Aibu to expect more for mothers day

[Tiredmummy8]

I have two daughters aged 1 and 5 and I feel like my husband could put a but more effort in when it comes to mothers day. He got me a card (one i chose) the day before MD while we were shopping and it was signed from both girls and gave me a little wodden plaque with a small verse about mothers he ordered from Amazon a few a couple days ago while in bed. AIBU to want a bit more effort I feel really disappointed and guilty for feeling like it. MD is so easy wine, flowers, candles, chocolates, just about anything from card factory or any supermarket with the word mummy on!

[HarrySnotter]

Harry - no right thread! I get a bit tired of women being chastised for wanting more out of their relationships

Sorry, I still don't see what 'rights' you mean. How do we know that the OP has a poor, or wants more from her relationship from 4 posts about a mother's Day present? She didn't say she wants more from her relationship, she said she wanted more for Mother's Day. To be fair, I'm not really into Mother's/Father's Day etc., so maybe don't get it so much.

[SomewhereInbetween1]

I think you put a little too much emphasis on mother's/ father's Day.

[MsHopey]

We should all run about after everyone all year and on the one day where we are supposed to have it reciprocated

Tbf, I expect to be appreciated and have help every day 🤷🏻‍♀️ which I get.
Like PPs have said, I think theres an underlying issue that women arent being treated well the rest of the year and therefore hope mothers day is a turning point and it never is.
(Not saying this about OP DH as he did sort out a present and card very similar to what she had asked for).

[SoyDora]

She received a card and fairly thoughtless gift, but wanted a different thoughtless gift.

[Vulpine]

Harry - no right thread! I get a bit tired of women being chastised for wanting more out of their relationships

[HarrySnotter]

Women: know your place. Expect nothing and you won’t be disappointed. Is that it?

Did you not read the OP @escapade1234? She received a card and a gift, do you not think that is enough?

[HarrySnotter]

Bad woman! Put up, shut up and don't stand up for your rights.

Are you on the wrong thread? What 'rights'?

[Vulpine]

Bad woman! Put up, shut up and don't stand up for your rights

[SEsofty]

But she got a card and a generic gift which is what she wanted.

He didn’t forget. He didn’t do nothing.

And she is still not happy

[escapade1234]

Usual mother’s day thread. Women being told by other women to shut up and and be grateful they aren’t dead/dying/abused/bereaved/poor/starving etc and be thankful their husband doesn’t clip them round the ear or sleep with his secretary.

Women: know your place. Expect nothing and you won’t be disappointed. Is that it?

[snitzelvoncrumb]

Just remember this on father's Day.

[Drogosnextwife]

So basically we should all expect absolutely nothing because there are people in the world worse off than us? We should all run about after everyone all year and on the one day where we are supposed to have it reciprocated, we should expect nothing and just be thankful we are alive , ok then.

[Cecedrake8989]

I think YABU and irrational. You're upset that he got you generic Mother's Day shit (the plaque) because you want him to get you slightly different generic Mother's Day shit (mugs/frames saying 'mummy'). I think you're being quite ungrateful and just wanting stuff for the sake of it. Be grateful that you have a kind husband who gets you a card and a gift for Mother's Day! He's not a mind reader and what he got you is moreorless the same as what you wanted anyway!

[Pk37]

Mother’s Day is so overrated and you’re overreacting.
You got SOMETHING

[MsHopey]

I just wanted a lie in. It was all I'd asked for.
Not bothered about cards or mothers day tat (I dont like mum or mummy as I'm from the west Midlands so it's the wrong name for me), I dont care for flowers and cant have chocolate thanks to the gestational diabetes.
I didn't get a lie in as DH had to rush into work at 5am to cover a shift because someone had called in to say they couldn't make it as their husband had died late on Saturday night.
I know everyone has different expectations but I think sometimes things need to be put in perspective.
I'm 35 weeks pregnant and had a little cry thinking about how shit and unfair things are sometimes, not for me, but for the people who haven't got the people they love.
I dont mean to be a soppy git, or put other people down for wanting certain things, but there is more to life.
Then again, we ask for money off family for birthdays and normally spend it on bills or the kids so 🤷🏻‍♀️

[IfOnlyOurEyesSawSouls]

Totally agree @Drogosnextwife .

[80sMum]

This is ridiculous! If the OP's husband wants to buy a Mothers Day gift it should be for his mother, not his wife!

Can mothers no longer accept that very young children are not capable of thinking about buying a mothers day gift? When they're older, of course, it's different; they can buy or make cards or gifts themselves.

To expect your husband to buy gifts and pretend that they are from the children is bizarre! It's like the people who buy Christmas presents for each other "from the dog"! It's just daft.

[PregnantSea]

YABVU. You got a card and a present. You're expecting way too much and coming across as ungrateful.

[Drogosnextwife]

kids are still young and therefore its down to your partner to sort presents so you cant expect much, and cant really compare to what you buy him for fathers day,

Wtf, why not? Are men not capable of reciprocating?

God my DP took us all to the shops last night and the kids picked cards and I picked out a jewellery box and a little bunch of flowers that they all gave me this morning (because I always pick my own presents), then DP made me and my mum breakfast, done most of the housework today and bought me an extra box of chocolates when he went to the shop.

My DP has A LOT of faults but he always puts the effort in for things like that, as I do for him because the kids are to young to make breakfast, do housework or go to the shops to buy a present (I think cards of any kind for any reason are a waste of money so I couldn't care less about them). It's honestly not that difficult for DPS and DHS to use their brain and show that they actually care, it's down to absolute laziness if they don't, and we shouldn't be greatful for any old shite that's thrown our way.

[Littlechocola]

@AceOfSpades123

[FifisLovelyApron]

Some people like to go all out for occasions and others don't. I have never gone to that much effort for Father's Day. I've pretty much done what your DH did for you today, a card from the dc's and a small father related gift.

If you push the boat out and plan that much for Father's Day because you enjoy doing it, great. Otherwise just keep things simple.

[AceOfSpades123]

I lost my son a few years ago. This morning my remaining children climbed into bed with me and we cuddled and giggled. That’s enough Mother’s day “gifts” for me. If you’re making yourself unhappy by comparing to others then feel free to compare yourself to me. Are all your children healthy and alive? There you go. You’ve got everything you need then.

[Pastapastaandmorepasta]

To the previous poster feeling very lucky to be a mum... it can be tricky when you are feeling that that. Even if feeling grateful, sometimes motherhood can be challenging. You can feel lucky and still not love every minute - but find it difficult to allow yourself that. Just remember you may need to cut yourself some slack sometimes.

[morewashingtodooo]

@crispysausagerolls hopefully

[crispysausagerolls]

when it's Father's Day they get the celebration they bloody want.

But then just don’t acknowledge it this year! Maybe next year you will get your lie in (i hope!)