To say no to this hen party request?

[HenPartyHelp]

I’m due to go on a hen party next month, it’s DPs family member although we’re fairly close

The whole thing is a surprise for the hen so all of my info is coming via text from one of the bridesmaids who I’ve never met

I’ve recently been told that I’m to wear a specific colour, it’s a colour I don’t wear at all and I would have to go out and buy a whole new outfit for it, which I hadn’t originally planned to do plus it would literally be worn once so it feels like such a waste of money

The whole wedding plus stags and hens is already costing us a lot of money and this is yet another expense that we really can’t afford

WIBU to just say no, I’m not wearing that colour, but I’ll avoid being in pictures so as not to ruin them (which I’m fairly sure is the reason for the colour scheme?)

I’ve never met any of these people before, if I say no will they all hate me before I even get there??
Should I just suck it up and buy a new outfit?
I don’t want to be the awkward one who refused to join in

[Order654]

It’s a bit of fun. They really will all think your a twat if you turn up in black with a pink scarf or something like that.

There’s loads of cheap dresses online in baby pink. They whole idea is it’s meant to be all baby pink normally. Not just part of you in that colour.

[PositiveVibez]

Wouldn't you rather turn up in a slightly cheaper outfit than her snob friends

That's a bit mean. Just because some people like to make an effort for special occasions such as their friend getting married, it doesn't mean they're snobs.

I think you're being obtuse OP, as app has said, you have been asked to wear something in pink for a few hours, not get a tattoo.

If you don't want to do it, don't go.

[AuntieCJ]

Baby pink is no colour for a grown up to wear.

[Oblomov19]

Yes it's petty to not do it. Get a charity shop t shirt or scarf. Or better still, don't go.

[Margot33]

Charity shop?

[Dropitlikeitshot]

@Metrotoy - It’s not a bridal demand.

You can do it one of two ways, get baby pink accessories to go with your black dress, or buy something ‘nice’ in baby pink and sell it afterwards.

I’m not a fan of the colour, or being told what to wear, so I feel your pain. However it’s for someone you care for, and it’s only one night.

[CuriousaboutSamphire]

Just don't go.

In baby pink I'd look like I was parading in the nuddy!

There is nothing nice about the colour!
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[FlippinNora1]

I was thinking YABU until you said it was baby pink. That’s bad

[MsTSwift]

What nonsense Auntie. My lovely Cos coat is baby pink and is very smart and professional. What colours are allowed for a grown up?

[2rachtint]

I went to one with a colour theme once but totally missed that part of the email and went in a different colour. No one said anything until I pointed out the coincidence that they were all wearing red halfway through the night and they just laughed (not unkindly).

Get an accessory or go in your own thing and just don't make a big deal of it -if anyone says anything be honest and say you didn't own anything that colour and couldn't find anything you liked enough without spending a lot.

[ShatnersWigIsActuallyAMammoth]

Fuck that shit.

[Chocolateisfab]

About ten of us wore red and black for mine, all agreed though and it was fab!!
If the bride is a friend why not op? Her night and it's not like they are asking you to dress as a stripper!!

[GoodbyeBlueMonday]

Is there anyone you could borrow something from? Maybe one of the other hens? Baby pink is not my colour, totally washes me out, so I see where your coming from, but it will come across as curmudgeonly if you refuse. There are much worse hen night requests! Charity shops in naice areas could also be your friend here. I've picked up some designer/ high end high street brand stuff cheap in a posh area of a city near me.

[Innernutshell]

Aw OP ~ you'll look sooo cute!

[cakecakecheese]

I just think it could be a lot worse, penis deely boppers, making you wear full on fancy dress etc.

To everyone slagging off baby pink just because it's not to your taste it doesn't make it wrong. I like pastels and because of my colouring it suits me more than say hot pink.

I've got a pink oversized cardigan which I think would look great with a black dress and you can always slip it off as if you 'get warm'. If you did want to borrow it OP you'd be more than welcome to.

[PianoVigilante]

I’m with Shatners. Fuck that shit indeed.

And what a lot of sheep on this thread. I can’t believe anyone is seriously suggesting this kind of crap should be taken seriously. If the bride is a normal human being, she’d be mortified at this kind of nonsense.

[Lilymossflower]

I would say go for a nice white or black dress that you already have, with a baby pink scarf from a charity shop, and some baby pink hair flowers from somewhere

[eggofmantumbi]

OP, get yourself into boohoo.com. I've just looked as I was looking anyway and there are loads of pink dresses on there and they are cheap and loads of different styles.
That's what I would do if I was you. Yes, begrudgingly, but it's a small sacrifice to make!

[PathOfLeastResitance]

I’d ‘forget’.

[OKBobble]

I nearly wet myaelfnat the suggestion that she could wear a pink hair ribbon!

[OKBobble]

And clearly my fingers stopped working too

[ForTheLoveOfDoughnuts]

Is there a group chat? Maybe ask in there. I'm sure others feel the same. Surely baby pink or black still leaves the bride in white standing out

[Xyzzzzz]

I don’t own anything in that colour so like you I’d be stuck too. Maybe see if you can just wear a scarf (from Primark or a charity shop) with your black dress.

[ShatnersWigIsActuallyAMammoth]

@PianoVigilante Bizarre, isn't it?

The whole stag and hen thing got out of hand long ago. The number of threads we see about hen weekends that people are worried about going on because it's going to cost the best part of £300-£500 and they are already spending £200 on getting to the wedding, staying over, a present, a dress etc

People are barking mad. As with weddings, it's an invitation not a summons. If someone said "I'm having a fancy dress party" and fancy dress ain't your thing, you decline it. But if it's a hen night, no, you have to be a sheep.

A couple I know are getting married. She had a smallish hen night (well done her), he had a stag weekend - except some female friends also went. Some of whom had been on the hen. It wasn't abroad and wasn't anything fancy but it still cost around £250 each. Add £100 for those who did the hen. Then there's the cost of the wedding. Some have already started muttering about how they can't afford it all. Then don't fucking go!

I have never gone on a stag weekend as I don't agree with them in principle as I think it's cheeky asking friends to fork out yet more money. Friend of mine got married few years ago - round of golf for those who could play in the afternoon, curry in the evening. Bloody great. And no one got pissed out of their tree either.

[TheGirlWithAllTheFeathers]

Lol. It's a nope from me too. Yes, you'll only have anything to do with these folk at the wedding then you won't meet them again. It's worth just being yourself. Wear what you want an put a ribbon/scarf etc on in that colour. That's as far as I'd go.