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AIBU to say no to house viewers using my toilet?!

166 replies

CantHoldIt · 28/03/2019 21:50

Ok so I’m currently selling my home and I’m astounded by the number of people who ask to use the toilet! I just don’t get it, yeah sure small kids I can understand they can’t always hold it. But surely if you are an adult in strangers home you can hold it and pop into the petrol station/ cafe before or after?! I’m not talking about a downstairs cloakroom, the upstairs family bathroom. I think maybe I wouldn’t mind so much if it downstairs and just the toilet. Hmm
I hate strangers using my loo... AIBU?! Please tell me I’m not alone

OP posts:
Narya · 29/03/2019 04:19

If a vendor was funny about me using their loo, it would make me think that they'd probably be picky or difficult during the sale process. So a bit off-putting as s buyer unless the house was fab. Mind you most viewings I've been to the vendor wasn't present, just the agent. Makes it easier to look round.

Gwenhwyfar · 29/03/2019 06:35

"But surely if you are an adult in strangers home you can hold it and pop into the petrol station/ cafe before or after?!"

You can only use the toilet in a cafe if you're a customer. As for petrol stations, I would have no idea which ones have toilets. It would never occur to me to hold it in because I didn't know using a toilet in someone's house was a problem.

floribunda18 · 29/03/2019 06:39

I would let them use it - but no way would I be selling them the house if they peed on the floor. Grin

user1471426142 · 29/03/2019 06:44

When I was viewing the house I later bought, I had travelled 2 hours and had 8-9 back to back appointments in a county I didn’t really know. I’m fairly certain I would have used a number of loos in houses I was viewing that day.

ForalltheSaints · 29/03/2019 07:01

They could have come a distance or have a chronic condition such as Crohn's. Point out where the visitor towel is and soap etc to make a point about cleanliness.

malificent7 · 29/03/2019 07:03

Weird thread.

jameswong · 29/03/2019 07:08

I do a massive poo before anyone comes to view my house. After they exit the bathroom I just grin and say "how was the water pressure?"

woollyheart · 29/03/2019 07:11

If you read any guidance on viewing a house, it always includes checking that toilets flush and sinks work.

They are checking whether the plumbing is well maintained and working.

It is odd that you are not expecting this. Buying a home is a large investment for them, and they don't want unpleasant surprises when they move in.

Silvercatowner · 29/03/2019 07:13

It would also be a massive red flag that the home owner would be difficult and petty to deal with

This.

winbinin · 29/03/2019 07:15

All these people saying here (and on other threads I have read) that weeping in someone else’s loo is ok but you should never poo - what is someone meant to do if they need a poo when they are in someone else’s house? Go in the garden? Soil their pants?

WombatChocolate · 29/03/2019 07:18

This is your problem, not theirs.
I suggest you arrange for the estate agent to do the viewings,Mao that you don't have to cope with your potential buyers being in your home. You obviously struggle to have them there and may well be sending off a negative vibe which won't be helping with the house sale.

When selling,by ou need to expect some buyers to come round lots of times, to want to look at all kinds of things which might be a bit inconvenient, sometimes at inconvenient times, to ask and raise all kinds of tricky and sometimes awkward questions and then sometimes to pull out or not make an offer. That's the reality. And they are the customer - remember that - you want to sell them an expensive item, so you need to treat them like a customer with a lot of money to spend and being grudging about letting them use your toilet or worse still, saying no, is not the way to treat a customer or their family.

If it really causes you distress and angst, definitively ask the agent to do the viewings.

TrendyNorthLondonTeen · 29/03/2019 07:52

"All these people saying here (and on other threads I have read) that weeping in someone else’s loo is ok but you should never poo - what is someone meant to do if they need a poo when they are in someone else’s house? Go in the garden? Soil their pants?"

Oh, I know this one. On planet MN "familiar" poo (your own/ that of family/ friends) is completely harmless, smells of roses and disinfects the toilet on the way down.

"Unfamiliar poo" (house viewers/ builders/ delivery people) is dangerous toxic waste that smells like raw sewage and must be avoided at all costs, lest your bathroom be forever infected with the dreaded "floating poo particles".

