Ridiculous argument with DH who is BU?

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This may be the epitomy of ridiculous...

I sleep with my feet sticking out of the quilt. DH thinks this is ridiculous. It doesn’t effect him at all. They go out the side and mind their own business.

Jokingly he suggested that if someone were to come into the bedroom at night they would drag me out the bed by my feet

I suggested that surely if they wanted to drag me out the bed by my feet they could just slip their hands under the quilt anyway - so no difference?

Anyway last night around 2am DH decided to prove his point and drag me by the feet out the bed. He was laughing. I was not. I’m 27 weeks pregnant and I need my sleep!

I hit the roof, he said it was a joke and I said it was a mean thing to do, especially as I hadn’t slept well the night before. He said I would normally find it funny (maybe) and that he didn’t understand the difference between now and before I was pregnant.

I sent him to the spare room.

So who was being a twat unreasonable?

Wow. What a cunt.

I don’t even know where to start.

When you say he dragged you, do you mean he actually pulled you out of bed onto the floor?

This is too much WTF for a Monday morning.

He was BVU.
You never wake anyone who is sleeping. Especially not someone who is pregnant.

Wow, he was being U! How does where you like your feet (in or out) affect him?!

Has he apologised?

What the actual fuck?

Yeah not funny at all; I’d be fuming

You did say that you would normally find it funny so I don’t know how he’s supposed to know you wouldn’t this time? He’s not a mind reader. I NEVER find practical jokes funny though so my dog would never even try!

That isn't funny. At all.

Seriously?

He's a class A twunt.

Dh! The dog tries this shit all the time

Prick.

Wow! He woke you in the middle of the night. You'd had a bad nights sleep on Saturday. You're 27 weeks pregnant.
He's an absolute arse. It wasn't funny. It's caused a row. It's broken your precious sleep.
He's an absolute arse.

Fuckynel 😂😂😂😂😂

This was out of order yep. But if you would usually find it funny I suppose he didn't mean it maliciously.

I’d likely have broken his fucking nose by kicking him in the face, if he’d tried to drag me out of bed at 2am!!

Is he for fucking real? You're pregnant and he is pulling you out the bed by your feet to prove his ridiculous point? How many people does he know who have had a night time intruder and have been pulled out of fucking bed by their feet?! He needs to grow up.

I am actually furious on your behalf 😠

It was twattish but I can see how he might have thought it funny (though it was never going to be funny to you at that hour of the morning and I certainly wouldn't expect it to be done to someone pregnant) - I often think about someone grabbing me by the ankles when I do that. He slept in the spare room so why not just calmly reiterate your point about it being unreasonable at that hour of the day and when pregnant and in need of sleep, and then drop it. He's hardly likely to do it again now and it's not worth holding a grudge over. And he probably does feel sorry only his pride won't let him admit it while you're still grumpy - I bet you'll get an honest apology once it's all calmed down.

He's a dick but I would have to get revenge. He obviously has a thing about feet outside the covers which I'd take the piss mercilessly because what he did is so out of order, who the fuck wakes a sleeping pregnant woman. What else freaks him out?

Alternatively he'd be banished to the spare room until he gets over this ridiculous feet thing.

Well i'd be bloody furious, but then i would never find being woken up funny.
But, if you would normally have found it funny, I suppose your DH wasn't to know that the rules have changed. Perhaps you just need to explain to him, how you need your sleep, now you are pregnant. (I am assuming he didn't actually pull you out of bed onto the floor, obviously that would be very dangerous for you and the baby and if he did that, then he's just a twat).

It was a joke but was quite thoughtless considering your condition and tiredness. Maybe you'll laugh about together one day.

I need to know whether he ‘just’ tugged at your legs a bit (still absolutely dickish) or actually pulled you off the bed. Because the latter is a giant leap past dickishness and into abuse.

I think everyone in this scenario is being unreasonable.

Is he 12? Does he not realise that if you'd landed badly he could have severely hurt you &/or the baby?

He should be nurturing you & caring for you at this precious time, not roughing you up. At best he's a twat, at worst he's an abuser. Only you can determine which end of that scale he sits.

He’d be under the effing patio by now if he were mine.

Sorry OP but I find it funny. It depends on the kind of relationship you have I guess. Or perhaps he should have known that an exhausted pregnant partner isn't someone to be messed with. Me and OH do this kind of things all the time, but we're good at getting a sense of how the other is feeling.

He said I would normally find it funny (maybe) and that he didn’t understand the difference between now and before I was pregnant.

Is he usually thus thick or unsympathetic? My DH knew that I found it harder to sleep when I was pregnant - uncomfortable due to huge bump, baby kicking, indigestion, needing to get up for a wee.

Also did he drag you out and let you fall to the floor?