To ask opinions on sex while pregnant with a man who's not the dad

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What are people's opinions on having sex with someone you have met at 25weeks pregnant after being single for 3 months after splitting up from baby's dad?

Have had a friend ask my opinion on wether I think this is acceptable. I was a bit surprised by her asking and didn't really know what to say. I ended up saying it's her life and her body and if she is comfortable then it's her choice but to make sure she uses a condom as she hasn't known this guy long. She responded that she doesn't know if she should because it feels wrong while she has her baby inside her still, I said that if she is unsure then not to pressure herself.

I've never really thought about it tbh and usually I'm just of the opinion what people do isn't any of my business, but reflecting on it now I don't think I personally would if i was her, I can't put my finger on why exactly but then I've never been in her position! What do others think? Would you? Wouldn't you? Have you?

I think it's grubby and grim and nasty.

You did ask...........

I do try to be open minded and no judgemental about what people do in private as consenting adults. But my gut reaction to this is that it’s gross. The man sounds like he has a bit of a fetish, otherwise I can’t imagine why he’d want to do it.

I didn’t feel very much myself when pregnant. I wouldn’t have felt comfortable having sex with a new partner at all.
And I would worry about STIs desire the condoms. Just because if I’m avoiding pate and soft cheese and lemsip I would feel I should avoid unknown body fluids too.

Ew. The pregnant wee smell should be enough to put most people off! Was that just me?? 😂

I met my ex when she was pregnant, we were together for about 8 years and had another child together.

If it works for them, that's all that's important.

I find it icky too.

Sorry I find it disgusting

My sex drive has totally depleted since being pregnant so I can't imagine having sex with someone other than the father.

Yeah I think it's pretty repulsive on his part and hers to be honest - obviously don't know the nature of the break up with the father but she's obviously not hung about!

Wow people are really not prepared to examine their misogyny are they

it's very 'Shameless'

Yep. I’d think slapper tbf.

No Symphony they really aren't!

Wow people are really not prepared to examine their misogyny are they

Indeed .

Tbh honest I would take a dim view of a man that slept with a women of 25 weeks pregnant to someone else.

How very different from the home life of our own dear Queen.

Why all the commenting? It's not got anything to do with anyone but the man & woman involved. They aren't doing anything illegal, the father of the child doesn't want to know, just because someone else wants to be with the mother, who are we to comment?

Some of you need to listen to yourselves. You do not come across well at all. Absolutely entrenched in misogyny, it’s really sad

The OP is dubiously quiet

Why all the commenting

Erm because the OP posted on a chat forum.

I would 100% judge a man who was sleeping with another woman while his ex was pregnant.

No way I would date a guy with a pregnant ex.

I agree with the people who say they'd be just as creeped out by the idea of sex with a man whose ex was currently pregnant.

So long as condoms are being used, I don’t much care.

I can't imagine doing it myself. I have the same instinctive reaction as others have that it's just wrong, same gut reaction to incest etc. So it must be an animalistic reaction? Sex is for procreation and that's already happened so there's no 'need' for a new mate? < obviously we don't only have sex for procreation but I think that's where the instinct is coming from maybe?

I don't find it odd, he clearly knows she's pregnant....

Unless, as my husband used to always say when I was naked with a bump "There's a market for that" conversation was in jest before anyone jumps on

Totally fine as long they use protection.