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AIBU?

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AIBU to say no to house viewers using my toilet?!

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CantHoldIt · 28/03/2019 21:50

Ok so I’m currently selling my home and I’m astounded by the number of people who ask to use the toilet! I just don’t get it, yeah sure small kids I can understand they can’t always hold it. But surely if you are an adult in strangers home you can hold it and pop into the petrol station/ cafe before or after?! I’m not talking about a downstairs cloakroom, the upstairs family bathroom. I think maybe I wouldn’t mind so much if it downstairs and just the toilet.
I hate strangers using my loo... AIBU?! Please tell me I’m not alone

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Plink42 · 28/03/2019 22:28

@CantHoldIt I'm with you- ure not a public restroom - they are there to view ure house. I had sumone open fridge and freezer once. These were not built in and coming with us- What a cheek!

ozymandiusking · 28/03/2019 22:30

I would let them use the loo.
When we were viewing this house, I asked if the shower worked, the vendor said yes, and turned it on to demonstrate. It worked alright just not with hot water, only cold, as we discovered when we moved in!
Maybe something to bear in mind when viewing.

Eliza9917 · 28/03/2019 22:36

I used the toilet when viewing my house. It was empty but there was toilet roll in the bathroom so its not against etiquette to ask to go.

I've also asked strangers to use theirs. I bought a chair on eBay and drove from Thanet to Bromley (collected it on the way to London) and asked if I could use theirs.

I dont see what the big issue is, and most normal ppl in real life probably wouldn't either.

Bunnyfuller · 28/03/2019 22:37

I had a thread on this when my house was up for sale. Viewer didn’t even ask me, told us (she was using floor Plans!)

I called it ‘toilet-iquette’. 🙈

GabsAlot · 28/03/2019 22:39

theres nothing worse than finding out youre toilet is shit-but i would cleam up after myself if i physically used it

RabbityMcRabbit · 28/03/2019 22:39

I (and am sure others do too) have a chronic bladder condition which means that I can't hold it. So yes, YAB massively U.

LightDrizzle · 28/03/2019 22:40

I totally understand why you don’t like it but I’m someone who might very reluctantly have to ask. I’d have got to your house early because I hate being late, and hovered around the corner. Sometimes I just need a wee with urgency. I’d never leave a mess though.
When I used to rep, I knew every McDonalds and big Supermarket within an 80 mile radius, but as others have said, residential areas aren’t always blessed with that option.

Hillaria · 28/03/2019 22:43

Testing the water pressure? WTF?

However, I did occasionally ask if I could use the loo when we were house-hunting. Largely because we had travelled a long distance to look at houses and I needed a wee (another prolapse casualty). I did sometimes wee in the DC's potty while house hunting, but a loo was always preferable.

I was also perfectly happy for people to use ours when we were selling.

People are generally weird about loos. I have a builder at my house ATM. He always apologises profusely and asks permission to use the loo. It's very nice of him to be so apologetic - but what would his alternative be? I hope he doesn't think I'm a weirdo who might mind someone peeing and pooing in its designated receptacle.

XXcstatic · 28/03/2019 22:47

So Mumsnet. I've never heard of anyone in real life having a problem with someone using their toilet, but it's a common problem in Mumsnet land

This. Along with the MNetters who don't allow guests to use an upstairs bathroom and the ones who notice - and object - if someone has a crap. It's full-on Royston Vasey on here

Time40 · 28/03/2019 22:47

If I came to view your house and you refused to let me use the loo, I would think you were absolutely barking mad, seriously unpleasant, and mean. I wouldn't buy your house from you, either.

TapasForTwo · 28/03/2019 22:47

"But surely if you are an adult in strangers home you can hold it and pop into the petrol station/ cafe before or after?!"

Fine if your house is near such places, but not if it isn't.

YABVVVVU.

Anothertempusername · 28/03/2019 22:53

YABU, it's a toilet. It's for piss and shit. Don't be so precious when you are basically saying "give me hundreds of thousands of pounds but you can't have a piss, fuck off to the garage".

Pregnant whilst house hunting here too. If you wouldn't let me use the loo / made a cats bums face when I asked I'd stick two fingers up at you and leave.

cuppycakey · 28/03/2019 22:55

YABU

Surely everyone tests whether toilet flushes properly before making an offer on a house?

Ribbonsonabox · 28/03/2019 22:56

YABVU
Some people might have driven long distances and got stuck in traffic or whatever and not been able to stop in order to be on time... and you dont know what issues people may have with their bladder
Imo its cruel to say no to people, why would you?!

spugzbunny · 28/03/2019 22:57

You really don't know what medical problems people have. From very early in pregnancy I needed to wee a lot. I also have a friend who has interstitial cystitis and when she needs to go it's unbearable. It's just wee, let people use your loo!

TapasForTwo · 28/03/2019 22:57

Why is mumsnet a magnet for people who are obsessive about who uses their toilet(s)?

SheWoreBlueVelvet · 28/03/2019 22:58

Not everyone using the loo is going to buy the house though.

Everyone has to eat but I wouldn’t be making sandwiches for everyone. I think it’s intrusive.

Hillaria · 28/03/2019 22:59

And what's the big thing about flush-testing? If a loo flush doesn't work when you buy a house, it's hardly a big deal. Even I can fix a loo flush. Heaven help anyone who buys an old house with dry rot or any really big problem...

TapasForTwo · 28/03/2019 23:05

Hillaria many people would just like to buy a house where everything just works. It isn't an unreasonable expectation, unless you are buying a doer upper. The house we are in now is the first house we haven't had to spend £££ on repairing things that didn't work.

FlossieTeacakesFurCoat18 · 28/03/2019 23:07

@Gwenhwyfar that made me do a proper lol 😂

That would be one way to tackle it. "See, now I'm wiping up any stray droplets..."

Hillaria · 28/03/2019 23:10

Fair enough, Tapas. IME fixing a flush is either a quick DIY job (i.e. free), or a couple of quid for a spare part. But anyway. The fact remains that people are overly precious about their lavatories.

TapasForTwo · 28/03/2019 23:12

"The fact remains that people are overly precious about their lavatories.
Book"

Yes, I agree.

RabbityMcRabbit · 28/03/2019 23:16

@spugzbunny that's what I have x

AdoreTheBeach · 28/03/2019 23:18

Oh yes, I would test the toilet and run the shower - on second viewing. I’m of the opinion after an incident where we were seeing a house the third time just to confirm to ourselves to make an offer. I had to use the loo, I asked. We were upstairs where main loo was. I was then told to use downstairs loo because the main bathroom was not plumbed. That is to clarify, the sink, toilet and shower had no water supply. I kid you not. Everything in position, shower head on the wall, walls fully tiled etc . Could’ve been a nasty surprise for us had we bought the house.

NigellaAwesome · 28/03/2019 23:21

We went to view a house. Afterwards, standing in the garden, talking to the owner, my DH asks if she would mind if he popped to the loo. No problem, she said. He took an age, and I was starting to run out of small talk.

He eventually emerged, we left, and I asked him what had taken so long. He had taken a dump in the poor woman's house. Knowing my DH, she would probably have passed out when she went back inside.

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