To feel rage at husband saying ‘that’s a lot of calories’

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Husband asked if I wanted lunch picking up. Yes thanks, I’ll have a sandwich and some crisps and a drink!

He replies with - that’s a lot of calories, sure you just don’t want the sandwich and drink?

Even if I wasn’t 37 weeks pregnant, this would irritate me! As it stands, I am incandescent with fiery pregnancy rage!!! Especially as I have been worried that my weight gain hasn’t been so great (had scans for small bump, 9kg so far), even if I was a huge pregnant whale, I don’t think this would even be appropriate. He’s all sorry now of course.

Grrrrrr so ragey! So ragey I joined mumsnet to post this. This rant helps. Can you help too? Rage! Rage!

If someone said that to me, they’d going in my sandwich and I’m not even pregnant!

Rage away, and point out to him that until he’s grown a human being he has no place commenting on your calorie intake

Yeah that's annoying
Has he always thought it was fine to comment on what you eat?

Oh my goodness what was he thinking? It's a sandwich and a bag if crisps ffs. Rage away

Does he always comment on what you eat? How rude.

Sandwich, crisps and a drink is a standard lunchtime deal!

You've given me the rage now too. Or maybe I'm just hangry.

It's not a helpful thing to say.

You might be better off with a huge piece of fish and veg however and no bread and no crisps and no drink other than tap water.

Is it a lot of calories? sounds utterly unremarkable. What’s he having for lunch?

Yes, that is extremely annoying.

God, that's hugely judgemental, has he always been controlling with your food intake?

Would she @Xenia? Why?

What an asshole. If DH said that to me, I'd eat him aswell

You might be better off with a huge piece of fish and veg however and no bread and no crisps and no drink other than tap water.

Um.... what?

Did you mistake this for a diet thread?

Just for that I would tell him to get me a big bar of calorie-laden chocolate as well.

Why would she be better with fish and veg ffs she's pregnant she needs calories and even if she wasn't she wasn't asking for diet advice

OP I suggest you use that line on him every time he wants to drink or eat anything!!

Shop-bought sarnies have a lot of calories in them though.

I do admit, it’s a junky kind of meal, this is true! I don’t want fish and vegetables! Just gimme the crisps and sandwich.

He’s phoned now to check which crisps and sandwich I want, sounds quite sheepish.

Hmm yes he have form for commenting on what I eat when it comes to chocolate/crisps/junk. He thinks it is helpful. I admit in the past, it can be, like when I myself claim I am eating unhealthily and I’ll say, ahh yeah best not eat that, you’re right. I’m confident with my figure but I wonder if I wasn’t.

Thank you for the replies! I feel better now!

I'd have said, all that salt can't be doing you or the baby much good because it probably isn't but calories!!! NO.

I lost weight at this stage, my tummy was squashed up so snacky type food was the only thing I fancied. Was always lighter post pregnancy than pre. Is he panicking that you will be big afterwards?

He’s phoned now to check which crisps and sandwich I want, sounds quite sheepish.

All of them...tell him you want all of the crisps and all of the sandwiches!

OPs measuring small for dates. She really doesn’t need to be restricting calories or carbs.

I suggest you whenever he wants to eat anything, you should repeat this line on him

And I agree with the person who says ‘she’s not asking for dietary advice’, I think that’s what especially annoyed me!

I should have asked for chocolate too. 1kg bar

He's not "helpful"

he's judgemental, rude and needs to keep his nosey beak out of what you eat or drink.
Especially when you are carrying his child and need chocolate, not calorie-counting

No pregnant woman should be thinking of a diet, unless her doctor recommends it for medical reaons, e.g. GD.

Hope he brings you a chocolate bar, OP :))

Ring him back and tell him to bring you a cream cake.

And a bar of chocolate.