AIBU.... Friend's sick daughter

[ViolaD77]

Ugh where do I start?
An old friend of mine who I see every now and then has a daughter of 5 who has cystic fibrosis. I have no kids, but understand the severity of this condition, the stress, the upset and devastation my friend is going through. So much so I've always tried to treat her little girl, Xmas, birthday, Easter, Halloween etc and always take a gift when I see her as she is special. However the past year its now expected and on one occasion I hadn't had a chance to go to the shops to get anything plus being it was day time I thought her DD would be at school so it wouldn't matter. When I got there, little girl was there,i said sorry I didn't have time to go shop.. Little girl has hissyfit, screaming and asks why did I bother coming? 😕 I sorta expected my friend to tell her its a tad rude but didn't, instead she said 'well, you usually buy her stuff....' I didn't know what to say so I said nothing! My friend constantly goes on about her heartache over DD and how she wants to make every day special for her etc etc and moans about people who don't bother so regardless of that one occasion last summer I carried on with the generosity. I also noticed if we go out there's lots of hints like 'oh DD would love that, I wish I had the money'... Yes I got sucked in a few times but what does it matter if this little girl doesnt have long to live?!
Anyway the past year I have noticed after buying some pretty cool gifts, designer clothing, trainers, scooters, barbie houses, 4ft pony etc etc, that her little girl never uses them, never has them in her room (friend has small house, can't really hide them) or wears anything I've bought her. I don't expect at all for these to be brought out just for my convenience to make me feel they were appreciated but literally... Everything I've ever got her, nowhere to be seen.
Well, a few months ago I started using my fb again and saw my friend had been tagged in lots of posts from other mums thanking her for their child's birthday and Xmas gifts over a number of months I wasn't on fb. Guess what are in the photos? Yes, my gifts! I also had a selling group come up on my feed and she's on there, selling other stuff I bought her.
I was hurt yes but not because I've bought them but more the fact my friend pleads poverty at times and the whole 'we have to make DDs time special because of illness' and hints at me what little girl woukd like for birthday /Xmas. If that's her way of thinking why is she giving away this stuff?!
I've never told her I knew but Xmas just gone I decided, as money was tight, I'd just get basics, a big colouring book of her fave TV characters, fave chocolates and a unicorn bag for school. Friend msged me Xmas day to say thanks but added 'there were no colouring pencils with it for her to use'. Cut this long story short friend hasn't bothered with me since and even though I only saw her every now and then I just now she's annoyed at my cheap presents following her text!
It's little girl's Bday again soon.. Do I bother?! I just feel like I've been mugged off a bit. AIBU?

OP,
Drop her like a hot rock. Good riddance.

If there was a Cheeky F'er hall of fame, your "friend" should be in it.

Who knows if her dd is even sick?

Please don't have a second thought about dropping her. Her dd, sick or not, is being brought up poorly, and illness is not an excuse to be rude, grasping or impolite.

Dumb comment..Shes a kid
Mother to blame here

CF big time 'friend' and she is teaching her growing-into-a-CF-daughter terrible manners - the girl may have a medical condition (loads of people, including children, do) but that is no excuse for rudeness, an in-built sense of entitlement, and using emotional blackmail to get you (or anyone else) to part with cash or gifts. Damn nerve of her - I'd be tempted to advise you to drop the pair of them and focus on real friends not this pair of users. Arrogant, outrageous, brass-neck CF'ers (and probably richer ones after selling your generous gifts so don't fall for the 'poor me, poor kid crap - poverty stricken my arse!)

Thanks all, I feel alot better about not keeping this generosity going. I might send a card in the post with £10 or if things are really tight, a dedicated status on Facebook (that'd go down well Lol!) and yes, her dd definitely has Cfyb and is hospitalised about twice a year for a week at a time.

Fairylightsandwine thank you
No one seems to know why it wasn't picked up on his heel prick, he's an anomaly! He actually had two done as they thought his first card had been lost in the Christmas Post so did another one, only for them both to turn up and be tested and both of them gave results in the normal range so it wasn't even like a mistake was made during the actual testing. We are so lucky that he was fairly well until last winter and of course now we know that we know the underlying reason his team have been absolutely amazing! He's doing brilliantly now thank you

ViolaD77 That's a good idea, you sound like a lovely friend even after all they've put you through

Good thinking OP and don't let her guilt trip you back to your old - very generous - ways.

I would be tempted to buy them back off her on facebook under a pseudonym and then watch her face as you relay where and who to send them to or say oh so and so store recalled the 4ft pony so I’ll take it back would hate so and so to be injured etc... or you can rise above it and buy the occasional personalised gift from now on but not every visit otherwise it stops being appreciated and starts to become expected .. so sad you’ve been exploited like this - I’d be heartbroken x

The mum is a CF. Spend time with the child instead of giving her presents, although once the presents dry up I doubt they will want your time either, sadly.

This woman is using her daughter to gain financially by preying on peoples' emotions in regards to the illness. That is beyond reprehensible. I'd cut this vile creature and her spoilt brat out of my life immediately.

I know several people with life limiting illnesses, including a person with CF who is celebrating her 42nd birthday today. None of them have ever been treated differently or as 'special' by their families. That never does anyone any good.

The lady with CF has actually outlived our mutual friend who died of a sudden illness at the age of 39, so there's no guarantee that seemingly/previously healthy people will live to a ripe old age either.

I will probably sound horrid saying this but I suppose there is a false sense of self entitlement she has because her daughter is ill. I was probably seen as an opportunity but we've known each since we were 2, i thought maybe we were actually friends but obviously not 🤷🏽‍♀️