To think being slim should be normal for most people.

[DevilishDebbie]

By slim i mean sizes 8 to 12.

Obviously you get a minority who are not in this range naturally but for 80% of people this size should be natural, say they eat a reasonable diet of between 2000-3000 calories.

Im so sick of people at work making out i am abnormally thin for being a size 10. I watch what I eat but dont deprive myself. The same people making me out to be lucky to be slim eat fried chicken or pizza for lunch and seem to be able to demolish a whole pack of biscuits at 3 o clock.

Aibu to think that the normal human man/woman should be a size 8-12 and that to attain or maintain this does not require super human discipline or strength.

Wendy and Dorset sorry I haven’t read the full thread, just the OPs comments and a few she referred to.

I really don’t think anyone should be bullied for size, whether they are very slim or very fat. I just think it is easy to think people are lazy when there are often other aspects at play.

You are right in that it should be equally as unacceptable to bully someone for being underweight as well as overweight.

On principle op you are right. But you'll always get flamed here for daring to say people are unhealthy and fat.

I am overweight for my height a bit. Got no excuse, not ill or anything, I just reduced my exercise without decreasing the food intake. And most of that is rubbish. I am trying to reduce, but it's not going anywhere fast. Being lazy doesn't help, but I do exercise every day, just need to do more.

People have lost sight of what healthy is, even if they won't admit it. It's like in the film wall-e, everyone becomes huge and floats around in chairs, it's totally normal to them. That seems insane for us, and yet we are heading in that direction. We are getting bigger, and sitting down a lot more. Less physical jobs, more sitting behind desks.

Saw an article recently about a girl who does horse riding, owns her own horse and had for years, and hadn't noticed her weight creeping up and up, until her horse went lame. Her vet pointed out she was actually too heavy for the horse, which had injured the horse. She wasn't even that heavy, but the horse couldn't handle it. She lost weight to keep riding and avoid damaging the horse further.

Too many people use excuses for why they can't lose weight. My aunt is a great example of that. Bad back, bad knees, bad hips etc. Wouldn't have happened if she hadn't deliberately gained weight to go on sickness benefits for the past couple of decades (sadly I am not even joking). And all her issues could be solved by walking each day and gradually increasing it. But then she would have to work again so she won't. A lot of issues can be helped with exercise and a lot can't.

But there's no need to shame either side for being thin or fat. Shaming people for being thin is really just as petty and sad as shaming people for being fat. We fight our own battles in our bodies, leave each other to it.

I agree squeekums

I no longer smoke and barely drink (since early menopause at 43 ) but am thin, very thin but in normal BMI, like my daughter.

My only problem is ANY weight goes round my middle!

Thin people can definitely be unhealthy! I used to smoke, drink and not eat properly! But have never, ever eaten junk, ever.

nd improved mental health
So they say..it makes me fucking miserable.

its funny how we can start post on the "badness" of being overweight.or talk about it being too common now or accepted.
but why aren't we starting on the prevalence people get eating disorders now.being shamed to be thinner and thinnr.the pressures and guilt surrounding food and size.
how anorexia is a killer.
nope because its far more wanted and acceptable to get thinner.guiltier.shaming more woman into how massive and fat and greedy they are.
when I see far more people eating less and feeling they should be smaller and worrying every day abuot how much food they are having,obsessed with calries the gym and fitbit.cutting corner to diet and starting ridiculous starvation diets.

Look at these children in the 30's. Admittedly some were probably impoverished and underfed. But all those ribs! You'd never see that now.

Are you Alan Partridge?

zod thanks

Yoursarcasm I do understand that but honestly after the first few weeks that goes. I hated going to the gym to start with and had to force myself to go but now I genuinely hate it if I miss it as I know how great I feel afterwards. Think exercise releases endorphins or something?

Kateandme. Don’t think anyone on here is saying that and nobody underestimates how terrible anorexia and other ED’s are but the fact remains that there are more people suffering with obesity in the UK which is probably why it’s talked about more.

I see we lost the OP some hours ago; but being so superior must be exhausting, no wonder she's so amazingly slim despite 2,000+ calories a day.

