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AIBU?

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To choose a restaurant I want to go to for Mothering Sunday?

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IdaIdes · 19/03/2019 16:22

I made a reservation for the 4 of us to go to a pub lunch for Mothering Sunday ages ago. DHs ex has asked if we can have the kids over that weekend as she's going somewhere which of course was a yes. But they won't eat a pub lunch. They will only eat out at pizza express or Nando's neither of which I'm terribly keen on going to for Mothering Sunday! DH thinks let them sulk at the table and we will feed them something else when we get home. So I guess my AIBU is that reasonable? Or should we just pack it in?

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limitedperiodonly · 21/03/2019 12:42

limited, these kids' 'preferences' verge on the dictatorial. They will ONLY eat at Pizza Express or Nando's???

That's not my interpretation DarlingNikita though it may be yours.

As some PP have sensibly said, if they don't like any of the food on offer at the restaurant, they can stay at home with a Pizza Express bought from Sainsbury's and OP can have a lovely time with her DH and seven year old and meet at home later.

At 12 and 16 I think they can probably be trusted for a few hours. I could, couldn't you? You sound a sensible sort. Their dad could even ask them to do a bit of housework as a Mothering Sunday treat.

DarlingNikita · 21/03/2019 12:53

limited, yes, I absolutely think they should be given the options 'Come and behave with grace or stay at home.' We agree on that.

I'm struggling, though, with how to interpret the OP saying 'They will only eat out at pizza express or Nando's' other than taking it to mean, er, they will only eat out at Pizza Express or Nando's...

limitedperiodonly · 21/03/2019 13:01

Well, they can just stay at home then, DarlingNikita. I don't see any profit in forcing two reluctant people to come along to what sounds like a nice occasion for the OP.

I'd happily eat at a carvery, as it appears, would you. But I accept that not everyone shares our sophisticated tastes

DarlingNikita · 21/03/2019 13:21

I don't see any profit in forcing two reluctant people to come along to what sounds like a nice occasion for the OP.

Quite.

I don't think I've ever had a carvery (if indeed that's what the OP is talking about). But if, at 16 –or 12 actually –I'd loftily announced that I would not eat at one, my parents' response would have been to shrug and leave me to it.

limitedperiodonly · 21/03/2019 14:11

Who's saying they're being lofty? When I was that age my mum said she'd bought me a ticket to The Mousetrap. She didn't ask me, she just thought it would be nice for me to go with her and my dad.

I couldn't think of anything worse. Now I'm 54, of course I would go, it wouldn't kill me and I might enjoy it. But at 14, I didn't, so my parents left me at home.

That's because my parents were normal people who loved me and respected me for my choices and didn't think I was a brat for not wanting to do what they wanted to do, unlike some of the twats on this thread.

By the by, I like the odd carvery now and then. If you've never tried one, DarlingNikita you should give it a whirl.

DarlingNikita · 21/03/2019 14:25

limited, I'm not sure why you're after picking out single words from what I say and nitpicking over them.

I said it because from everything the OP says about them sulking for England, putting food in the bin if it's not from their chosen place, loading the dishwasher being a bone of contention etc etc, gives the impression that they're spoilt and not well behaved.

limitedperiodonly · 21/03/2019 15:59

It not personal DarlingNikita. I just think you are representative of many of the people on this thread who think that 12 and 16 year olds should be paragons of virtue and have called them bratty, spoilt, entitled and the rest of it just because their mum says they want to eat pizza.

I think you're all a bit unpleasant and unrealistic. Try to take it as a compliment that I've chosen you to sum them up.

iklboo · 21/03/2019 16:14

OP said early on that the options are limited. From that, I take it that it's a carvery.

Not necessarily - a lot of places have set Mother's Day menus.

limitedperiodonly · 21/03/2019 17:16

When PP said there would probably be options, such as pizza, the OP said there wouldn't.

I guessed it would be a carvery but it could be anywhere with limited options. It doesn't matter. If what they like isn't on the menu, then they aren't going to be able to eat anything.

So the best option is for them to stay at home with a takeaway pizza and OP to have a nice time wherever she's eating and meet them at home later.

cuppycakey · 21/03/2019 17:21

I just wouldn't take them to be honest.

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