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AIBU?

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Do you judge women who don’t want kids?

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Ellabella989 · 29/03/2019 10:33

I’m in my early 30s and have decided I never want kids. Literally every single female who I’ve confided in about this, from family members to friends to work colleagues, have been incredibly judgemental and told me i’ll be missing out and will eventually regret it and could potentially spend my later years very lonely if my partner dies before me.
AIBU to find these opinions very irritating? I don’t list all the reasons to them why I think their way of life is less appealing to mine so I don’t see why I have to sit back and basically be told I’m a freak for not wanting kids. Maybe I just know some very judgemental people :-(

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Babuchak · 05/04/2019 10:53

Gin96
we don't really use hotels since we had 1 child - we much prefer renting a villa (through normal holiday site , in the hotel, or Air BnB, depending on which country we go to)

We can get up at the time we please, and have breakfast whenever, we normally eat out for lunch, and get things from a deli or other for the evening so adults go drink a glass of wine in peace, kids can entertain themselves. If one gets sick, we are not stuck in a hotel room and still have breathing space.
It works even better with 4, but we started doing that with my eldest.

Otherwise, yes, we book 2 rooms. Of course we need a seat per person in the plane, but we just book early.
I know families with more kids, they just drive and stick to holidays in Spain, France or Italy at the moment. Works quite well too.

Many families don't even leave the UK with only 1 or 2 children, it's really not a big deal. We'll enjoy adult-only resorts when the last one abandons us Grin

clairemcnam · 05/04/2019 10:57

The only thing I think if someone has more than 3 kids, is wow that must be costly. Because when you have more than 3 it gets harder in terms of holiday accommodation, bedrooms, and cars. Sure you can do villas and cottages, but hotel rooms are more expensive, and you can not buy a cheaper car as they would not all fit. Also most family day out deals do not apply.
But your choice. Unless unplanned, I would assume you had considered all these issues and decided it was worth the extra cost.

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