Aibu? I want to do driving lessons

[grainykite]

But my DP is insistent it should be him my reasoning is I'm the one stuck at home with the kids so surely it would give me more freedom, instead of relying on him or waiting for him to become available?
Who is BU

Let it go already.

I was answering your question to me.

Will definitely be doing driving before the end of the year

As in passed your test? If so you can't know that. So much of passing a test is outside your control, as are test centre waiting times. It's a nice goal to aim for, but it's not realistic to say it's a certainty.

Well hopefully, as either 1 of us will be doing the driving for a week then doing the test at the end of it. Can't remember what it's called

You should learn first and I'd agree you need a 7 seater to fit 3 car seats in, having had experience of this. If you have a small age gap and they are all in large car seats at once, they just don't fit across the back of a standard car. We tried many different models!
What I would have also done in your circumstances where you really want to learn quickly, is get an automatic and learn in one of those.

Well I'd like to do the 7 day course with taking your test at the end of it but need to save a little more first. Obviously there is not a guaranteed pass I suppose

I think it makes more sense for you to drive but then again, if I was him I would want to use my wages on learning myself. Not much help, I know. I think the idea about selling your car is the best one then do some research on smaller suitable cars after someone passes. How are you gonna drive the car about? Its SORN and you can't drive it. Its just gonna seize up.

It's in our garage so shouldn't be stolen

Do you think no cars have ever been stolen from a garage?

It comes down to risk and affordability. There is a risk that your car will be stolen. If that happens, you will lose £2k. Can you afford that? It doesn't sound to me like you can.

Maybe one of you could learn to drive (do a coin toss or something) and then once that one person has got their license, it'll be far easier for the other person to learn as well as you'd have a car to practice in and someone to supervise (but not sure if you have to have been driving for 3 yrs before supervising another person!)

How will I loose 2K?
Nothing has ever been stolen from our garage but ok..

Think I'll just let him do the lessons, it's his money after all I suppose

Which one of you in reality is the most enthusiastic? It could just be 'male pride', or jealousy in him wanting to learn first.

Nothing has ever been stolen from our garage but ok..

I've thankfully never had anything stolen from my house, but I still have home insurance.

Why don't you take the lessons then teach him?

I would say he is but I've had more lessons and feel more confident to do the course of lessons, although I know the theory test needs done.
Its jealousy on my part. He finally went back to work in January and it feels like so many good things are happening for him while I'm stuck at home doing the same shit, unable to go to the flaming toilet alone. I'd love to have some independence and do something for myself.

Wow, your getting a hard time here OP!! We brought a 7 seater as I am pregnant with our 3rd, so I don't know why you are being questioned on that! It seems that you should be the one to take lessons first as you'll be ferrying the kids around the most - Good luck!

I’m curious to know the engine size and your ages. Because that can be really, really expensive to insure, if it’s a big car. If you can’t afford both having a lesson a week, can you afford the monthly insurance?

How will I loose 2K? Nothing has ever been stolen from our garage but ok.

I don't understand why this is so hard for you to grasp.

You have spent £2k on a car. This is a lot of money for you. If the car gets stolen or damaged then you have spent £2k on something you now no longer have and cannot afford to replace.

So whilst insurance isn't a legal requirement whilst the car is SORN insurance is advisable to protect yourself. If you decide not to do that, that's fine.

Why not both do practice theory, whomever gets a higher score gets to learn first.. higher possibly of passing..

By the time it needs insuring I'm sure it'd be more affordable, my partners hours are due to go by an extra 10 come may

I didn't spend 2k on a car

@grainykite People aren’t being picky on what you are saying. People are just pointing out the reality of owning and running a car. A car bought at a barging price may seem ideal. But when you look at the insurance, it’s not a deal after all.
Even if you both pass your test. Two new drivers on an insurance may increase it so much.

Yes, don't leave it sitting unused. I did that with my car a year or two ago and it cost me a huge amount of money to get fixed as everything had seized up. We're talking hundreds of pounds.

@snowy oh but they are, firstly questioned why I got a 7 seater when apparently a regular car would fit car seats, now questioned why I spent 2k when I didn't even spend that!
We both wouldn't be insured on it, only 1 of us would be but I understand what you're saying. My partners hours at work are due to go up by 10 more so hopefully it would be more affordable come the summer months

This has gave me a chuckle, nobody can drive, nobody has even done a theory test and a 7 seater has been bought, common sense is missing in that house 🙄

I didn't plan on letting it sit unused but people will pearl clutch if I say I'd plan on driving it but appreciate the concept of it. Either way it's surely still a bargain.