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Home77 · 03/04/2019 10:14

You have to: Have big house in the country
Work, both of you, all the hours you can to afford this.
Drive everywhere
Get a cleaner

If you have e.g. a flat, in the town, that is not a 'proper home'
If you don't work all the hours you can, you are lazy
Ditto for driving.

OP posts:
mrsmuddlepies · 03/04/2019 19:42

All women need to be pampered (horrible word, pamper!). Any upset needs a Spa Day. Stock answer to lots of posts is to pamper yourself. Not exactly sure what it means but it sounds a bit grim.

mrsmuddlepies · 03/04/2019 19:43

Great posts, LipstickHandbagCoffee

mbosnz · 03/04/2019 19:43

Or get a cleaner. Get a cleaner seems an answer to an awful lot of problems.

sar302 · 03/04/2019 19:47

Once you become a mum, your life is over - everything should always be about your children. Don't want to spend your birthday in soft play, followed by fish fingers for tea? Terrible mum. And why are you even celebrating your birthday anymore? You're not 5 FFS...

mbosnz · 03/04/2019 19:49

But don't want or expect anything signifying appreciation for all your sacrifices for mother's day. Particularly from your DH. Because you're not HIS mother. . .

KittyVonCatsworth · 03/04/2019 19:54

You must make a chicken last for 4 meals for a family of 4, as a minimum.

If you are hard up one month, an advert for taking in ironing or letting your cupboard under the stairs to a student should tide you over.

LarryGreysonsDoor · 03/04/2019 20:02

You must have a bin in your bathroom, even if your bathroom is tiny and no one uses anything that might need to go in a bin.

mothertruck3r · 03/04/2019 20:03

If you get home from shopping and realise you have accidentally not paid for 25p worth of goods you are a dirty, disgusting thief and must travel 10 miles back to the shop in the rain with your crying, sick toddler to pay it back.

tomhazard · 03/04/2019 20:06

You must hate baby showers and hen dos and spa days. You must not 'get' these and find them 'grabby'.

You must never have Separate finances to your DH in any way - all must be in one pot and this must work for every single couple. You must not 'get' anyone who does it differently.

If you just cut back on luxuries you could afford private school. Just depends on your priorities really.

mbosnz · 03/04/2019 20:09

If you just cut back on luxuries you could afford private school. Just depends on your priorities really.

If I cut back on my wine we wouldn't NEED private school.

ZolloLou · 03/04/2019 20:18

@mbosnz

Brilliant Grin

ssd · 03/04/2019 20:24

If you don't have daughters, only sons, shoot yourself now cos once they leave home they'll never see you again, whereas your daughters would have been round to have cuppas every day

ssd · 03/04/2019 20:26

And if you do become a MIL, know your place, which is just slightly in front of the child snatcher from chitty chitty bang bang

vampirethriller · 03/04/2019 20:27

The tosser you struggle with at work/are married to/live next door to isn't a tosser at all they must have Asperger's.

tomhazard · 03/04/2019 20:35

And if you do become a MIL, know your place, which is just slightly in front of the child snatcher from chitty chitty bang bang

GrinGrin laughed out loud at this

Aridane · 03/04/2019 20:39

You don’t have a vagina, you have a vulva

buzzbobbly · 03/04/2019 20:40

LipstickHandbagCoffee I saw a recommendation to a career changer to retrain

I've been working in "proper jobs" 20-25 years now, yet I have not met anyone in real life who has used the term "retrained" as a description for getting a different job (and in fact have only really seen it on here in the past few months too).

Everyone I know who has changed their line of work has moved sideways using skills they already had and then just learnt anything extra on the job. Do people really entirely and completely start from scratch and retrain to go from, say, an accounts clerk to oil rig worker, on a regular basis?

Aridane · 03/04/2019 20:40

A mooncup is the answer to most of the world’s problems

Aridane · 03/04/2019 20:41

(as is co sleeping and sling wearing)

Aridane · 03/04/2019 20:42

children are always very bright, popular, active and thin

Rarely is a child a bit average

Aridane · 03/04/2019 20:43

The greatest threat to humanity is not global warming but trans women

DrWhy · 03/04/2019 20:45

Has nobody mentioned the chocolate? Cadbury’s is vile greasy wax that no ones likes and the only good chocolate is either from Lidl (or is it Aldi?) or hand woven by a pair of guys with big beards and skinny trousers who met on their gap year on Ecuadorean cocoa farms and costs £200/kg

mrsmuddlepies · 03/04/2019 20:49

And if you do become a MIL, know your place, which is just slightly in front of the child snatcher from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang
I think you will find it is slightly behind. After all, MILs are generally narcs and toxic on MN, and becoming nc with them is the only way to deal with them showing interest in their grandchildren Smile

derxa · 03/04/2019 20:51

Apparently John Bercow is a sex god

Aridane · 03/04/2019 20:52

You do not permit anyone tyvisit your baby within the first six months from birth and NEVER at the hospital. The exception to this is your mother who may be present at labour and possibly even at conception

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