Urgent advice re phones abroad needed. Suspicions re DH

[Plastictattoo]

Hi
DH flew to European city today with work. Not too unusual to happen but some things have got me thinking.

1. He bought new trainers, coat and had hair cut yesterday.
2. He text me to say not to tag him on FB as some people at work were saying this trip was a jolly. (I rarely post on FB and probably tag him about 2/3 times a year for holiday photos so this seemed really odd request).
3. I missed a call from him so rang back from my mobile. His number is saved without the international dialling numbers in my phone and it rang as normal..ie not the abroad ring tone I was expecting. Does this mean that he isn't on mainland Europe?

I said I woukd call back. Is there a way of doing this that means I could establish where he is?
Hope that makes sense.
TIA

[ThatssomebadhatHarry]

The FB thing is odd. I assume he means you tagging him into an update rather than a photo such as ‘missing hubby’ etc.
This could be suspicious.
Tbh if you have these suspicions is there a deeper reason to be suspicious.

[stressedbeyond123]

the dialing code is not an issue, but speaking from experience (of ringing Europe about 4-5 times a week), you always get the "abroad" ring tone
x

[sackrifice]

I don’t understand why he asked you not to tag him. In what instance would he think you’d tag him? He’s out of the country with work.

Is it because one of them knows he is in Sheffield? And he doesn't want them to respond to your 'How's Berlin?' posts.

[Reallyevilmuffin]

Let's be honest - it's a work trip. You could call the office...

[llangennith]

AirBiscuit your comment

Are you normally this suspicious?

Is not remotely helpful to the OP but very goady. Play nicely.

[NerdyBird]

Yes it's the Facebook thing that's the giveaway. He's told work one thing and you another and possibly there is a third party who he may not want to see who is tagging him on there.
Hope you can sort it out.

[maddening]

The fb and the dial tone parts are odd. Def see if you can find out the hotel. If no reply from him at all call work and ask which hotel he is at as you have not heard from him and are worried

[someoneseatenmyapple]

Has he taken cash or is he likely to use a bank card? Do you have access to relevant internet banking/credit card info?

[MrsWombat]

Do you have his work email? Can you forward something to it? Like holiday dates etc. He might have his out of office on if he's taken annual leave.

[LizB62A]

You should still hear the international dial tone (unless there's some network issue preventing that from working) and that's regardless of whether you dial 07xxx xxxxxx, 00447xxx xxxxxx or +447xxx xxxxxx, or select a number out of your contacts list

[callmeadoctor]

I would definitely text him to find out his hotel details and flight times (I thought everybody did this?)

[theothermum]

My colleagues think every time we go on a business trip it is a jolly so I am mega aware not to tag myself anywhere on FB.
Nothing from what you mentioned seems particularly weird to me.

[NerdyBird]

Emailing to see what out of office he's put on is a good idea.

[SinkGirl]

I would totally tag him in a post about how much I miss him when he’s on business trips - if he’s being honest there’s literally no reason for that to annoy / upset him, colleagues thinking his work trip is a jolly has no bearing on you missing him does it? If he reacts badly I’d ask for a reason why.

If you’re struggling to reach him on his mobile I’d be asking for the name of his hotel so you can reach him in an emergency. Then call and ask to be put through to his room.

[GreatDuckCookery6211]

My colleagues think every time we go on a business trip it is a jolly so I am mega aware not to tag myself anywhere on FB

That’s totally different though, he told the OP not to tag him in anything, she’s not gone with him.

[Boulezvous]

It sounds like you really don't trust him.

[ThatssomebadhatHarry]

Theothermum

This is true but he has asked that op doesn’t tag him in posts. He didn’t say I won’t be putting any posts about the trips as people will assume I am on a jolly.

[ApproachWithWine]

He's not on a work trip and his colleagues think he's away with you. Tagging him asking how his work trip was going would raise a lot of questions.

[scaredofthecity]

I phone family in Europe with a UK phone both ends regularly. There usually is a different dialling tone but not always.

Sometimes its the usual UK one, it's caught me out before but definitely can happen. (In that I've had no idea they weren't just down the road!)

I hope you get the answer you want.

[ahtellthee]

You won't need to change his number when calling him but you should get a different ring tone when someone is abroad.

Can you video call him tonight with the kids to say goodnight? Get the kids to ask where he is? (WhatsApp or FaceTime?)

[PrawnOfCreation]

He's doing that pre-emptive lie thing that teens do.

"Mum, can I stay at Dave's"
"Yes"
"Just don't call and ask if I'm there, as we play a game with Dave's Dad where he pretends he can't see us even when we're right there. Lolz"

[GreenTulips]

FaceTime him

Ask to see hotel pic

Ask what flight he’s back on

[Motoko]

He's not on a work trip and his colleagues think he's away with you. Tagging him asking how his work trip was going would raise a lot of questions.

^This.

OP why don't you ring his work and ask what hotel he's staying at?

[NarcissistMum]

Ring his work and say you couldn't get hold of him, do they have a hotel name. If it's all legit he should have no problem with that!

[baubled]

I would ask him what time his flight is tomorrow and have a look on airport website and check there is one at that time