Obesity can also be the result of an eating disorder, though. I think there’s a temptation to view binge eating disorder as less serious than anorexia (yes, i know, anorexia is the deadliest mental illness etc) for a lot of reasons, but in terms of the suffering caused to the individual, i’ve known people who have had both disorders and have reported that the BED was a far worse ordeal.

Think exercise releases endorphins or something?

Sweat. It releases sweat.

Dorsetdays I get that. its my 'issues'. I really shouldn't come on these threads when I see such titals...but I always will. :(

Yoursarcasm. well, yes and that!

Kateandme. Sorry to hear that. I hope things improve for you.

kateandme

My issue is, my DD (10) is developing problems with food as she is bullied and called 'a stick' (someone on here said a 'twiglet')

The point is, she is perfectly healthy. Even started periods at 10, she has very good nutrition, but people bully her for being too thin. She is not, she is a normal weight. But looks odd compared to classmates (particularly boys)

It really bothers her.

I honestly don't know what to do. I buy her doughnuts for a 'treat' on Friday night. That' not right though is it. It is neither a treat and I am trying to make her put on weight and it is not healthy and she is perfect as she is.

No ready meals here, it is Spain and very healthy (apart from chicken nuggets etc which I have never bought as DD wouldn't eat)

OP, your user name is very apt. When I read something like your thread title, I'm reminded of this expression: "Should" is a word best applied only to oneself".

There are many reasons why people become overweight, and once somebody is overweight it is often hard to get back to being slim. I'm a bit overweight and am taking steps to lose weight gradually, but it does get harder as the years go by.

In the scheme of things, being overweight is very much a first world problem, as food is plentiful and cheap in the UK, so it's not surprising that people are getting heavier, in general. The issue is that there seem to be rising numbers of people who are morbidly obese, and that causes many health and mobility problems. I'm in favour of those people getting bariatric surgery on the NHS if surgeons deem them to be good candidates for it - there was a documentary about this subject recently, where surgeons supported that idea. I wish everyone luck in achieving/maintaining a healthy weight for their frame size. I know it's not easy, but don't let any goady comments undermine your efforts.

People say really unkind things to me about my weight in real life, I’m a size 6 after a really stressful year and I’ve been called anorexic, told that I don’t look like I eat etc by 3/4 people in the last few weeks. I can see why OP might feel annoyed and come online to vent if she has experienced similar. It isn’t enjoyable being tiny either.

(someone on here said a 'twiglet')- nonsense. You read it wrong. Purposely I'd imagine.

And you failed to mention all the horrible things you said about those boys and their mothers.

No-one is saying you're a bad mother either Wendy so I don't know why you keep saying that either. Your daughters body will change as she grows.

Your posts tonight have been a little erratic tbh. I'm sure it's the nature of the post has upset you a bit but remember you're the mother of a slim child. Some posters here are not. And your comments will probably have been taken offensively too.

fearful I had the same, I had a supremely stressful year and I think, like you, I don't eat when stressed.

Not ONE person kept their opinion to themselves.

I put on a tiny bit of weight and comments all round.

I am still 5'9'' and 9.5 stone. But several people asked if I was pregnant when I had got better!

People think it's fine to comment on thinness, alcohol or smoking. But Being fat... no bloody way!

The only time I have commented on someone's.weight and they were skinny was when despite being skinny/normal/whatever you want to call it they insisted they needed to go on a diet. Not a healthy lifestyle change,but normally crash diet/eat only rice and spinach type things. That's from women that were a size 8,10 at most. And I commented because I found it worrying and wondered if the weight loss was prompted by something else.

Other than that it's "you look great/lovely/amazing/hot(if really good friends 😬)" .

Samind let's agree to disagree

I certainly don't mean to be erratic. My autocorrect doesn't help. You should see my wassaps!

It has been stressful recently, you are probably right!

Apologies for any offending comments to you.

(I am sure someone said Twiglet though!)

No the poster said the boys called her a twiglet. But no more discussion about it as it is dead in the water. And agreed, the war is over!!!