DD best friend + drinking

[MrsKahlo]

NC as outing. Asking for genuine advice.

Cut a long story short but try not to drip feed.

DD16 and her best friend (call her S) are inseparable. Spend most days together and all.weekends. have boyfriends but always put each other first.

S comes from a working class family and parents are both functioning alcoholics. S is a good kid but maybe a bit too.mature for her age? V opinionated and 'lefty political' which is catching with DD. Both attend rallies etc but S ability to judge before speaking often makes things awkward. I digress.

S family took DD away for long weekend last year so myself and DH reciprocated and have both girls plus my DS1 (DS2 at home with friends) away for long weekend.

Girls have been allowed to drink responsibly before when on holiday or at home on occasion. Last night S got so drunk at a local bar she fell over and couldn't get up and we had to ask for a golf cart to get her home.

I'm worried she's following in her parents footsteps and my DD will follow suit. She is suitably ashamed of herself today but I fear about this friendship. AIBU to cool this friendship when they return home?

PS: negligent towards S when she was in your care. Precious as fuck about your family.

I hope that helps.

I don't believe my daughter would come to harm under their care.

Unlike their daughter who has come to potentially great harm under yours?

Also, if they’re often “drunk at pickup” then I assume that at least one of them drives while drunk. 1. I would report them to the Police and 2. No way would I let my daughter go away with them.

@MrsDesireeCarthorse Yes, that's the part that upsets me the most - the poor girl knowing they look down on her. Horrible.

@MrsKahlo did you see that your famous on Twitter??

I come from a WC background raisedi. The east end of London, the first time I saw domestic violence and alcoholism was my upper middle class boyfriend who like to beat the hell out of me when he had too many... his dad did the same to his mum.

Your daughter got drunk, where were you?

Oh dear OP.
When the hole’s above your head, stop digging

1. You need to tell her parents what happened (give S the chance to tell them first, but ring up a few days later to confirm). Reverse the situation and imagine you found out later by other means. You'd be furious.

1. Everything else is total fluff. If you're concerned your DD is developing an issue with alcohol you need to address that with her directly and forget all the extra noise.