To be disappointed with the school mums

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Supposedly “naice” area, private school (which may or may not make a difference, I don’t know) and some of the mothers are just not nice people!

They gossip, they show off, they try to manipulate the teachers (and it works with some), they do not discipline their children, they are competitive to the point of making nasty remarks to 4 year olds if they have won a prize and their child hasn’t and they flout the school rules (hair length, uniform, no fighting) because they are paying so “what are they going to do?!” 😕

I don’t know what I was expecting but this is like a group of mean girls who have had children and still think they are in the playground.

Wealthy makes some people entitled and boosts and feelings of superiority they had.

And not being wealthy makes some people chippy and entitled.

So, arseholes everywhere.

*Think Mother Theresa!

Ok but worked tirelessly for the good of those in poverty*

You might want to do some reading around that one.

I don’t know about Ghandi, but MT by all accounts was not a nice person at all, and was not working “for the good” of the sick people. Unless you believe suffering on earth means a better afterlife....

It happens at all schools but I think it's worse at private school. Unfortunately when privileged people find they can buy their way through life, they get an overinflated sense of superiority and entitlement.

If they feel like they 'own' the teacher/the service being provided then they feel they can act like dicks to get what they want. Then their kids learn the same and the cycle goes on.
Yet another reason that private education is a terrible idea.

Good kird-are you from the 1980’s?

Why would she be from the 80s?

I don’t know about Ghandi,

I think one of the areas of concern was his "Michael Jackson" type approach to sleeping nude with young females to "test his chastity".

He was also incredibly racist against Black Africans when he was in South Africa.

Why would she be from the 80s?

Because in the 70s and 80s the direct grant schemes funded places at private schools for local children who passed the entrance exam - it was the equivalent of the grammar option in some areas. Sometimes full fees were paid and sometimes partial based on local means test.

A lot of private schools were completely dependent on this injection of public money to stay open and filled a significant number of places in this way. It also swallowed up a big chunk of education budget in some areas.

Yes the yummy mummy brigade at my sons school really annoy me sometimes.

Wealth makes some (maybe most) people into absolute wankers.

I can't imagine trying to teach at one of those schools!

Don't recognise this at all from my daughter's private school. You can get bitchy people in any group. I can't speak for everyone, but we are using a private due to lack of state spaces in our area and need for reliable wrap around. This is not unusual, but my point is yes we are paying but we are also incredibly grateful to the school for everything they do.

On the other hand, OP, if your school is not enforcing e.g. uniform rules and won't tackle difficult parents, that would be a problem anywhere.

What is this naice I keep seeing everywhere? Is it a ps-take on an accent of some kind of is it a genuine common (even if very odd) spelling error

This sounds JUST like the school my DS went to for a year, before we realised the children (and parents) at his original state school seemed to have way more emotional intelligence! The school has a reputation for it though ("very new-money").

Mums I know with DCs at more expensive and academically rigorous private schools in the area all say the other parents seem really ordinary and nice in comparison.

Have you considered changing (and does it begin with W...?).

Having had DC at state and private I can honestly say you get horrible parents at both. Although state schools tend to be bigger and therefore there are more parents to choose from so you can avoid the ones you don't like more easily.

At private I noticed a lot of the 'we are paying, what are you going to do' attitude, and the school not being willing to pull them up on this shit. Its actually part of why DD is now at state, because the atmosphere wasn't nice and school were willing to ignore a lot of behaviour that shouldn't be acceptable (bullying mainly, parents threatening other parents at school events).

Foxyloxy1plus1 They definitely think they can call the tune. Many special needs children though. The state schools in this area do not cater as well as the privates in this area. I think they have assisted places.

These threads are repetitive, always about private school mums too. My daughter was privately educated from the age of 4 to finished senior school and I simply never encountered any of the shite these threads are about. In three different private schools.

OccidentalPurist Nowhere else to go without moving unfortunately. The only other private school is a single sex school of the opposite sex to my DC and the state schools are not good.

These threads are repetitive but with good reason. There is a type that evolves when their child goes to a private school. Think about it. Most people get what they are paying for for free. They chose to pay. So the school has to perform or they feel let down. That attitude, that defensive stance, against teachers and other parents, is there from day 1.

Jesus, they sound like they have more time on their hands than they need. Must be all the nannies at home helping them

They sound like a horrid bunch, just because you're paying for an education doesn't mean you can shun the rules, what a bad example to set for their children.

'Naice' is a piss take of the Received Pronunciation accent's (think Jacob Rees-Mogg) way of saying the word 'nice'.

Hear it in our Choral Society frequently, as it's a surefire way of recognising recordings of the poshest/elite choirs - such as King's Choir Cambridge under David Willcocks, as the choristers had to sing in RP.

My Dd used to be a small (water-based) sports group with several private schoolgirls from several different city schools. They were the girls who were loud, ill-disciplined and couldn't stay safe when their coach wasn't directing them. The state school kids all appeared to have learned way better manners.

It started with s couple of women, one of whom funded the library of something so feels she owns the school, and now they are taking sides

This thread is a load of goady tripe.

Quertymcquerty Just because the op probably exaggerated about the library doesn’t make it goady tripe. Lots of schools ask for donations. The people that donate probably feel entitled to better treatment. That can lead to bad feeling.

It’s worse when there are fewer choices of schools in the area. It’s a real “them or us” atmosphere.

They are not people
That share your values sadly

It’s very disappointing but you might just have a ‘shit year’

But keep it civil
And distant !

Your child is mixing with their chn, are you sure you want that?

Bluntness100 I agree, I have several dc in both sectors. The nastiest, cliques have been in the outstanding state schools.
These threads play to the private school bashing fans. It’s simply not true in my experience.