Compare this to the real world where shit is shit regardless of the source!

Witchofzog · 29/03/2019 08:43

Letting someone use your toilet is a violation. That is one of the oddest things I have read on here Hmm

Bluntness100 · 29/03/2019 08:47

Seriously op, when you descend to the stage you can't let people use your loo you need to take a step back and ask yourself what's wrong with you.

It's very odd behaviour to have issues with this, whichever way you dress it up.

DuffBeer · 29/03/2019 08:54

I would have no problem with someone using the loo, to have a wee, in a sanitary way.

But we're talking about a stranger who pissed over the seat and floor, which is vile. Seriously, Who wouldn't be bothered by that?

I also wouldn't be ok with a prospective purchaser going for a poo in my house. Nor would I do this to someone else! I'd rather go in a bush (and pick it up with a dog poo bag obvs)

SkiFiend · 29/03/2019 08:55

It would put me off a house if I asked to use the loo and wasn't allowed- I'd assume the seller was hiding something. Agree it might be better to go out and let the EA do the viewings.

OP, are you maybe in two minds about selling? I wonder whether this attitude of "no, it's mine" indicates an ambivalence about someone moving into "your" house. If so, might be worth getting to the bottom of that.

SkiFiend · 29/03/2019 08:55

I'd rather go in a bush (and pick it up with a dog poo bag obvs)

Good grief.

CurtainsOpen · 29/03/2019 08:59

Has OP finished his wank over this bizarre fetish yet?

Piglet89 · 29/03/2019 09:00

I'd rather go in a bush (and pick it up with a dog poo bag obvs).

Is this a pisstake? (No pun intended).

FuriousCheekyFucker · 29/03/2019 09:01

You'd be surprised how many weirdos there are out there.

DS is an installer for a big energy firm, he can spend up to 6 hours at peoples houses doing work for them, sometimes in quite remote locations. He was telling me that roughly half of his customers refuse to let him use the lavatory. He's even had customers phone his supervisor to complain if he's left site to go to the loo after he's been refused permission.

He is toilet trained by the way.

sar302 · 29/03/2019 09:01

I never knew that anyone had a problem with anyone who wasn't immediate family using their toilet, until I joined Mumsnet. It would never occur to me to say no! It's a loo. It's a place where ALL people evacuate waste material.

The only time I agreed with one of these threads, was a lady who was a children's counsellor I think, and had some guy started turning up to her office everyday to take his morning shit, and leaving the bathroom a state. That was grim. But a prospective house buyer wanting to pop to the loo before they leave... hard to see why anyone gets worked up by that.

DuffBeer · 29/03/2019 09:03

It isn't a piss take, unless I was literally about to poo myself I would find an alternative. As I said, doing a wee is fine as long as it goes into the toilet! Why should the OP have to wipe up a strangers piss off the seat and floor?

I think the smell of your own poo and those dearest to you is bad enough. Never mind a stranger stinking out your toilet, it's disgusting.

woollyheart · 29/03/2019 09:04

@FuriousCheekyFucker That is quite alarming and cruel! Do people think robots are sent out to their properties?

SkiFiend · 29/03/2019 09:08

Duffbeer, I think most people would manage to get their wee into the loo, no? Obviously it's not on to piss all over a stranger's floor but that's not what's being asked.

I think most people would find someone squatting in the bushes shitting into a dog bag rather more disgusting than using the loo in the normal manner, but horses for courses Wink

FJOs · 29/03/2019 09:10

I'd rather go in a bush (and pick it up with a dog poo bag obvs).

That is just ridiculous, I'd much rather a stranger who was at my house like a builder or a house buyer, if they needed to go for a poo, just went for one in my toilet if the alternative is pooing in a bush. Loos can be cleaned and windows can be opened.

He was telling me that roughly half of his customers refuse to let him use the lavatory
Wtf! People shouldn't get work done if they're going to treat the workman awfully. Show them where the loo, tea and coffee is and let them crack on, ridiculous to refuse them the use of the toilet!

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