But I won't say that the parent who was (is?) on here who had absolute evidence of developmental regression and subsequent ASD dx within days of the MMR vaccination was 'wrong' to link them in her specific case - how could I be so arrogant??
I feel very well placed to comment here, since my sons both have ASD, and one contracted a vaccine preventable illness as a baby that nearly killed him.
My twins both had a regression - one was major and literally overnight, the other was more gradual and took time to notice.
They were six and eight months after their 12 month vaccinations, approximately. If the overnight regression happened shortly after the vaccination I can understand why you would link the two - that doesn’t mean they are linked, however. If a child with ASD regresses this usually happens in the 12-20 month range so for many children this would happen not long after mmr - this is also seen in children who are not vaccinated. The biggest predictor of a child having ASD is not having vaccinations, but having an older sibling with ASD.
One of my twins almost died at birth. He was then diagnosed with a very rare illness that meant two months in nicu. Just before discharge he contracted pertussis, he came home a few days before his jabs already showing mild symptoms and within a week was admitted to HDU. Had the symptoms appeared a few days later some would blame it on their 8 week jabs, but he was already ill by then. I watched him fight for every breath for two weeks and watched him have coughing fits that literally lasted an hour. They essentially had to starve him so his lungs had room to work. He came home at 11 weeks old and 5lb.
Frankly, fuck those people who suggest that my son would have been better off dying from pertussis at two months old than living with ASD. Yes, he’s quite severely affected, both of them are non verbal and struggle with many things, but they are happy and affectionate and always smiling - their quality of life at this stage is great. I don’t know what the future holds, probably lots of very difficult things which scares me witless, but I am so grateful they are alive because on multiple occasions it’s been very possible he could have died. He has four different diagnoses, and he is bloody brilliant. Some of the dehumanising comments here make me sick.