Class Teacher handing out party invitations

[Penguincake]

I am quite willing to be told I am BU. My son has Autism and can occasionally push children when he is panicked. He has been doing a lot better recently and his teacher has said he is forming good relationships. However I understand that some children might be wary of him.

He has been in reception since September and has not been invited to a single party. I totally accept a parents choice in not having a child who pushes at their child's party.

What does hurt though is when there is a party, the class teacher or TA stands at the door at class time with a big wodge of invitations and gives them to each child as they leave. Yet again today they had a stack of invitations and my son was the only one walking out without one. He has started to question why he doesn't get a "card". It all feels so bloody thoughtless and cruel.

I think class teachers should refuse to hand out invites unless everyone is invited. Or maybe I should just suck it up and reconcile myself to the fact that for my son and I that this is the way of the world.

There have been so many times he has been the only one to not receive an invitation. The kids he says are his 'best friends', even, and he has cried not knowing why he couldn't go. There was one last weekend and the kids had been talking to it, and he cried, said he had forgotten and that it was all his fault. He was never invited.

This post has broken my heart. I'm so sorry. I'm sorry OP, I just wish sh1t like this didn't happen. I know that in the schools that my nieces and nephews attend, there is no involvement by the school with invitations whatsoever and rightly so.

This is all so mean. At our school there was a very clear rule that you invited the whole class or the invitations didn't come into school. We did have a name and address list (that parents had to give their permission to be on) so if it wasn't a whole class party we would just post or email the invitations.

YANBU and I hope you complain.

I think party invitations should be banned from schools completely. If anti bullying procedure is going to work at all, people need to act on it and provide an example for the children. I think as another poster said, they should do what is done in Australia. Give the parents an option to put themselves on an email list, pass out the list and let the parents handle it amongst themselves privately. If they don't want to be on the list, they know they won't get the invite. It's a more fair way and less painful/bullying way to deal with kids not being included.