Aibu to expect more for mothers day

[Tiredmummy8]

I have two daughters aged 1 and 5 and I feel like my husband could put a but more effort in when it comes to mothers day. He got me a card (one i chose) the day before MD while we were shopping and it was signed from both girls and gave me a little wodden plaque with a small verse about mothers he ordered from Amazon a few a couple days ago while in bed. AIBU to want a bit more effort I feel really disappointed and guilty for feeling like it. MD is so easy wine, flowers, candles, chocolates, just about anything from card factory or any supermarket with the word mummy on!

[Greenlegobox]

I always thought that in order to be a mother you had to be an adult, or at least have hit puberty. The childishness over this stupid day on Mumsnet over the past week has convinced me otherwise.

[JumpingFrogs]

Read The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. Different people express their love in different ways. You clearly use gift giving to express your love, but maybe your husband prefers quality time, physical affection, acts of service or words of affirmation. I found that understanding how my husband and I expressed our love in different ways helped me to feel less irritated, and to communicate my love for him more effectively too. Neither of us are gift givers, but dd1 puts huge thought and effort into it (but she's an adult now). DS would never send so much as a card, but that doesn't mean he loves me any the less.

[SEsofty]

Maybe he didn’t want to waste money on plastic tat.

Seriously he got you a cheesy plaque gift and a card. If the plaque had said mummy would you be happy?

[Namechangeforthiscancershit]

After that I did say next year it would be nice to have a card from both girls and i would like something like a mummy frame or a mummy cup or at least something with mummy on

isn't that exactly what he got you though? And FYI pretty much no one calls their mum "mother" regardless of age!

[HarrySnotter]

D'you know what @Tiredmummy8, some people find Mother's Day really fucking hard. Now, of course that's not your fault but it really sticks in my craw when I see people whining about what they didn't get. You should be grateful for your family, not what they give you.

[AnneOfCleanTables]

If it's important for you to have gifts with 'mummy' on them then buy them yourself. You don't need to wait for Mother's Day to get them. I used to buy the DC books with mummy and books with daddy. DH would never have thought to pick them up. I wanted them so I bought them. Then I read them to the DCs.
It sounds as though your DH did put effort in so I do think YABU. You're not expecting 'more' just 'different' and that's ungrateful.

[EllieNor]

I'm starting to think I do Mother's Day backwards dc made me a card each at nursery and school best gift ever to me and I took them out to the amusements to have fun together whilst dh listened to the footie.

Genuinely that so much emphasis is put on the dh, aren't they meant to celebrate their Mum? I'd never dream of getting angry at dh, I celebrate being a Mum with the dc and we do something I know we'll all enjoy and take something out of. No expectations, no pressure, just low key time together. So from my view, I'm sorry but YABU

[Onceuponacheesecake]

That's all I got and I'm happy op. Most people I know that are underwhelmed on mother's day generally seem to feel underappreciated all year round and hope for something different comes mother's day - it rarely happens.

[Lois345]

He got you a card and a present. My husband gave me a pad on the back and said happy mothers' day, which made me laugh. Seriously, if it is important for you, tell him! It is a waste of time to expect our husbands to be mind readers

[SnowyAlpsandPeaks]

He would be disappointed but he doesn’t care about you being disappointed?

Seriously plastic tack and t-shirts with ‘daddy’s princess’ are just a retailers dream. Instead, by something that will last the next 60 years, and is better for the environment.

[mynameisbilly]

I’m struggling to get past the spoilt, bratty tone of this post. And yes, you’re being unreasonable.

You were given a beautiful little present and a card signed from your girls. I’m sure they loved giving you those presents with their whole heart - imagine if your girls read this post?

I honestly think you need to take a step back, step away from social media and all the floating posts about what everyone received for mother’s day, and re-evaluate what truly matters. You have your babies. They are your gift. There are many of us who are grieving our babies, many of us who are desperately trying for babies. I would so love a little plaque that tells me I’m a mother; I crave it.

I’m sorry to write a comment like this, but this has really touched a nerve.

[Ginger1982]

Sorry OP, my DH was ill yesterday and therefore couldn't get out to so much as get me a card (you know, seeing as Mothers Day is something that just creeps up on you!) so the fact that you got a card and a pretty thoughtful gift means you are definitely BU.

[wibbleee]

well after a card and a bunch of flowers today the "mothers day" was done here! .....and thats how i like it, not over commercialised soppy woppy tat fest. DH and I spent today silliconing the conservatory, weeding all day and painting a room. in between i did usual chores , cooked a sunday roast. and you know what......thats fine!

stop being a princess

[Lois345]

Actually, I misremembered, my dh took the baby so I could sleep in for two hours this morning and then have a long and uninterrupted bath. Now THAT was a proper mothers' day gift

[Quartz2208]

Mothering Sunday was originally to allow the serving classes in Victorian times a day off to spend with them mums. It isnt about how much stuff a husband can spend (we have that its Valentines Day).

To be fair though for me my DD is older (10) so I got a mug and a cuddly elephant (which DS has claimed as his own) 3 cards (1 homemade) and a drawn craft picture DS did yesterday

But actually what has made my day is after attending a mothering Sunday service at church DS has said Happy Mothers Day lots and cuddled me lots and told me he loves me. Which is what it is all about

[BritWifeinUSA]

Some of us have been trying to be a mother for almost 20 years with empty arms. You have 2 children. Is ln’t that enough of a gift? Go to Asda yourself and buy a £4.99 wine and a 3 quid box of chocolates yourself if that’s what’s going to make you happy.

[Thishatisnotmine]

I don't get it.

[LEELULUMPKIN]

Cringing at "Daddy's Princess"

[SEsofty]

Actually thinking about this more, he got you exactly what you asked for.

A card from both children and a specific mother day present.

What actually is the problem?

[UpsyDaaaisy]

I don't get why some people expect loads of fuss from mothers day, that's not what its about. I was thrilled with a card, chocolates, a mug and my son's smiling face. I'd have been happy with a card. If you didn't want to pick your own card you should have said.

[DocusDiplo]

Sorry people are being rude and condescending to you OP. Maybe suggest a nice family day out next week and get a souvenir of the day as a memory from the giftshop. Bet they love you loads

[mynameisbilly]

Also, maybe it’s just me but if somebody told me the quality of gifts they ‘expect’ for their ‘insert any special occasion’ day, i’d be inclined to post an egg through their door. Seriously?! When did we all become so flipping ungrateful? I know it’s cliche but there are children in desperate poverty more grateful for what they have than most of us. It’s truly shameful and makes me want to move away to a country far far away from this kinda rubbish.

[CF43]

No me neither, I have had a wonderful day, it took me 10 years to have my son after a miscarriage at 12 weeks previously going into hospital to have the 12 week scan and be told you have cancer instead.

So if my son give me a lovely card he spent his dinner break on and a couple of lolly sticks covered in wool that makes a shape i am a happy bunny.

[WelcomeToShootingStars]

You're assuming it's all unthoughtful tho. He remembered you pointing out a card you liked and got it, and he bought a gift with a sentimental verse on which you can keep forever. I'm not really getting why a bit of plastic tat is preferable tbh.

You choose to do the things you do for fathers day, and that shouldn't set your expectation for mothers day.

As someone who would desperately love to be a mother I can only say you sound like a bit of a spoilt princess.