To be annoyed with friend

[NC080419]

NC for this...

Friend is getting married this month and I am bridesmaid so have been helping her out. A few months ago she was talking about first dance songs, her and her DF are rockers so she was thinking along them lines.

As part of the convo I said that xyz song is mine and DP's song and it will be first dance when we get married because when it was first released he text me two lines from it, and I responded with the next two, we have been to see the band numerous times together, always sing it in the car to each other, cheesy stuff like that.

At the weekend she told me she is currently "trying to convince" her DF to use xyz song for their first dance, but he isn't convinced. All I text back was "that's mine and DPs song because...(reasons listed above)" I know I told her that was our song and the reasons, but I told her again. She still seems dead set on using it.

I have bent over backwards for her for the last two years as the other bridesmaid hasn't been helping (lives abroad). I am doing her wedding cake the days before the wedding, and she does this?? If said band were to walk across the road in front of her car she wouldn't know who they are.

AIBU to be annoyed?

[Iltavilli]

Iron Maiden: Bring your daughter to the slaughter?

[bananasinpyjamas18]

I really enjoy the thought of Rammsteins Du Hast as the first dance.

[Iltavilli]

Dude looks like a lady?

I’m going to keep going till I get it...

[Jackshouse]

When is your wedding booked for?

[Iltavilli]

@bananas - me and DP would if we ever planned to marry

[NC080419]

I can't say the song as it will be outing. It is far from a typical wedding song and it is not from a top 10 artist, the artist is possibly not even known in the UK. Put it this way, it is the type of song that any mutual friends will know she had first, and my family is also going to her wedding.

If it was a common first dance song I wouldn't care, but it is far from it.

Maybe I ABU but I am still annoyed!

[Worriedmum32]

No one will even remember what song you choose let alone think oh her friend used that song too blah blah.. I think you are being a bit precious.

[Iltavilli]

AC/DC: the Jack (Bon Scott version) so you entire wedding party can shout “GONNORHEA”?

[Iltavilli]

Not even know in the UK... Rock...

Katatonia - Funeral Wedding?

[Bracknellite]

It’s ‘Las Ketchup’ isn’t it?

[CantStopMeNow]

well now you know not to trust her with anything like this again - baby names, holidays etc.
She wants to one up you for some strange reason but doesn't realise that if she goes ahead with it - she's basically picked a song that means fuck all to either of them.
What a wonderful memory to look back in years to come!

At least you know what to do with her cake now......

[PengAly]

She’s being shitty

Hardly! OP doesnt own the song nor does she get to dictate that nobody else can use it. Its quite petty and immature behaviour tbh

[Iltavilli]

Pound to a penny it’s nowhere near as obscure as you claim. Las Ketchup far more likely

[RuggerHug]

Name change fail there OP

[ScreamingValenta]

Eh? You can't 'own' a song like that. YABU.

As pps have said, no one will remember. I hardly ever go to weddings so I tend to remember those I go to, but I can't remember what any of the first dance songs were.

It's a combination of things that makes each wedding unique and special, not any one individual element. I am sure your wedding will be special and memorable whatever song you use.

[Iltavilli]

Oooooooh name change fail. Awks.

[Chocolateisfab]

You need to upload pics of your new 'tattoo'.....

[LostInShoebiz]

What is the song?

[ScreamingValenta]

OP if you message MNHQ they can correct your NC fail.

[Lobsterquadrille2]

Agree that you can't own a song but I'd be really fed up too. Nothing much you can do about it though but I don't think you're being unreasonable to be pissed off. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery I suppose.

[Mumminmum]

YABU. You can't "own" a song, a baby name, a retail chain, a hobby, a tourist destination, a wedding venue or a diet.! Get over yourself!

Jeez, reminds me of that time my SIL was offended because I mentioned some of my relatives in Canada. Turns our she "owns" Canada, because she lived there for six months once. The first of my family members who moved to Canada, emigrated to Canada more than 100 years ago. I have relatives in several Canadian states but I have never again mentioned any of them near my SIL. Wouldn't want her to blow a fuse.

[popsadaisy]

Not being unreasonable at all!!!! In fact the same thing happen to me and a friend I was bridesmaid for. She was struggling for songs for first dance and I told her I wanted a certain song to walk down the aisle to and she then used that song for her first dance accept she kept it a secret and wouldn't tell anyone until the song actually came on on the day (now I know why it was all such a big secret) 🙈 I couldn't really say anything so kept my mouth shut but it did annoy me! Probably my own fault for telling her, won't be making that mistake again!!!

[PengAly]

It is far from a typical wedding song and it is not from a top 10 artist, the artist is possibly not even known in the UK

Based on the above update i suspect you like the fact that this song isnt popular and perhaps feel it makes you unique for having something "different" and by your friend using it, it takes that away. Still think YABU as its does irk me when people go on about how they have something "not typical"