Urgent advice re phones abroad needed. Suspicions re DH

[Plastictattoo]

Hi
DH flew to European city today with work. Not too unusual to happen but some things have got me thinking.

1. He bought new trainers, coat and had hair cut yesterday.
2. He text me to say not to tag him on FB as some people at work were saying this trip was a jolly. (I rarely post on FB and probably tag him about 2/3 times a year for holiday photos so this seemed really odd request).
3. I missed a call from him so rang back from my mobile. His number is saved without the international dialling numbers in my phone and it rang as normal..ie not the abroad ring tone I was expecting. Does this mean that he isn't on mainland Europe?

I said I woukd call back. Is there a way of doing this that means I could establish where he is? Hope that makes sense. TIA

Oh OP, I don’t blame you for being suspicious. I would be too.

Maybe ask him to bring you back a postcard of wherever he is. It won’t be hard for him to manage that if he’s where he says he is.

If he’s asked to bring something back from his location - he’ll “forget” it’s not worth playing games

OP it seems you have your reasons for being suspicious. Just because it does seem likely he is where he says he is doesn’t mean it’s actually for work that he is there. I hope not but he could be there with OW? The Facebook thing is quite odd.

Nothing on this thread would particularly make me think he is having an affair but if there is more to this, I would be watchful if I were you.

From the start my feelings were that u need to trust your instincts. We don’t do this enough. It’s not the big things, it’s the little things that matter, the way something was said etc, that cannot come across on the internet. I hope I’m wrong! Good luck xxx

will try to get hold of his phone for a snoop at weekend..

Really OP? @Plastictattoo

You've got serious problems in your relationship if you think this is ok.

Of course it could be the opposite to most people’s suspicions....

It could be there is a woman at work trying to get closer to him. Maybe she suggested going on the work trip too & he’s told her that you’re going with him to put her off.

It’s only the Facebook thing that is odd, and I think you should ask him about it in a casual way when he gets back.

The only thing I can think of re the FB thing is that he’s told work he’s away with his wife. If she tags him in a “ we’re all missing you “ type thing he would be busted.

But I’m confused to why he’d risk telling the OP not to tag him, he’d be more worried about her finding out something was going on than work surely.

Are you ok OP? How’s he getting back from the airport later?

Maybe the text about FB tagging wasn't intended for you, OP.

Is that possible?

Any one of these things are easily explained.

Confusion over time
Not going out so can’t take a photo
Fb comment

But the more of these ‘small things’
That can easily be explained mount up, the odder I’d find it.

Has he proved to be untrustworthy before?

He said his flight out was delayed and after searching online, that was true. This has reassured me.

If I were him, and you'd been asking some probing questions, the first thing I would have done is exactly the same searches, making sure I knew when 'my flight times' were so that I could have the answers off pat, plus nice details about delays, flight numbers etc.

I would absolutely not take that as reassurance. Especially when, when he was caught on the hop, he apparently didn't even know what time it was even though his phone will have automatically updated it.

I don't think any of these things are especially suspicious, but it depends what else is going on. It sounds like maybe you were already a bit suspicious and this has heightened it? Don't ignore your gut.

I was all ‘no, it’s fine’ til he didn’t know what time it was.
I hope it’s nothing but if you feel suspicious then there’s probably something to be suspicious of. Sorry to be a doom monger.

A bit extreme but could you go and meet him at the airport. A surprise for him, take the kids and arrange a meal out once he’s touched down. Just don’t tell him until you get to the airport.

He’ll feel all loved up and it’ll be a nice surprise if it’s all above board. Not so much if he’s not been entirely truthful

It sounds like he goes away a lot, is there anything particular about this time that's made you feel more suspicious?

hiow can u not know what the time is where u are-thats just odd

I’m sorry, but a plane isn’t like a train, nobody just ‘catches an earlier one’

I’m sorry, but a plane isn’t like a train, nobody just ‘catches an earlier one'

yes, I was wondering that too!

It is possible to ask to be rebooked on an earlier flight (often for additional costs). DH has done it more than once.

DH travels with work a lot. We live in an european country and often one big city to the other. Some airline have commuter planes so you just have a ticket and get the next plane when you've finished your meeting. So it's very much like a train.

We also often pop between the UK and France and Spain and it's quite easy to forget the +1/-1 time difference.

That said, your DH is behaving very suspiciously.

So who's going to pay for his fare if he decides to get a different flight? His company? I doubt it!

I think there are red flags all over this, OP.

DH's company always get open tickets/Puente Aéreo, so it is possible.

I’m sorry, but a plane isn’t like a train, nobody just ‘catches an earlier one

It’s not uncommon to move up your flight on “commuter routes” with a regular service throughout the day.

My son lives in Spain and i always get the international dial tone to his English mobile phone