out. A few months ago she was talking about first dance songs, her and her DF are rockers so she was thinking along them lines.

As part of the convo I said that xyz song is mine and DP's song and it will be first dance when we get married because when it was first released he text me two lines from it, and I responded with the next two, we have been to see the band numerous times together, always sing it in the car to each other, cheesy stuff like that.

At the weekend she told me she is currently "trying to convince" her DF to use xyz song for their first dance, but he isn't convinced. All I text back was "that's mine and DPs song because...(reasons listed above)" I know I told her that was our song and the reasons, but I told her again. She still seems dead set on using it.

I have bent over backwards for her for the last two years as the other bridesmaid hasn't been helping (lives abroad). I am doing her wedding cake the days before the wedding, and she does this?? If said band were to walk across the road in front of her car she wouldn't know who they are.

AIBU to be annoyed?

[ScreamingValenta]

if you tell your friend you're going to buy a dress for a special occasion, and then they buy it and wear it to the same occasion, that's just not a nice thing to do. It's the same thing.

Unless the two friends are having a joint wedding, it's not the same occasion and it's not the same thing.

[HappyMama01]

Let's say you never mentioned this song.
She says she is going to have this song as her first dance, would you tell her she still can't use it as it's YOUR song?

[HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend]

It’s a song, you don’t own the rights to it.

[LazyLizzy]

Let's say you never mentioned this song. She says she is going to have this song as her first dance, would you tell her she still can't use it as it's YOUR song?

In that case I wouldn't say anything. It would just be a coincidence.

But in OP's case it wasn't a coincidence.

[Goldendust]

I think you are being vu, it's only a song and how ever many people use it, it can't take away the meaning it has to you. Don't let small things bother you x

[Eliza9919]

This is exactly why I'm not telling anyone the music we pick for our wedding or any baby names we decide on.

People can be arseholes and you are made out to be unreasonable if you get annoyed at someone taking your choice.

I know on here that people love to come across all cool about things like that but in the real world, everyone would be miffed or pissed off if someone close used what you were planning to.

[NWQM]

Have you said 'please do not do that?'