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AIBU?

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Aibu to expect more for mothers day

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Tiredmummy8 · 31/03/2019 19:33

I have two daughters aged 1 and 5 and I feel like my husband could put a but more effort in when it comes to mothers day. He got me a card (one i chose) the day before MD while we were shopping and it was signed from both girls and gave me a little wodden plaque with a small verse about mothers he ordered from Amazon a few a couple days ago while in bed. AIBU to want a bit more effort I feel really disappointed and guilty for feeling like it. MD is so easy wine, flowers, candles, chocolates, just about anything from card factory or any supermarket with the word mummy on!

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MsHopey · 01/04/2019 07:38

I just wanted a lie in. It was all I'd asked for.
Not bothered about cards or mothers day tat (I dont like mum or mummy as I'm from the west Midlands so it's the wrong name for me), I dont care for flowers and cant have chocolate thanks to the gestational diabetes.
I didn't get a lie in as DH had to rush into work at 5am to cover a shift because someone had called in to say they couldn't make it as their husband had died late on Saturday night.
I know everyone has different expectations but I think sometimes things need to be put in perspective.
I'm 35 weeks pregnant and had a little cry thinking about how shit and unfair things are sometimes, not for me, but for the people who haven't got the people they love.
I dont mean to be a soppy git, or put other people down for wanting certain things, but there is more to life.
Then again, we ask for money off family for birthdays and normally spend it on bills or the kids so 🤷🏻‍♀️

Pk37 · 01/04/2019 08:05

Mother’s Day is so overrated and you’re overreacting.
You got SOMETHING

Cecedrake8989 · 01/04/2019 08:12

I think YABU and irrational. You're upset that he got you generic Mother's Day shit (the plaque) because you want him to get you slightly different generic Mother's Day shit (mugs/frames saying 'mummy'). I think you're being quite ungrateful and just wanting stuff for the sake of it. Be grateful that you have a kind husband who gets you a card and a gift for Mother's Day! He's not a mind reader and what he got you is moreorless the same as what you wanted anyway!

Drogosnextwife · 01/04/2019 08:19

So basically we should all expect absolutely nothing because there are people in the world worse off than us? We should all run about after everyone all year and on the one day where we are supposed to have it reciprocated, we should expect nothing and just be thankful we are alive , ok then.

snitzelvoncrumb · 01/04/2019 08:21

Just remember this on father's Day.

escapade1234 · 01/04/2019 09:15

Usual mother’s day thread. Women being told by other women to shut up and and be grateful they aren’t dead/dying/abused/bereaved/poor/starving etc and be thankful their husband doesn’t clip them round the ear or sleep with his secretary.

Women: know your place. Expect nothing and you won’t be disappointed. Is that it?

SEsofty · 01/04/2019 09:16

But she got a card and a generic gift which is what she wanted.

He didn’t forget. He didn’t do nothing.

And she is still not happy

Vulpine · 01/04/2019 09:18

Bad woman! Put up, shut up and don't stand up for your rights

HarrySnotter · 01/04/2019 09:20

Bad woman! Put up, shut up and don't stand up for your rights.

Are you on the wrong thread? What 'rights'?

HarrySnotter · 01/04/2019 09:23

Women: know your place. Expect nothing and you won’t be disappointed. Is that it?

Did you not read the OP @escapade1234? She received a card and a gift, do you not think that is enough?

Vulpine · 01/04/2019 09:24

Harry - no right thread! I get a bit tired of women being chastised for wanting more out of their relationships

SoyDora · 01/04/2019 09:24

She received a card and fairly thoughtless gift, but wanted a different thoughtless gift.

MsHopey · 01/04/2019 10:49

We should all run about after everyone all year and on the one day where we are supposed to have it reciprocated

Tbf, I expect to be appreciated and have help every day 🤷🏻‍♀️ which I get.
Like PPs have said, I think theres an underlying issue that women arent being treated well the rest of the year and therefore hope mothers day is a turning point and it never is.
(Not saying this about OP DH as he did sort out a present and card very similar to what she had asked for).

SomewhereInbetween1 · 01/04/2019 10:56

I think you put a little too much emphasis on mother's/ father's Day.

HarrySnotter · 01/04/2019 11:04

Harry - no right thread! I get a bit tired of women being chastised for wanting more out of their relationships

Sorry, I still don't see what 'rights' you mean. How do we know that the OP has a poor, or wants more from her relationship from 4 posts about a mother's Day present? She didn't say she wants more from her relationship, she said she wanted more for Mother's Day. To be fair, I'm not really into Mother's/Father's Day etc., so maybe don't get it so much.

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