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AIBU to say no to house viewers using my toilet?!

166 replies

CantHoldIt · 28/03/2019 21:50

Ok so I’m currently selling my home and I’m astounded by the number of people who ask to use the toilet! I just don’t get it, yeah sure small kids I can understand they can’t always hold it. But surely if you are an adult in strangers home you can hold it and pop into the petrol station/ cafe before or after?! I’m not talking about a downstairs cloakroom, the upstairs family bathroom. I think maybe I wouldn’t mind so much if it downstairs and just the toilet. Hmm
I hate strangers using my loo... AIBU?! Please tell me I’m not alone

OP posts:
anniehm · 28/03/2019 23:28

It's so they can check it's not constantly dripping etc

IncrediblySadToo · 28/03/2019 23:29

More barking than Battersea

justforareply · 28/03/2019 23:42

DD had a wee in a fake toilet in a show home we visited
They weren't best pleased 😆

Orangeballon · 28/03/2019 23:45

Sold five houses and no viewer ever asked to use the loo, I would expect them to have taken care of their bladder before arriving.

BlackPrism · 29/03/2019 00:25

Petrol stations don't have toilets and cafe toilets are only for customers? It's a loo it's for pissing

TrendyNorthLondonTeen · 29/03/2019 00:29

"Everyone has to eat but I wouldn’t be making sandwiches for everyone. I think it’s intrusive."

"Intrusive"? They're hardly prowling through your knicker drawer are they?

Piglet89 · 29/03/2019 00:31

God almighty. Only on MN.

KathyS901 · 29/03/2019 00:41

YABVVVU!!! What unkind and unnecessary behaviour! If someone refused to let me use their toilet out of pure pettiness I'd be SO shocked!

givemesteel · 29/03/2019 00:48

God almighty. Only on MN.

Totally. Do you not understand that most people line up 4 or 5 houses in a day and won't have allowed time for loo breaks in petrol stations (if there are any with a loo, in an area they might not know). So your precious house is not the only one they're seeing.

Plus if people are relocating they might have travelled an hour or two to come and view houses.

Would definitely not buy a house from someone who said I couldn't use the loo as it is so odd that I would definitely assume a serious plumbing problem.

That said, an adult doing a poo in a stranger's home is bloody rude and should have been saved for when got home or a public toilet found.

A quick wee is completely different to a smelly dump.

Piglet89 · 29/03/2019 01:00

So, that’s that, then. The OP is being unreasonable. Conclusion reached, methinks.

Annamich · 29/03/2019 01:19

You’re not wrong. They are strangers and they’re locking themselves in a room in your home. And using the toilet. A. I’m a germophobe so already I would be pissed and B. granted nobody keeps valuables in their bathroom but those are your personal affects. It’s almost a violation. If they want to check pressure, flushing etc then simply ask to test it?! Maybe offer the info next time? Like actually say the water pressure is good, flushing function etc. Also if they are dropping hundreds of thousands on a house are they seriously going to be put off by flushing which can be fixed? Ridiculous

strawberrisc · 29/03/2019 01:44

It’s a toilet. It’s there to be pissed in. My Dad had his prostate removed. He can’t wait to go to the “services”. Precious much?

StoppinBy · 29/03/2019 01:59

Why are you being precious about them using the bathroom?

Presumably you allow them to view it as you are selling the house?

No doubt they are just checking if it works.

nocoolnamesleft · 29/03/2019 02:10

I was viewing properties 5 hours from home. Hotel not handy to most of them. No public loo, and the couple of cafes definitely expected you to buy something to use the facilities. Viewing 22 properties in 3 days made that impossible for every wee break. I bought one of the properties.

PregnantSea · 29/03/2019 02:20

YABU.

I hate strangers using my toilet. I hate them in my house at all, even if I know they have good reason to be there. In fact I'm a bit of a miserable cow about it. I avoid throwing parties in case someone brings along a friend who I don't know. Boils my blood. Still, I digress - you need to let people use the toilet if they are viewing your house. They may have taken a long trip to get there and it looks very suspicious if you say no. It's as if you're hiding some sort of issue with the bathroom. It would turn me off the house a bit if I was the potential buyer.

OwlBeThere · 29/03/2019 02:31

The things people claim are ‘rude’ baffle me. It’s a toilet. What is rude about a Normal bodily function. Why would you want people to be uncomfortable and possibly risk an accident just because you’re precious? That’s rude in my opinion!

OwlBeThere · 29/03/2019 02:34

That said, an adult doing a poo in a stranger's home is bloody rude and should have been saved for when got home or a public toilet found.

Many people have health conditions that mean they can’t ‘save it for home’. I’d prefer people to shit in my toilet than on my living room floor or themselves in public, wouldn’t you? A bit of compassion and general human decency?!

Butteredghost · 29/03/2019 02:42

I wouldn't mind as a seller. But it seems a lot of people agree with you as I've been looking to buy recently and I've noticed agents often have little cardboard signs they place on the loo saying "thanks for not using the toilet".

Livingoncake · 29/03/2019 02:47

It’s up to you, OP, but try to remember that people will remember how they felt inside your home, and that feeling will contribute to their decision on whether or not to buy. If you’re going to make people feel unwelcome by begrudging them the use of your toilet, then that will probably make the decision for them.

isabellerossignol · 29/03/2019 02:58

This attitude is why people who have bladder or bowel illnesses often become prisoners in their own homes. Because grown adults think it's rude for someone to need a toilet. It's depressing to read.

Downunderduchess · 29/03/2019 03:16

I would hate that... I understand a call of nature for children, pregnant women etc. but anyone else I don't know...😐

ThriftyMcThrifty · 29/03/2019 03:32

I never ask to use a loo but I always flush it while checking out the bathroom, and run the taps to check it’s all working ok. If really interested I’d also want to turn the shower on and off. I always check the doors on any fitted cupboards to make sure they close smoothly as well, and kitchen cabinets. It’s part of checking out a house.

Jenasaurus · 29/03/2019 03:36

On a slimiest vein. When I was selling my house the agent showed a family round the house. The agent complained because there was a poo in the toilet! One of the kids had gone and not flushed! Made me giggle to see it written in a feedback report about a poo being spotted during a viewing!

KC225 · 29/03/2019 03:46

I am stunned at the way house viewers are regarded with such contempt by some people on this thread. The man was a wrong to mess up your loo but seriously I, he has to be on a minority.

I am a woman of a certain age - and always seem to need a wee. would be astounded if someone refused to let me use their loo. In fact I would have to leave - who can concentrate when they are desperate for a wee. It would also be a massive red flag that the home owner would be difficult and petty to deal with.

Boredgiraffes · 29/03/2019 03:49

No, you aren’t being unreasonable, they will learn move about the garden and neighbours by pooing on your front lawn!